After over 3 years, we finally moved in together. I was so anxious and worried after so many horror stories from friends and reddit. I figured I needed to bite the bullet and find out if he’s not the one for whatever reason.
I realize 3 days is like nothing and I need more time to assess our situation but it’s already better than I expected. We had some fun the first night (while making out he spun me around so I was standing on the new cushy bath mat I asked his opinion on so I could stand on the comfort spot). We had some really great pillow talk about things I was nervous about with living together and the future and where we’re headed and he reassured me that we’d be great and I could talk to him anytime I felt off about something. He immediately catered to me like getting my drinks and putting away my dishes. He’s killed every bug I’ve asked him to (lol). He stops what he’s doing and gives me his full attention anytime I talk to him, ask him something, show him something. We talked and made a shopping list together. He gives me a kiss anytime he walks in a room I’m in. He grabs my hand when we go to sleep in opposite directions.
I sent a funny picture of me on the couch after I woke up from a nap because the sun had angled right to my face. He came over to the living room, chuckled, hugged and kissed me, and then proceeded to move the entire couch with me on it so that the sun wasn’t in my face anymore.
I know none of this means anything so early on but I really hope I finally have a good one. All your stories of lazy men who put all the burden on you after living together have me on edge but also inspire me. I’m going to stand up for myself and not accept the bare minimum or a low effort partner. Wish me luck ladies ❤️
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Wishing you luck 💕
OP, now is the time to set expectations and agree who does what and set out a truly equitable share of chores etc. If you set out your stall now and hold your boundaries around this you are less likely to come a cropper later. I absolutely love that he is being sweet and kind and gentle and loving – all awesome qualities – but the share of domestic labour and the split of the bills/costs is just as likely to be the boulder in the road later on as a lack of affection (indeed, maybe more so). If you agree it now, while you’re both loved up and joyful, it never needs to become an issue in the first place.
Wishing you both every happiness
Aww this is so sweet. You guys got this!
Love this for you!!
I met my partner online 13 years ago. Didn’t make it official until we met in person in 2023 (was gonna meet in 2020 but covid happened). He lived in Texas, me in California. We moved together to Oregon in 2024. Been living together for a year and it’s been great. We both clean and cook equally, and he’s so caring and adorable. He even tucks me in when I take naps.
What helped us have a healthy relationship is communication. We talk to each other openly about our mental health , when we’re having a rough time, and both support and call out each other when we need it.