I talk to someone three times maybe online, we talked about psychology and they are clearly having it bad, thing is I am not in good position too but i just don’t show it much
And i sound cheerful and happy
But they sent me this hug gif with emotional face and very unusual kind of hug, i usually tell people not to send me hug even in text, but with them I’m thinking of ghosting
I’m 28f, they are 39?m
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You usually tell people? Does that imply you didn’t tell this person? If you told them and they sent it, sure you are fine to feel uncomfortable. If you did not, ghosting would be an overreaction, but you are also not obligated to teach everyone your boundaries so if they are not worth communicating your boundaries too then you should move on.
I am a little confused by your post. Could you elaborate some more? I didn’t think I could answer right now
It’s okay to set boundaries, and if you’re not ready to engage further, ghosting might feel like the easiest option. But maybe a gentle message letting them know you’re not in the best space could help avoid any hard feelings while still respecting your own limits.
Did you tell him you don’t like to receive hug gifs or whatever? It would never cross my mind that a hug gif might offend someone. I would need to be directly told.
I’m really not sure what you’re getting at. Do you mean that emoji’s make you uncomfortable and this person sent you one?
Chances are this person can tell that you are not as well as you are presenting yourself. They were trying to be supportive. Maybe that’s just their nature. I would have the common courtesy to let that person know that their actions made you feel uncomfortable. Also, just let them know you don’t want to move forward communicating with them.
Don’t start changing who you are for a potential partner.
1st of all forget all those other post !! Your feelings are your feelings and people/ society needs to stop putting conditions or steps you have to do to express yourself . NO YOU ARE NOT WRONG FOR THAT .. but in my opinion you are wrong for engaging in online talks with someone who can’t uplift you/ motivate you / support or encourage .
We don’t need the details but if they are having it bad I would of recommended support group/ therapy / whatever but I would not be a sounding board or accepting any type of emojis of hugs / etc
You aren’t best buddies or even friends I think that’s over the top !!!
They’re trying to test the boundaries .