I am 15M, 16 at the end of this year but I have always lied about my age online I don’t know why I don’t know what made me do it, but I feel like I’ve permanently caught myself in this lie I first joined social media in 2019 – 6 years ago so I was 9. I feel like this would’ve had an effect on why I had started lying about my age as you couldn’t even be on the app if you weren’t old enough. It was easy enough to lie when in friend groups, just gaming etc but as I am 15 now lying that I am 18 turning 19 later this year.
It was easy enough for me to lie as I feel I very much do not look my age nor sound it, and I feel I have a similar level of maturity and have always been told people thought I was older than I was in person. I feel this exceedingly crushing pressure that I sure tell them sometime soon, I have put it off for so long, yet it has stayed in the back of my mind.
and even worse although not dating- I fear I might ruin someone’s life if I ever were to tell them how old I really am, they are currently actually 19, we met on Valorant <- (this isn't entirely important) they are the funniest, most caring person I have ever met and we hit it off immediately but then she started flirting... and I did back and one sided as I have not shared anything and am not going to. she shared pictures, not nudes but very clearly meant sexually, and has even told me that she has masturbated to me when she was drunk. (I wasn't going to share this, but I felt it needed to be said) I am not up to ruining anyone's life, but she is legally unknowingly a pedophile now. She has expressed on multiple occasions that she loves me, and I truly do like her, but I wish we could've met later on when I was actually 18. I do not know what to do and I don't think I could ever let her know now, although I believe I should tell her even if later she even expressed wanting to meet.
A. Go ghost permanently and delete the accounts
B. Tell everyone and hope for the best
I am also very tempted to later on when people have somewhat forgotten me come back and slip into old relationships, but telling the truth as these are people, I have formed close friends and friend groups with.
PS – I know I am the one in the wrong with the girl do not beat down on me for that
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She’s not legally a pedophile lol a pedophile is someone that is attracted to children, she doesn’t know you’re 15. I would tell her before the suggestive pictures turn into nudes though because that would be distributing porn to a minor which is a felony that could do some real damage to her life.
She’s not a technical “pedophile”. She doesn’t know you a minor. You lied about your age and put yourself in this situation. If someone is started talking to told me they were a minor after sending suggestive photos and whatnot, I’d be absolutely disgusted and humiliated. You need to end this like yesterday. You could get her into serious trouble bro.
the right answer is to go ghost permanently and delete the accounts. DO NOT lead someone else on like that. that’s just wrong. delete your social media and create new profiles with your real age too.