What’s the unspoken rule in male friendships that no one teaches you, but every man understands?
What’s the unspoken rule in male friendships that no one teaches you, but every man understands?
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What’s the unspoken rule in male friendships that no one teaches you, but every man understands?
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Two pats on the back, no more, no less.
There are certain things that are not spoken of aloud. But a mere glance in a certain way will convey all we need to know about the situation.
“You good?” is a mental health check
Upward nod vs downward nod.
Don’t pursue your friend’s exes….it’s crazy how many dudes seem to not have a sense of decency about this.
Names aren’t important.
Good friends are those you can talk about anything with, but best friends are those you can sit in silence with and know everything is okay.
Food / beer equals payment for a favour. Never cash .
No talking in the bathroom
Rounds
In most cases, your buddy’s female relatives are absolutely off limits. No macking on his divorced mom, his sister, his cousin, etc.
Probably don’t know your birthday but as soon as we hear someone else bring it up, that day is going in the calendar
All discussion stops when Roy Batty begins his death soliloquy.
Balls don’t touch. Anything else is free game but no ball touching unless it becomes romantic
If you borrow their tools, bring it back in the same or better condition.
We can have an angry argument with just guys around and usually resolve it peacefully. Try that in front of a girlfriend and the chances of physical violence go up A LOT. It’s not just a pride thing. Insulting someone in front of their SO is an extreme level of disrespect.
There isn’t one. Friendships involve open communication, especially during conflict or times of duress.
It’s easy to forget the accumulation of small moments where we establish our relationships and dynamics with our bros, the building of the lore, but to say it’s unspoken suggests you’ve bought into some bullshit macho stoicism.
Ask if you can have a beer out of the fridge even though you know the answers yes…least most of the time
Snitching is a no no.
Its easier for us to ask Brothers if they need help, than to ask for help.
You’re definitely not allowed to know what each other do for work
Money’s never exchanged, it’s just “next round’s on me”
If you don’t insult each other, you’re not as close as you thought
You can look all you want, but don’t touch. This goes for cars and wives.