I was in a hostel trying to sleep (top bunk) when I heard a sound and I guess it woke me up a little (12:20 AM )by the sound of the door opening and then I see a shadow moving near my backpack. Suddenly my silhouette of my backpack moves
I was so started that I lunged and snatched it back, then looked down to see a guy standing there. Instead of apologizing, he immediately started loudly talking to me: “You’re in my bed, I need you to get out of my bed!”
For context: My actual assigned bed (a bottom bunk) was already occupied by someone else when I arrived, so I picked an empty top bunk instead. I tried explaining this, he said sorry but the guy starts smirking, exhaling sarcastically, and repeating, I told him to just use another bed that’s free but he said what If I sleep in a bed that is already booked and kept going The hostel gave me this bed. Germans take rules seriously!(He looked mid-30s, and I’m currently in Germany btw)
Finally, another sleeper snapped awake and shouted, “Just pick a damn bed and shut up—you’re waking everyone!” Only then did the guy grumble and chose another bed.
away.
So, AITA here? I get that hostels have rules, but:
1. He took my backpack first (Who takes another persons item like that?).
2. He could’ve quietly found staff or another bed instead of screaming at midnight.
3. My original bed was already occupied was I supposed to get out and choose another bed or something?
Kinda baffled by the audacity. Thoughts?
EDIT: Since many are criticizing me for not notifying reception about the bed mix up, I’ll clarify:
– When I arrived, the person in my assigned bed was already asleep and was already pretty settled in (snoring, lights off). I didn’t want to wake them, so I chose the empty top bunk that was fully made up with clean sheets no personal items, clearly unused. I assumed it was free game since hostels often have spare beds.
– I genuinely didn’t realize people were this strict about assigned beds (lesson learned: always report it)
– Tomorrow,I’ll ask reception to reassign me to avoid further issues.
That said, I still think the guy was out of line for:
1. Grabbing my backpack instead of speaking to me first.
2. Yelling at midnight instead of solving it quietly.
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I was in a hostel trying to sleep (top bunk) when I heard a sound and I guess it woke me up a little (12:20 AM )by the sound of the door opening and then I see a shadow moving near my backpack. Suddenly my silhouette of my backpack moves
I was so started that I lunged and snatched it back, then looked down to see a guy standing there. Instead of apologizing, he immediately started loudly talking to me: “You’re in my bed, I need you to get out of my bed!”
For context: My actual assigned bed (a bottom bunk) was already occupied by someone else when I arrived, so I picked an empty top bunk instead. I tried explaining this, he said sorry but the guy starts smirking, exhaling sarcastically, and repeating, I told him to just use another bed that’s free but he said what If I sleep in a bed that is already booked and kept going The hostel gave me this bed. Germans take rules seriously!(He looked mid-30s, and I’m currently in Germany btw)
Finally, another sleeper snapped awake and shouted, “Just pick a damn bed and shut up—you’re waking everyone!” Only then did the guy grumble and chose another bed.
away.
So, AITA here? I get that hostels have rules, but:
Kinda baffled by the audacity. Thoughts?
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Ha, try a movie theater next. I’m not going to call you and AH, but the correct move in Germany would have been to go to reception and ask them for a solution.
I’ll have to go with NTA, because he shouldn’t have touched your stuff under any circumstances, cultural differences or no.
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NAH
Just give him the bed and tell the guy in your bed to move. If he doesn’t move, tell someone in charge.
ESH. The answer in both of your cases was to talk to one of the staff members and either have them deal with the person in your bed, or more likely, assign you to a different unused bed.
YTA
If your bed was taken, you go to the desk and get a different bed. This is 100% on you.
YTA. No doubt.
NAH, but you made your problem his problem which isn’t nice.
ESH
“There was someone in my assigned bed when I got there”…. That’s when you either tell the person to get out of your bed or you report it to the staff. He shouldn’t be touching your stuff but you just hopping into someone else’s bed caused the issue.
Esh. If someone is in your bed, you go and get a different one assigned, you don’t screw over the next person and punt the problem down the line.
YTA. Bunk beds in hostels are assigned. If you came back and found someone in your bed, you should have gone to reception and they would have re-assigned you. You basically just did to someone else what was done to you.
Ick. I wouldnt want to take a bed that some stranger has been sleeping in.
YTA. You got offended by him wanting his bed, and you did not care that you knew it wasn’t your bed when you got in. You tried to chance it as you were lazy and Karma took a piece out of you.
You did deserve it.
INFO
There’s no management present here? There wasn’t anyone you could alert to your assigned bed being occupied?
NTA. I think he wanted to steal your backpack while everyone slept, and as you woke up and stopped him he said something about the bed to appear innocent.
YTA. Why didnt you take your assigned bed?
ESH. You did indeed randomly choose a reserved bed, so you should have gone and asked at the desk before taking another. But he also shouldn’t have grabbed your stuff, or yelled and woken everyone up. Did the jerk who stole your originally assigned bunk sleep through all of this?
“He could’ve quietly found staff or another bed “
You mesn like the way you could have when you found your assigned bed occupied?
YTA
If someone’s in your bed, you remove them.
I’ve probably stayed in over 75 hostels, YTA.
This has happened to me a few times, the correct thing would have been to have told the front desk and have another bunk assigned to you. That way the hostel knows and reorganizes everything.
YTA. You took his assigned bunk, repeating exactly what happened to your assigned bunk. “Someone took my bunk so I took yours” isn’t a good look.
YTA/ESH. You should have gone to reception and told them someone was in your bed, so they could assign you another one, instead of just stealing someone else’s bed and making it someone else’s problem.
So the person in your bed was wrong & so you just jumped into another bed. You should have woken them up! – They were in the wrong.
As for grabbing your bag, they wanted you out.
Esh.
We have this problem with desks at work. “Oh, people don’t normally turn up, so it doesn’t matter.” No, they do turn up, they just don’t tell you to move and when someone does ask to sit in the desk they’ve booked, the chain is 6 or 7 people deep.
And this is why i did hostels exactly once in my life
Yta
NTA if it’s after lights out and you reach for my bag we have a problem. Yelling about anything after this is erroneous noise
Yta
Mate, I have stayed in backpacking hostels without number over the years. I’ve worked reception in several and have managed two, one in England.
People like you are the worst.
YTA.
You created hassle a day work for so many people. You are the arsehole, as is the guy who tool your bed.