I’ve actually been given a promise ring before, and to be honest, it felt a little bit weird at the time. My ex had given me one when we were about six months into our relationship, saying it was a way to show how committed he was, but it kind of felt like a placeholder for an actual engagement ring. I was young, and I really wanted to believe in it, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that we were kind of rushing things. Looking back, I think a promise ring can be meaningful for some people, but for me, it was more of a symbolic gesture that didn’t really match where we were in our relationship. I don’t know, I guess it felt more like a way to mark time rather than a step toward something bigger. I wonder if anyone else felt similarly or if it just depends on where you are emotionally with the other person.
Perhaps my perspective will show here as someone who is both totally uninterested in marriage generally, and from a country where promise rings aren’t really a thing outside American media… but I don’t see the point of them as distinct from an engagement ring, really.
If you’re planning seriously to marry this person, get engaged, in whatever way is right for the two of you. If you aren’t at that point, for whatever reason – too young, not been together long enough, not quite sure yet – then you aren’t really planning to marry anyway, so what’s the point? Shrug.
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Cute if you’re a teen. If you’re an adult, commit or don’t.
It’s a joke… That’s high school stuff!!
Promise rings are for middle/high school. So if that’s your age, great. If not? I feel they’re a very childish thing for adults. Just get engaged.
As in “I promise to marry you” with this ring? Sure, I’d like that.
I.e. engagement ring
I’ve actually been given a promise ring before, and to be honest, it felt a little bit weird at the time. My ex had given me one when we were about six months into our relationship, saying it was a way to show how committed he was, but it kind of felt like a placeholder for an actual engagement ring. I was young, and I really wanted to believe in it, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that we were kind of rushing things. Looking back, I think a promise ring can be meaningful for some people, but for me, it was more of a symbolic gesture that didn’t really match where we were in our relationship. I don’t know, I guess it felt more like a way to mark time rather than a step toward something bigger. I wonder if anyone else felt similarly or if it just depends on where you are emotionally with the other person.
Perhaps my perspective will show here as someone who is both totally uninterested in marriage generally, and from a country where promise rings aren’t really a thing outside American media… but I don’t see the point of them as distinct from an engagement ring, really.
If you’re planning seriously to marry this person, get engaged, in whatever way is right for the two of you. If you aren’t at that point, for whatever reason – too young, not been together long enough, not quite sure yet – then you aren’t really planning to marry anyway, so what’s the point? Shrug.