I’m curious to hear from women who genuinely enjoy penetration during sex. What positions, techniques, or circumstances make it pleasurable for you? Do you orgasm from it, or is the pleasure more about the experience itself? Would love to hear what contributes to making it feel good, from those who do enjoy it.
Women who enjoy penetration—what makes it feel good for you?
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>What positions
Doggy has always worked best for me, think it’s just because it’s the most comfortable
>Techniques
I’m into weird stuff, I can’t finish unless I’m spanked, slapped, and sometimes even punched
>Do you orgasm from it
HIGHLY Depends on the partner, their size, and how much I’m into it, it’s like 50/50 for me.
I would say that what I like is at the end when it finishes, the feeling it gives, I find it magnificent,🤷🏽♀️
Feeling his big head rubbing against my g spot & the rest of his dick follows just being rough & aggressive grabbing me pulling me in hard for every stroke, I squirt every time never fails
The positions that feel best imo are prone/doggy and I don’t know the name for this but girl on top with the guy doing the movements from below. And I know “jackhammering” gets bad press but I find that the most pleasurable (usually) tbh
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For me, the only times it’s been good there has been suspension of disbelief. I thought I was in love, but I was being manipulated. My sex organ is my mind. Being in love is the ultimate turn on.
I can have orgasms from penetration, missionary and the broken eagle position works well for me.
yes I do~ the vast majority of penetration orgasms still originate in the clitoris. So grinding against it, using your hands, and stimulating the inner part of your clitoris and gspot is going to be key to orgasming.
honestly I love every position, but missionary or from behind with a hand on the clit is the best for finishing quickly and guaranteed.
technique – mixing up the speed and depth in which hes thrusting. I love to start slow, deep, then transition to faster and harder. again, make sure clit is incorporated. when hes going all the way in, he should be grinding up against your clit with every stroke. sensual hip movement. then when hes going faster, try to angle yourself so the best stimulation is happening internally (if you enjoy gspot stim or other motion) and you can stimulate your clit with fingers or so.
circumstances – foreplay is a must. kissing, mentally relaxing, zoning out of reality and getting into pound town zone. Nipple play, and lots of oral will do it. i also highly recommend lube, especially if sex can be hurtful quickly.
I dont have to orgasm every time to enjoy it (for example, love a good quickie but hard to finish) so just focus on enjoying the experience! but just incorporating a bit of clit stimulus and other touching I do finish during sex each time.
finding what works for YOU is whats key since we’re all different but hope this helps!
The parts that feel the best are when it first goes in (as long as you’re properly ready) and you can feel it sliding in deeper, and the end when you can feel the pulsing finish. When I’m high I can orgasm through just penetration nearly every time, otherwise it’s only occasionally when the moment is particularly stimulating and the movement is just right. But the pleasure is wonderful even without an orgasm! I often don’t like additional clitoral stimulation during intercourse because I feel it’s too distracting, I want to focus on and fully enjoy the intercourse.
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Positions?
Almost any we’ve tried are good, but the most pleasurable that get me to climax within a couple of minutes are legs over shoulders and pounding into the mattress, rather than towards the headboard.. if that makes sense.
Techniques?
I love it when my husband does shallow for 9 thrusts, deep for 1. Shallow for 8, deep for 2.. and so on, until it’s all deep pounding.
Depending on the position, when he rubs my clit at the same time as penetration, that also feels good for me.
Circumstances?
Well, it’s just me and my husband of 13 years and we have frequent enough sex after the kids are fast asleep. Lol. There’s no real other circumstances going on at the moment so we take what we can get 😅
Only penetration makes me orgasm. I like the feeling of being stretched from the inside (and mind you I had two kids, do your Kegels).
My favorite position is me on top, it stimulates my clit from the inside and the outside. As another commenter said, don’t bounce, just grind against his pelvis. If your partner is in shape they can bounce their hips and that’s quite pleasurable too.
I enjoy when it hits my cervix.
my vagina is very shallow so it’s not really difficult for a guy to hit my g spot and have penetration feel good (that being said, the main obstacle is that he’ll usually unknowingly hit my cervix which can be painful). i prefer missionary and cowgirl. not a huge fan of doggy, but again that might have something to do with how small the space between the opening of my vagina and my cervix is. and doggy is usually a position that helps the penis go deeper.
i’ve never orgasmed via penetration though. before penetration, my partner and i will usually try to make me orgasm first. usually using a vibrator on my clit while they finger me will do the trick. but just because you can’t orgasm doesn’t mean it doesn’t feel good.
Feeling stuffed like a turkey
I expect a penetration like a guy waits for a blowjob. That’s the most anticipated moment for me lmao. Gets me every time. I usually come from laying down doggy. The position is exactly right and if the guy has stamina, I will be forever grateful.
“Poking fun at me?”
I like missionary the most, crossing my legs in his, and I feel filled up..
doggy, missionary, and riding. plus i only orgasm during penetration so it makes it way more enjoyable for me.
Techniques: the only way I learned to cum from penetration was using a vibrator on my clit while being fucked. Often I would cum from it and my partner would keep going and I would have vaginal orgasm a little after.
Positions: usually riding with the vibe between us gets it done every time.
So. Up until recently, penetration had never contributed to orgasm for me. It felt good, like satisfying and fun to have a guy cum in me and know I was giving him pleasure, but if I wanted to come, that was an exclusively clit proposition.
Enter current partner.
The difference? This man
— Knows how to do all kinds of subtle little moves with his penis that hit my g-spot. I keep asking him where he learned this stuff and he swears it’s “no big deal” and he just “pays attention” to my reactions. Okay!
— Can seemingly last as long as it takes to get me off
— Seems to genuinely care about my pleasure, and derive pleasure from it himself
— Makes me feel emotionally safe–not to be underestimated when it comes to your ability to relax and receive pleasure!
— Turns me on like no one ever has. (I do the same for him, which is wild. Our bodies are seemingly drawn to each other.)
Specifically the moves I like are
— His entering and withdrawing from me veeeery slowly. That drives me insane.
— A sort of side-thrusting motion he achieves when I’m lying on my back and he’s entering me from the side
— A jerking motion he does, both in and out
— Using his hand to further push his penis in against my g-spot
— Just small movements, not big thrusts
For my pleasure, I like sex either when we’re both facing each other lying on our side, or like I described above–me lying on my back and his coming in from the side. I do still touch my clit while he fucks me, but I now I absolutely feel my orgasm start to build from penetration alone and I touch my clit to finish.
Sometimes it also feels good when I’m on top of him, but it’s less restful for me and I can’t focus on my pleasure as much. I do have fun being fucked that way, though. Feeling my partner’s hands gripping my hips (and sometimes my neck because I like that) is hot.
I never thought this would happen for me, and that was fine! Clit orgasms still feel more intense for me than vaginal ones. But “learning” to cum this way has been so fun. I can do new things! And yes, I would say it’s been a learning curve. My partner and I are long-distance and have had sex just one long weekend per month for maybe five months. At times it’s been hard for me to cum, or I haven’t cum. But we’ve really started to hit our stride; I can come in 5-10 minutes vs like 30 now lol.
It’s great. Everyone should do this. Get divorced lol and get you a man who knows how to use his penis like a precision instrument.
My entire vagina is sensitive to touch, sliding, pressure, heat. Not just my clit, but all of it. Best position for me is on my back and I pull my knees to my chest, then ride the orgasms from there.
I’m also pretty suggestible and really easy to be made horny and that boosts sensations of all types by a lot.
Foreplay takes minutes and not a lot of effort. Do things that I like and it gets a LOT shorter.
Positions : I love doggy that turns into prone bone for harder/rougher sex and cowgirl but with him sitting up, so my boobs are directly on his face. Missionary is good for that slow but intense loving sex
Techniques : I like it rough. Slow teasing but deep thrusts, and then that turns into hard and fast and deep enough for me to feel it in my belly. I also like it when he presses down on my lower stomach, or has a finger up my ass
Circumstance : preferably after we have made out for long enough to have made a mess in our pants, after a nice fun date or teasing for a while
Extra : I just like the feeling of connecting with my man. Penetration feels good physically, because I feel stretched and “full” and I can feel my vagina hug his penis. But it’s also the emotional aspect of being able to have him, to be full of HIM, the closeness and warmth of it all
I orgasm from penetration. Doggy, missionary, legs over his shoulders are the best positions. I prefer bigger dicks, I love getting fucked hard, filled up, and stretched out. I like it to hurt a little at first. If a guy is medium or smaller, I honestly have a hard time being satisfied, although a good finger bang to squirt is always welcome. I enjoy clitoral and anal stimulation orally and manually, but I get my deepest, longest, most intense orgasms from vaginal penetration. I can feel the anatomy of my clit wrapping around my vagina and how engorged it gets. It’s pretty easy for me to come 10+ times in a single session with someone whose dick pushes me to my limit. Then it’s wave after wave of intense orgasms that extend throughout my entire body. Eye contact/GENTLE handle over mouth/eyes/around neck/dirty talk heighten the experience.
I think I just turned myself on lol. G’night!
Missionary is fantastic and the best thing about penetration is the feeling of being so full, it is just exquisite and it drives me nuts.
Being on top is super pleasurable as well. Even thinking about it makes me feel that butterfly at that bottom of my stomach.
Can’t orgasm from it though. But i love it.
I mean, it’s probably the greatest feeling in the world, but it’s more than just penetration. Oral, is a fantastic warm up, but penetration, with touching, kissing, feeling your partners body, gripping him tight, him holding you tight, the dialogue, the ramp uo from slow to more aggressive …. all of it together is an unmatchable experience. Like there’s nothing to compare it to, but it’s all nothing without penetration. Penetration, for me, is the peak to the climax. I mean, I’m currently under sexed and not thrilled about it, so this sucks just thinking about it.
The positions – depends on the mood or place. Sometime s missionary, doggy is where it always leads because he can go deeper😋 especially with a finger or 2 or 3 in the rear🤷🏾♀️
Cowgirl can be fun but i prefer the man to take the lead and this position usually makes a guy cum quicker.
Sex swings are also a lot of fun
If I don’t cum it wasn’t fun. Occasionally I’ll let it slide but we’re in this together so we should both cum, ALOT!😂
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I like it because it feels like his dick is rubbing the back of my clit, if that makes sense. There’s very noticeably a spot or area inside of me that is being stimulated while it happens.
The best position for orgasm, for me, is missionary with my legs pushed into my chest. This gives the most direct stimulation and usually has me orgasming in less than a minute (with fast thrusting). The orgasm can last for a long time and can happen in quick succession.
The orgasm definitely feels different from a regular clitoral orgasm, though.
The anticipation of an orgasm. Also, clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex. I can typically orgasm at the same time as him if he tells me he’s coming since that’s the extra turn on I need to get there.
I just enjoy not being in charge and if the guy is pleasuring himself I’m kinda into it overall ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Mainly the fact that he’s having pleasure by being inside of me.
I think for me it’s all about emotions and general experience. If I feel excited, seduced, desired, I feel this urge of feeling a guy inside me, have this feeling of like total union in the moment. And then technique wise, depends on the guys size and thickness. What feels good with a normal penis is often painful with a big one. And yes, when I was in a committed relationship and under pill, I loved my partner finishing inside, it just felt soooo good.
Positions: Doggy is my favorite, but missionary can also get me off sometimes.
Techniques: slow and controlled deep thrusts (pretty consistently does the trick) OR hard possessive “breeding” thrusts with some hip grabbing (digging nails in hard enough to break the skin or leaving bruises)(not as consistent, but harder orgasms from this)
Circumstances: ideally after just showering together or after a long day of teasing and flirting.
I like the humping
Ya girl just wants to feel full 🤷🏻♀️ the intimacy of being physically connected is just 😚👌🏼
It might sound super vanilla but missionary is one of my favorites. My husband rolls his hips in the perfect steady rhythm making sure to grind while being deep as possible. I love when he grabs my neck right under my jaw to keep my eyes on his as he slowly brings me closer. Drives me fucking insane every time and I get increasingly more feral with each thrust.
I also like riding because I mean, grinding and I love watching him come undone.
And face down, ass up with my back arched allows him to really hit it deep. My cervix cries and thanks me at the same time.
The penetration itself
The person doing it
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Pillow under your bottom whilst hes on top, have him thrust into you but grind at the same time against your clit, wrap your legs around his back.
Any position really! I orgasm easily..like I can think orgasm and have one so any type of stimulation will just increase the intensity. I prefer doggy and froggy style because I like it hard and fast and can control how tight I can squeeze my vaginal muscles. Going slow overstimulates me almost, like I want more but with lots of pain added to it so it’s not so intense. Not sure if that makes sense. I’m a tad twisted 😂.
I come only with deep thrusts/penetrative sex. Clit stimulation does absolutely nothing for me.
And I have no explanation for this except that this is the way it has always been from when I can remember.
If he is too big it just hurts when he goes too deep. Having the perfect size enables me to enjoy it in every position.
Also, I realized that I have to start slowly, like my organ has to adapt to him for a few strokes and then he can actually start thrusting. Otherwise it hurts.
Positions/Techniques: legs up on his chest, spooning, prone, and doggy are my favs. I like to start off slow then ramp up until it’s really intense, then take a breather and build up again. I like to do at least 2-3 positions unless it’s a quickie. I like a lot of kissing and skin contact but I can enjoy everything from a slow romantic vibe to getting absolutely railed – just depends on the mood/what my body is up for! And when I’m up for it I do like pain – biting, spanking, grabbing, etc.
Do I orgasm from it? When I use a vibrator I sometimes do, though I always have sensations that feel as intense as an orgasm (even if it’s not a standard orgasm) when I’m getting pounded (and I’m warmed up enough for it).
Is the experience itself pleasurable? When it’s done right, absolutely! Lots of foreplay, starting off slow. If he sticks it right in and starts pounding off the bat that’s almost never going to feel good.
I like when we both moan at the same time it tells me we are both feeling the same physically and it makes everything 100% more amazing