If they didn’t get away I wouldn’t be the person I am today. And while there are times that sounds appealing for the most part I am happy with the road taken.
She pulled some clueless shit and I got mad and sent some nasty texts. Texting when you’re mad is bad. She broke up with me and sold her house to move away to near family. We still talk and still have strong feelings but are 900 miles apart.
There are other things in a relationship that matter apart from sex and attraction. That basically led me to believe that every other bad thing was something I could ignore
Everything is internal. All my feelings originated from the concept of them I have in my mind. This is why people can fall out of love so quickly. The idea of the other person in your mind changes and no longer inspires those feelings within you.
Not really the one that got away but a girl who i used to hook up with on and off over years. We ended up talking about the dating scene in general and I started complaining how some dates went and she went something like
“Every time someone says something about dating like women are this or men or that, add “”that I’m attracted to”” somewhere in that sentence. They tell on themselves all the time. You’re still complaining and still go for that type.”
So simple but completely changed the way I saw dating and saw people in general, especially the stuff on instagram, etc. For ex. “men are trash” obviously not saying all men are, she knows that. Just the ones she tends to be attracted to
To not let the little head do the thinking, and I’m glad I learned it early in life… even though it was a hard & heartbreaking lesson.
Mid teens, and had a WONDERFUL little girlfriend! 🥰 That girl was marriage material even back then… but she would let me “go” as far as I wanted to go.
Ran across a random slut a pool one day who made it known that I could go as far as I’d like with her. 😵😈 Took her up on the offer, and it got back to my girlfriend, and that was the end of that. ❤️🩹 I was heartbroken and felt like the stupidest guy who’d ever lived… but I had that coming for hurting that girl with my stupidity.
Many fish and all that mumbo jumbo. . . I’ve found out that detachment and living my truth attracts people who love me for me. I have picked one of those people to mate with. If she decides to stay, that is her choice and I will love her for it. I can have detachment and love. Makes the experience of life better for me. It helped me learn that two things can be true at the same time. I can be thankful that something is gone while at the same time knowing that I had it. I can have a bad opinion about a person and still understand that I loved that person at some point in my life. I also learned you can miss someone you hate.
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Make sure no one is coming when you change a tire on the side of the road.
Opportunity costs are everywhere and you should listen to the feelings of unease.
There are other fish in the sea.
It’s not good to deeply desire a partner who doesn’t really care about you that much.
no such thing 🙂↔️ if it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be, point blank period.
Don’t expect them to be a mind reader. If you feel / think a certain way about them, say so.
If they didn’t get away I wouldn’t be the person I am today. And while there are times that sounds appealing for the most part I am happy with the road taken.
That the one for you will be just as interested in you as you are in her. If you have to chase/convince/entertain her, she is not the one for you.
My wife and I have been married 40 years. I still like her.
She pulled some clueless shit and I got mad and sent some nasty texts. Texting when you’re mad is bad. She broke up with me and sold her house to move away to near family. We still talk and still have strong feelings but are 900 miles apart.
Don’t text angry!
Fuck social mores, fuck marriage.
Have an affair and run away together.
You don’t necessarily need to change friends once you realize that friends change.
Don’t take them for granted
There are other things in a relationship that matter apart from sex and attraction. That basically led me to believe that every other bad thing was something I could ignore
Everything is internal. All my feelings originated from the concept of them I have in my mind. This is why people can fall out of love so quickly. The idea of the other person in your mind changes and no longer inspires those feelings within you.
Tie the feet down as well as the hands. And double knot.
That there is no such thing as “the one that got away.”
If it was meant to be, then it would have been.
Living in the past will only hinder your future.
That all my best efforts and my best version won’t be enough for some. And that’s the way it will be.
How important a proper real connection is in a relationship, not a forced one by two lonely people trying to fill a hole in their life.
And how important it is to be honest with them, but more importantly with yourself.
You’re probably more in love with the idea of the person that you’ve built up in your own mind, not the person for who they are.
You can’t then force that idea on that person.
Think about it more Analytically, there is no “One that got away”. Its the cold reality.
Not really the one that got away but a girl who i used to hook up with on and off over years. We ended up talking about the dating scene in general and I started complaining how some dates went and she went something like
“Every time someone says something about dating like women are this or men or that, add “”that I’m attracted to”” somewhere in that sentence. They tell on themselves all the time. You’re still complaining and still go for that type.”
So simple but completely changed the way I saw dating and saw people in general, especially the stuff on instagram, etc. For ex. “men are trash” obviously not saying all men are, she knows that. Just the ones she tends to be attracted to
That I needed to level up to pull that quality again.
Never pour too much of yourself into someone else.
Never invest into her more than you need to.
Never put her on a pedestal because she’s probably not all that special when you take the love goggles off.
Don’t let them get to know you too fast, it scares them away
It was me that got away
Be quiet and listen…fuck as much as possible
To not let the little head do the thinking, and I’m glad I learned it early in life… even though it was a hard & heartbreaking lesson.
Mid teens, and had a WONDERFUL little girlfriend! 🥰 That girl was marriage material even back then… but she would let me “go” as far as I wanted to go.
Ran across a random slut a pool one day who made it known that I could go as far as I’d like with her. 😵😈 Took her up on the offer, and it got back to my girlfriend, and that was the end of that. ❤️🩹 I was heartbroken and felt like the stupidest guy who’d ever lived… but I had that coming for hurting that girl with my stupidity.
Many fish and all that mumbo jumbo. . . I’ve found out that detachment and living my truth attracts people who love me for me. I have picked one of those people to mate with. If she decides to stay, that is her choice and I will love her for it. I can have detachment and love. Makes the experience of life better for me. It helped me learn that two things can be true at the same time. I can be thankful that something is gone while at the same time knowing that I had it. I can have a bad opinion about a person and still understand that I loved that person at some point in my life. I also learned you can miss someone you hate.
Loving someone isn’t enough to make them love you back. You can waste a lot of years on something that is never going to happen.
Make your play and if it fails, move on.
Don’t waste time chasing what you will never get