hi! I (18F) and my partner (18M) have been together for 1.5 years. I have an anxious attachment style and tend to feel very abandoned and anxious when my partner engages in his own interests and hobbies without me. i typically feel like this when i’m by myself at home, either studying or just without plans. we often have very fulfilling quality time together, but as soon as he is productive and engaging in his hobbies with others, it leads to me feeling comparison and jealousy. i feel abandoned and need advice to detach to a healthy level and stop taking it personally when my partner has meaningful experiences with others (friends, family).
TL;DR: anxious attachment leads to feelings of abandonment and jealousy when partner engages in his own hobbies/interests with others. needing advice on how to feel complete on my own.
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Find your own hobbies to engage with and appreciate “me” time. Get in the mindset that alone time is healthy and cherish it. Codependency is toxic and drives people away.