I think it relates to basic anxieties that, once addressed, release their hold on you. For me it was about shame about being single, but then being able to go through a few relationships and have experiences giving me confidence in my self worth.
Also my job situation improved, so I wasn’t as worried that things could fall apart for me.
Easier to not give a fuck when you aren’t worried about your inherent value as a person, and when you are pretty sure you know you have a place to sleep that will always be there for you.
By realizing that the act of giving a fuck means that you care about something. Take a step back and ask yourself how much you really care and reframe your energy output.
It’s not about not giving a fuck. It’s about accepting that we can’t control others or events, and learning to be ok with it. I stop anytime I get frustrated or angry, and concentrate on figuring out what I have control over and what I don’t, then acting on it accordingly.
Recognize where my ability to change things ends and try not to care about what I can’t affect. Grow myself in that framework and try to establish newer and better norms for myself.
I live by this:
Will this impact my way of life? Will it add value? Will it take away value? No? than I dont care. This goes for everything work and relationships.
I just know that the least qualified folks made it to places that I’ll never see in my life. Being a better person than those in power is the easiest thing you can do, don’t sweat it.
Clearly identify your values and then when something happens that is frustrating or stressful ask yourself if giving energy to that issue moves you closer in line with your values or farther from your values. If it’s moving you away from your values it’s a clear indication to let go and move on, otherwise known as ‘not giving a fuck’.
Realize that nothing we do here makes one damn bit of difference in the grand scheme of things. We all get the same results in the end. Unless you are a historic figure (famous or infamous) you will not be in the history books, and after a couple generations you will only be known by name, after a couple more generations you will most likely have been completely forgotten. So why try so damn hard to give a damn in this life?
“Not giving a fuck” generally doesn’t mean you care about nothing, just that you care about what is important to you and not other things that don’t matter. A big part is being able to accept that there are things you cannot change which is a lot of what people give a fuck about. It also helps to be honest with yourself and being comfortable with yourself first and it isn’t an all-or-nothing kind of thing.
Let me give you an example of one of the times when I learned to not give a fuck.
I was working at a clothing store when I was much younger. I had started learning a lot about style and grooming and I was getting pretty good at it. But, I wasn’t comfortable. I felt bad because I enjoyed looking good and taking care of myself because to me that was vanity, which was not a “good” thing. Part of that was because of how I was raised (catholic guilt and all despite not being overly religious). As a result, I ended up holding people to the same standard as myself in regard to clothing/style, almost like peer pressure where I wanted people to care as much as I did about their appearance, to be as vain as I was, to make me feel less “weird” and uncomfortable…
And then I had an honest conversation with myself. I pretty much thought “You are allowed to care about your appearance, and sure that might be a little vain, but it is only unhealthy if you don’t recognize it and if you force others to think the way you do… if you let it become toxic. So, once I accepted that my vanity was my own and that my preferences were my own, and that it was okay to feel that way without feeling guilty, I was able to let go of the standards I was holding other people to. They were mine and mine alone. I was able to stop giving a fuck. I was able to have conversations about clothing and style without judging people and their decisions. I was able to make jokes at my expense and people were able to understand and interact with a more honest version of myself. It was liberating.
So yeah. That was how I managed to get there with a particular aspect of my life and became a moment I revisit frequently when I need a reminder.
Cannot compute.. I tell myself I don’t give a fuck and somehow at some point and a random given time. That same fuck comes back. Like an ex I don’t want until I want them, just to realize I shouldn’t want them so I go back to not wanting them.
In 100 years no-one is going to remember you, you’ll be lost to time like tears in rain.
We’re literally spinning on a hot rock in a near infinite space and we only get one shot at things.
Some might think that to be a bit depressing, but for me it’s clarity, why do I give a fuck about things if no one will remember.
Cliché, but just enjoy the now,
Fuck the people who put you down or judge. you are the main character.
Do what you want to do and what makes you happy, fuck the rest, end of story (don’t be an asshole obvs).
There is a place nearby where the road cut thru a piece of a mountain. The mountain has many layers of sedimentary rock. Just later upon layer. Somewhere back in time, the layers have lifted up and bent and curved and they form these arcs of what used to be flat layers of rock.
When I look at that, and realize the tens of thousands of years it took for those layers to end up how they are now? somehow, whatever it was that was bugging me and pissing me off, somehow none of that matters anymore.
That’s how I don’t give a fuck anymore. It just doesn’t matter in the long run
I always remind myself that I’m gonna die one day and that if I’m only gonna live once I might as well enjoy my time here. Not giving a fuck is truly an art, because society grooms us all to care too much, so our minds are constantly trying to get us out of not giving a fuck. It’s all about finding a good medium where you care enough for important things, but don’t give a fuck about things that really aren’t worth shit.
People become either the absolute best (and sometimes the worst) versions of themselves by losing every ounce of fuck to give and just going for something without any consideration. In every instance where I did something without giving a fuck it was due to the fact that I was passionate about the issue at hand.
I remind myself of Alexander the Great. Dude banged Cleopatra, conquered a bunch of shit, probably did some other important stuff too…and yet, 99% of the current population doesn’t give a fuck what he did lmao. 2 generations from now you descendants probably won’t even know your name. Let alone your favorite color. Go live. Do shit. Have experiences. And then ultimately die. Go to hell, or heaven, or reincarnate, or maybe something else. It’s up to you. Have fun!
I usually just try to figure out the realistic worst-case scenario and the odds that will happen. then decide if that chance of that happening is worth the effort of dealing with the issue. A lot of time, the realistic worst-case scenario is really not that bad or likely, and dealing with the issue can be more of a hassle.
Focus on the things you care about and have influence on, combined with only looking to improve from my past self using a mindset of growth. Little lengthy, sorry about that. Just make sure you allow room to mess up 😉
I feel it’s actually something that is learned over time, people say they don’t give a fuck but alot of time but they really do. Only way to truly not give a fuck is to be in such horrible scenarios before that most things don’t phase you.
Think about a toddler getting their first time out, that is the worst thing that’s ever happened to them and they act accordingly. If someone put me in time out in some weird scenario do you think I or most adults would care? That just means I get to take a nap, I’m down.
Another example, remember the first time you were broken up with? It hurt like hell and you felt you would never get over it. After years of dating and someone breaks up with you it barely even registers as a situation.
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Step 1: Run out of fucks.
Focus on what truly matters to you and let go of the rest.
Meditation
Just be done with everything
I goon til it goes away
I think it relates to basic anxieties that, once addressed, release their hold on you. For me it was about shame about being single, but then being able to go through a few relationships and have experiences giving me confidence in my self worth.
Also my job situation improved, so I wasn’t as worried that things could fall apart for me.
Easier to not give a fuck when you aren’t worried about your inherent value as a person, and when you are pretty sure you know you have a place to sleep that will always be there for you.
By realizing that the act of giving a fuck means that you care about something. Take a step back and ask yourself how much you really care and reframe your energy output.
Be Asexual and decline all sex offers
Always ask yourself: “Would it help if I gave a fuck ?“
Behold the field in which I grow my fucks, and see that it is barren.
But more seriously, just stay in my lane, and meh.
Read “the subtle art of not giving a fuck” it’s a great book by Mark Manson and it gives a good answer to that exact question
Forgive but not forget and redirect
Stop caring about what others think about you.
Also accept that your faults aren’t your fault but they are your responsibility.
Realize that a lot of people are just like me and have dumb opinions, so why should I care about what other idiots think? Lol
Use up all of them in one go
I find it depends on the subject
Just don’t 🤣
sever yourself from the people you love in life and then find no comfort in the isolation
I filed for fuckruptcy last year. Been trying to build back up since then, but it’s not going great
Nothing matters, Existence is chaos, just go with the flow
It’s not about not giving a fuck. It’s about accepting that we can’t control others or events, and learning to be ok with it. I stop anytime I get frustrated or angry, and concentrate on figuring out what I have control over and what I don’t, then acting on it accordingly.
When I started realising other people’s problems aren’t my problems
I honestly just do not care enough
Buy a barren land and grow zero fucks
Like this 💁
Keep your pants zipped
Recognize where my ability to change things ends and try not to care about what I can’t affect. Grow myself in that framework and try to establish newer and better norms for myself.
To many years of giving too much of a fuck
No energy
I live by this:
Will this impact my way of life? Will it add value? Will it take away value? No? than I dont care. This goes for everything work and relationships.
Be almost sucidial so the only thing u give a fuck about is not dying(Even that is half a fuck)
I just know that the least qualified folks made it to places that I’ll never see in my life. Being a better person than those in power is the easiest thing you can do, don’t sweat it.
Clearly identify your values and then when something happens that is frustrating or stressful ask yourself if giving energy to that issue moves you closer in line with your values or farther from your values. If it’s moving you away from your values it’s a clear indication to let go and move on, otherwise known as ‘not giving a fuck’.
I’ve no more fucks to give
My fuck rations are depleted
I rallied my fuck army
But it’s been fucking defeated
https://youtu.be/Vqbk9cDX0l0?si=KQnkgnSNyMdN3uZG
Just like that. Simple isn’t it.
Like this
Lower expectations
Frogs, once you have that mentality nothing else really matters
By just not giving a fuck, that’s how
keep the fuck
Takes time but you have to commit to not giving a fuck.
Too tired
Realize that nothing we do here makes one damn bit of difference in the grand scheme of things. We all get the same results in the end. Unless you are a historic figure (famous or infamous) you will not be in the history books, and after a couple generations you will only be known by name, after a couple more generations you will most likely have been completely forgotten. So why try so damn hard to give a damn in this life?
Honestly? It takes practice.
“Not giving a fuck” generally doesn’t mean you care about nothing, just that you care about what is important to you and not other things that don’t matter. A big part is being able to accept that there are things you cannot change which is a lot of what people give a fuck about. It also helps to be honest with yourself and being comfortable with yourself first and it isn’t an all-or-nothing kind of thing.
Let me give you an example of one of the times when I learned to not give a fuck.
I was working at a clothing store when I was much younger. I had started learning a lot about style and grooming and I was getting pretty good at it. But, I wasn’t comfortable. I felt bad because I enjoyed looking good and taking care of myself because to me that was vanity, which was not a “good” thing. Part of that was because of how I was raised (catholic guilt and all despite not being overly religious). As a result, I ended up holding people to the same standard as myself in regard to clothing/style, almost like peer pressure where I wanted people to care as much as I did about their appearance, to be as vain as I was, to make me feel less “weird” and uncomfortable…
And then I had an honest conversation with myself. I pretty much thought “You are allowed to care about your appearance, and sure that might be a little vain, but it is only unhealthy if you don’t recognize it and if you force others to think the way you do… if you let it become toxic. So, once I accepted that my vanity was my own and that my preferences were my own, and that it was okay to feel that way without feeling guilty, I was able to let go of the standards I was holding other people to. They were mine and mine alone. I was able to stop giving a fuck. I was able to have conversations about clothing and style without judging people and their decisions. I was able to make jokes at my expense and people were able to understand and interact with a more honest version of myself. It was liberating.
So yeah. That was how I managed to get there with a particular aspect of my life and became a moment I revisit frequently when I need a reminder.
Basically there’s a point where you can’t change anything, so why give a fuck?
Just start taking more fucks than you give. Be greedy with the fucks
You have to say “fuck it we ball” after everything
I used to be very apathetic. Then I got married and am having a kid. Now I really give a fuck making sure they are okay.
Guess the answer is don’t have any dependents.
Fresh outtta fucks my dude.
But I’ll give you a compliment if you need one.
I’m living for myself and my family, if it doesn’t make sense for me to give a fuck. I won’t.
Simple… meh…
I keep it in my pants
I don’t have the energy to spare 🤷🏽♀️
Cannot compute.. I tell myself I don’t give a fuck and somehow at some point and a random given time. That same fuck comes back. Like an ex I don’t want until I want them, just to realize I shouldn’t want them so I go back to not wanting them.
Everyone starts out giving a fuck…
Then eventually you just run out of them to give. It’s a finite supply.
In 100 years no-one is going to remember you, you’ll be lost to time like tears in rain.
We’re literally spinning on a hot rock in a near infinite space and we only get one shot at things.
Some might think that to be a bit depressing, but for me it’s clarity, why do I give a fuck about things if no one will remember.
Cliché, but just enjoy the now,
Fuck the people who put you down or judge. you are the main character.
Do what you want to do and what makes you happy, fuck the rest, end of story (don’t be an asshole obvs).
So this is what I do when things are bugging me.
There is a place nearby where the road cut thru a piece of a mountain. The mountain has many layers of sedimentary rock. Just later upon layer. Somewhere back in time, the layers have lifted up and bent and curved and they form these arcs of what used to be flat layers of rock.
When I look at that, and realize the tens of thousands of years it took for those layers to end up how they are now? somehow, whatever it was that was bugging me and pissing me off, somehow none of that matters anymore.
That’s how I don’t give a fuck anymore. It just doesn’t matter in the long run
This instructional video by John Lajoi on youtube explains it well:
Not Giving a Fuck!
I always remind myself that I’m gonna die one day and that if I’m only gonna live once I might as well enjoy my time here. Not giving a fuck is truly an art, because society grooms us all to care too much, so our minds are constantly trying to get us out of not giving a fuck. It’s all about finding a good medium where you care enough for important things, but don’t give a fuck about things that really aren’t worth shit.
I just don’t. Nothing matters
By not being indifferent.
People become either the absolute best (and sometimes the worst) versions of themselves by losing every ounce of fuck to give and just going for something without any consideration. In every instance where I did something without giving a fuck it was due to the fact that I was passionate about the issue at hand.
Tbh it’s kind of a curse. I wish I could care more. I wanna say life eventually wore me down to the point that I don’t give a fuck for real lol
Just don’t care about anything, it’s what it is
Nobody ever gives zero for fucks completely, it’s about knowing what to give a fuck about.
It’s actually better to give a fuck than to not give a fuck. If you give a fuck, we need you.
I remind myself of Alexander the Great. Dude banged Cleopatra, conquered a bunch of shit, probably did some other important stuff too…and yet, 99% of the current population doesn’t give a fuck what he did lmao. 2 generations from now you descendants probably won’t even know your name. Let alone your favorite color. Go live. Do shit. Have experiences. And then ultimately die. Go to hell, or heaven, or reincarnate, or maybe something else. It’s up to you. Have fun!
i simply have given up on trying to fight stupid battles. it it’s not worth it, i mentally check out
Cum in her mouth and go to sleep i guess, that’s a very odd question
I usually just try to figure out the realistic worst-case scenario and the odds that will happen. then decide if that chance of that happening is worth the effort of dealing with the issue. A lot of time, the realistic worst-case scenario is really not that bad or likely, and dealing with the issue can be more of a hassle.
There is way too much to give a fuck about. You just gotta filter out the shit that isn’t worth it.
When you figure it out please let me know.
Because there are over 8 billion people on this planet.
It’s not my job to make sure all of them like me or accept me.
Who can afford to give a fuck ? I know I can’t.
Oh no! the fuck got stuck
If the don’t give a damn, I don’t give a fuck.
By coming to the realization that most things don’t require a fuck given to them. After that life is peaceful.
Rational analysis and practical thinking.
I drinks a bit.
Marijuana. I do still give fucks but only about cool stuffs
Easy! Stop caring about other people’s opinions about you
Focus on the things you care about and have influence on, combined with only looking to improve from my past self using a mindset of growth. Little lengthy, sorry about that. Just make sure you allow room to mess up 😉
Have a billion dollars
I feel it’s actually something that is learned over time, people say they don’t give a fuck but alot of time but they really do. Only way to truly not give a fuck is to be in such horrible scenarios before that most things don’t phase you.
Think about a toddler getting their first time out, that is the worst thing that’s ever happened to them and they act accordingly. If someone put me in time out in some weird scenario do you think I or most adults would care? That just means I get to take a nap, I’m down.
Another example, remember the first time you were broken up with? It hurt like hell and you felt you would never get over it. After years of dating and someone breaks up with you it barely even registers as a situation.
https://youtu.be/Vqbk9cDX0l0?si=iAoOJ7QUZt5_ynLZ
If I can’t control it, or it doesn’t affect me, I don’t care about it.
Understanding the limit of your ability to change the problem