I (19M) have been with my gf (18F) for 6 months now. She’s very kind, caring, with a big heart and a bright future ahead, I’m pretty sure I’m in love. There is a problem tho, we don’t have sex, at all.
We tried once at the very beginning of the relationship but it didn’t end well since she was scared of being hurt and I obviously stopped right away, telling her that it was not a problem for me. After that happened we did almost every week other sex related things that I will not specify but you can imagine…
We stopped doing that after a month too because she got cystitis and since then we didn’t do anything at all, because she now is scared of getting that again too. I really don’t know what to do, I’ve talked to her a couple times about this and I obviously don’t want to make her feel oppressed by my libido, but it’s starting to overwhelm me, I need that too. What do you recommend to do? I don’t want to break up with her, the relationship besides this is very good and healty, so I don’t feel it would be the right choice…
TL;DR I don’t have sex with my gf wich is important for me and I don’t know what to do
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Sit down and have a serious talk on your future and if sex will be there or not. My partner also has personal issues, sex was at least weekly first 3 months, now 4 years in its maybe every 2 or 3 months (both 22 btw). its up to you entirely what you can live with. there no shame in needing sex in your love life, if you love them that much staying is worth is because sex isnt everything. no matter what communication is key and this requires a conversation. you can be the one to show her love and safe sex when shes ready, if youre patient. and if she says sex isnt for her (because believe it or not everyone wants it) then move on and recover and look for the next love.
19?? I was fucking like rabbits x3 a day. Next her
i might just be really asexual but not having sex that soon in a relationship as an 18 year old doesn’t sound too out of the ordinary to me? especially if she doesn’t have much sexual experience (obviously i don’t know if that’s true for her, i’m just kinda mentioning it generally)
Why stay with her then?
Or, wait a minute. Is she still a virgin?