My wife and I am in divorce process and it take ages to get it . She didn’t work. So I have to pay heavy alimony.
She has a three years old son and son clearly don’t look like me. I found her chats with other man. Got private dna tested and he isn’t my son
It was hard punch to gut. But I am forced to pay for kid forever till he passes college. 50% of my salary goes to her and child support.
I loved him, but this betrayal was affecting my mental health and I cut them off both. I am paying maintanence to both. I was cheated.
I was being painted as bad person everywhere. So I posted it on my social media with report. It went viral and she is getting shamed by masses. If i can’t save myself financially, I will make sure her reputation goes down the gutter. If I am going to be ruined financially and mentally, I will ruin her reputation and future options.
Her family and she is begging me to take it down. But I won’t. They are also begging me to forgive her. No forgiveness from me after she filed fake cases on me. Including dv when I never raised a hand on her. My sister is in Dubai and she filed case on her.
My dad who got liver transplant. She filed dv cases on him and my mother when they were in hospital. So yeah she is horrible human and misuse the law which is made for actual victims.
They are saying I raised the kid. But i can’t see him as my child anymore and my anger takes it over, if he is near me.
I know I will be forced to pay for him for next two decades which makes me bitter. Because in our country, even if wife cheats and have kid with other man, husband is automatically assumed as legal father
Luckily before all this, I transferred my assets to my mom’s name and will make sure she and her son doesn’t get anything. If i die. After divorce is over, i will never marry and adopt orphans. And raise them. But not him. Because here I shall have the option to adopt.
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Sorry, why are you forced to pay for child support with certifiable DNA evidence you’re not related? Just wondering!
NTA. She played a stupid game and won a stupid prize—public shame and a DNA receipt. The audacity to beg for forgiveness after gaslighting you into raising another man’s kid is Olympic-level. Paying maintenance sucks, but at least the internet knows she’s for the streets.
I don’t know how to solve your situation but NTA
NTA. Publicly shaming her is just part of your therapy.
Ask for a divorce without child support. Threat to expose her if she refused
NTA.. have you thought about moving to another country to avoid having to pay anything? because that’s what I would do:. I would sooner live in hut across the world than pay a dime to a cheating ex wife and son that isn’t mine!
NTA – This is why men don’t get married anymore.
She commits paternity fraud – No problem, while your at it take 50% of your salary and pay child support for a kid that is not yours.
Paternity tests should be mandatory
Paternity fraud should be a crime
NTA. If she actually filed false claims of DV, then having the truth exposed is just fair. Not elegant, but understandable. She had it coming.
What state are you in? This smells fake…..
Good luck my man. Feel sorry for the kid (I don’t condone it) but damn it I understand.
NTA. The truth had to come out. She betrayed you, and the only person you owe honesty to is yourself. You didn’t ruin the family, she did.
I feel someone that does this should be penalized and even go to jail. I know you are hurt but remember that the child is not at fault for the mother’s action. That child is paying that price as well.
I would tell them that you will continue to not only post but run an advertisement campaign and anything you can do concerning what she’s done and continues to do for the rest of your life if she does not drop the child support and any false accusations against you.
You will be hurting him too remember that
My brother
I’m guessing he is indian
So yes I know about thier law and they actually are unfair to men looking to make honest families
You can’t stop child support even if the child is not yours
You have to pay alimony even if the spouse cheated
You WILL get charged if they make fake cases cuz “women don’t lie”
Tbh this just makes it worse for the actual victims
Those who actually suffer from marital rape and abuse
And because of people like op’s wife they are also put in the category of “women taking advantage of men” in the eyes of the media
So yea indian law in regards to relationships is broken beyond repair
What the heck? There are no laws to protect you when you’re cheated on??? Why do you have to bear the costs of a son that’s not yours?!
If you have a good relationship with your boss, get them to fire you.
Go through court, pay 0 alimony then get your job back
Let the truth be known, how can they make you pay for another man’s son?
I’m sorry, I didn’t read the entire post. The kid isn’t yours, but you have to pay alimony? How the fuck does that work? Where do you live? You need a lawyer or something. This is ridiculous!
Nta scorched earth bro
You can go to court, show proof that the child isn’t yours, and there’s no way you’d still have to pay after that. I refuse to believe the law wouldn’t be on your side.