I (18M) turn 19 in May and I feel like there’s so much I need to accomplish. I’m pursuing a major I have no interest in, I lack discipline, I’m relying on my parents financially since it’s my first semester, I’ve been staying inside all day doom scrolling/completing HW, and overall I’ve just been in a funk. Next year my classes will be even harder and I just know it will kill me if I do it on my own.
I broke up with my ex in 2024 (after 1.5 years) and have had trouble adjusting to singleness. Everyday I feel so alone especially after moving into a new town for school. I’ve been resorting to porn and fantasy to fill in that hole, but it just keeps getting bigger.
I just haven’t become a man yet. I can barely provide for myself, I cannot lead, and I am not fully secure. The only positives I could pinpoint is the fact that I go to the gym, go to class, and do my HW. Aside from that, I feel like I am living a lonely and miserable life. I’m actively trying to fix my situation by picking up new hobbies, but I just feel like time is running out. Any kind of help would be great. Much love
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imo being terrified is a good thing, cause later on when all the hard work you’ve done pays off, you can look back and think ‘man I was worried for nothing’.
I relate to your experience quite a lot. I’m 35, non-binary, queer, immigrant who has moved a lot, and often find myself feeling lost.
Over time I have started to see this feeling as moments that force clarification in life because they have done that for me and helped me grow. It’s okay for you to feel this way. It’s a natural part of life.
It can help to not spread yourself so thin across so many things. Sometimes you need a break to process clearly. My advice is to try and go to bare essentials in your life for a bit instead of trying to achieve all the goals of your life at the same time.
Also, it’s not all on you. The times we live in are quite chaotic and concerning, and a lot of our anxiety is response to the strains of modernity and systemic failures. You are neither alone, not unjustified in feeling it.
Good luck!
Hi, may I’m pm you? I’m 31f but I felt like this a lot when I was younger and even still now. But I think I can maybe help give you some perspective,or at the very least someone to talk to.
You can do it bro 😎
You’re going to ace the entire thing and be the b3r version of yourself.