Heyo, sorry this feels kinda stupid but I feel weird about asking other friends about it so here I am. For context, him and I have been best friends since we were like 12, he’s my ride or die, and no there’s never been anything sexual/romantic about our friendship. So, I slept over at his place (on the couch!) a week ago or so, and when I woke up I went to the bathroom. The door was closed, but that’s just something they do, something about keeping the cat out or it’ll knock over shit. Also, he’s a super heavy sleeper and no way he’d be up that early, so I went in. He was up that early, he was also half naked (the lower half) like he was about to shower. Winnie the Pooh vibes honestly, except like, way more graphic. We both froze, and honestly I stared for a good bit, and then I shook myself out of it and skedaddled outta there screaming sorry like an idiot.
He was a good sport about it afterwards, like he didn’t seem that bothered by it and just thought it was funny. I really tried to match his attitude, and I think he bought it, but I am VERY bothered by it. Like, I’ve seen him in boxers and shit, and that’s chill, but bare crotch is not the same, not chill at all. I just can’t stop thinking about it, whenever I close my eyes it’s there, and I have a stupidly accurate visual memory. Can’t look at him without feeling a bit weird, and my eyes ending up down there. It sucks I feel crazy. How can I like, just move on and stop fixating on it? Should I tell him? It feels weird to have all this going on in my head, about him, and him being unaware of it. I mean, if this were about anyone else, I’d be going to him to vent and ask advice, but here I can’t.
TL;DR, I saw my best friend naked and can’t stop thinking about it in detail, how can I stop those thoughts?
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Awkward moments happen. Give it time, let it pass, and you’ll both be able to laugh about it in the future.
It’s just going to take some time. Just give it some time.
Are you disgusted, aroused, ashamed, or some combination of the three?
Yeah, not sure exactly what you’re feeling here. Everyone has genitals, just imagine every male you meet has a dick and balls too. Every woman has a vulva. Everyone feels awkward sometimes and everyone can only exist as they are. Just accept that and move on. Do you need to show him your crotch to move on here?
This is such a non issue…
Like everyone else’s comment for the shame it’ll pass over time. As for the arousal, on some level you now know it’s not entirely platonic. If you feel like pursuing go for it, otherwise keeping it to yourself is better if you don’t really wish to explore this further.
Edit: mobile shinanigans. Meant for this to be a reply to your comment to mine.
The akwardness will go away with time if thst is all you want.
I would encourage you to sit and do some thiing on it for a moment though. You used the words unchill and bothered. What does that mean?
Are you grossed out? Are you upset? Do you feel violated for some reason? Are you worried you accidently violated him? Are you actually feeling attracted to him now?
Figure out WHAT it is that is bothering you about this and that will give you a better idea how to proceed.
If you 1) just want to stop thinking about it just give it time. Odds are this is the best bet for just an awkward moment.
If 2) you feel there is something that really needs addressed (like a purposeful violation). Then take the time to calmly confront him and apologize or discuss as needed.
Throwing it out there, but, why not experiment?
It can only go 2 ways:
Best thing ever, or crash and burn.
Every one has a crotch. Genitals are honestly just like any other body part, but we are conditioned in western society to keep them covered and private.
-its not his fault you walked in on him. If anything this is something for you to get over if you really value and want to maintain that relationship.
-also there might be some deeper emotions behind this… Maybe arousal, or having romantic feelings for him
Maybe you should gis some penises so you won’t just be thinking about that one. 😄 girl, you barged in in him, idk why you’re so fixated
Well if he’s your “ride & die” and when you saw his dongalong it made you aroused – maybe he should be a boyfriend rather than a best friend just sayin 🤷
Kind of sounds like you liked what you saw. And that’s cool you are both young and shit, have a go
I think its time to go from friendszone to a romantic relationship. Cause obviously there is more from your side