I’m 26 and I’ve dated both younger and older women and I personally like both.
But I was on fetlife to check it out and I noticed the women were with older men women in 20s with men in 30s and women in late 20s and early 30s with men in their 50s and 40s
Do most 30-40 year old men prefer to date younger women?
If we are talking about settling down then women are going to want babies around 25-early 30s, my buddy at 25 had a gf 2 years older than him want kids but she left him for another guy that had kids and could give her kids.
if that’s when women want to settle down then being in my 30s it would make more sense I’d be able to provide for a family.
Comments
It can be exponentially easier or harder depending on you. Some dudes work on themselves and their 30s and 40s are peak time. Some just become bigger losers.
Fetlife is not a good sample of what most people experience. Men there tend to be dominant and women tend to be submissive and the age difference plays into that.
In general, it’s easier for men to date as they age iff they’re OK with single mothers and overweight partners. If you’re 36 and expect your dating pool to look like and have the lifestyle of them at your current age, you’re probably going to be disappointed unless you’re unusually good looking, charismatic, or well off.
I’m doing way better in my 30s than I did in my 20s. It’s not even close
As a vast generality without counting for the insane variability in dating and social dynamics as a whole, yes without a doubt.
Depends on your profession, income, etc.
The richer you get, the easier it gets. Conveniently, that means that the older you get, the easier dating gets
Dating is more avoidable as we age. Women are strong and independent and don’t need no man. Don’t help them.
No, dating gets easier for men as we get wealthier.
It’s just that age and wealth are somewhat correlated.
It’s in our 🧬 younger = fertile we are designed to breed 🫠
Depends if your efforts to establish yourself were fruitful or not.
Yes, especially if you have your shit together.
I found dating in my 30’s much much easier than in my 20’s. Probably because I spent most of my 20’s in Afghanistan, and I spent most of my 30’s in Seoul and Tokyo.
Yes and no. On one hand you have more “value” but there’s fewer single women to choose from. Meeting people gets a lot more difficult as you get older.
It certainly has been for me. More confidence, experience, money, and better taste in date spots. Goodbye McDonalds in my rusty old Camry, hello beachfront Italian bistro in my clean Tahoe!
It’s kind of a Punnett square. If you’re a good looking young dude, you’re still going to do ok with dating even if you’re broke and don’t have your shit together. And if you’re an older dude who’s got some money and your life is pretty well in order, you’ll do ok even if the looks and body have faded a bit.
If you’re 40+, have let your body go, and are broke, good luck…
Hell yeah.. gotta love them daddy issues
Maturity and stability, wisdom and confidence is sexy to women. While most men don’t look quite as good as they did in their 20s into their 30s and 40s, they often make up for it (or appear to) with the other things as they age. It’s not hurt at all the amount of women out there with daddy issues. So yeah, in many ways dating is easier now at 43 than it was at 23.
Maturity and stability, wisdom and confidence is sexy to women. While most men don’t look quite as good as they did in their 20s into their 30s and 40s, they often make up for it (or appear to) with the other things as they age. It’s not hurt at all the amount of women out there with daddy issues. So yeah, in many ways dating is easier now at 43 than it was at 23.
So…um…I would not start with Fetlife. The whole point there is to have an unequal power dynamic, so the age gaps are bigger. (I’m a little curious which way they go with F/m couples but I’m not reactivating my account so I can see a sea of everyone’s dick pics and photos of their boobs with clothespins on.)
Generally while a lot of guys would like to date younger women, not a lot of younger women want to date much older guys unless they’re rich, very good looking, rich, very charismatic, rich, or rich. Leonardo DiCaprio gets away with it because he’s a legendary movie idol. A 2-3 year age gap is much more common.
But does it get easier? If you’re successful, yes. When women want to settle down they prize financial stability more heavily. But if you’re middle-aged and broke, you won’t do well.
After about 30 or so there tend to be a lot of single moms in the dating pool because, well, people have kids as they get older. Also more overweight women because, well, more overweight people, it takes time to gain weight and your metabolism slows.
Now if you’re old enough (like 70s), you start doing really well because your competition starts dying off. Stay in shape!
I forgot all about fetlife. I want to say it is but it would depend person to person. I have no skill with the ladies.
Fetlife is a specific group of people. So tough to apply to the general population.
Since most woman are subs or switches, being with older male doms works with the dynamic.
Lastly, older Doms are more experienced and can create a safer environment for an inexperienced (aka younger) sub.
If Fetlife is something you want to explore, especially as a Dom, go with an older switch for casual fum. Need to learn by someone experienced and has been a dom and subs themselves.
Way easy when you’re older and rich. Those young’ns come flocking. You gotta have money though. Otherwise, you’re just old
The answer is no unless you’re rich or have a great social life. I’ll be honest I got a lot of girls in my 20s, tall, good looks and a decent career.
But when I hit my 30s, the lifestyle just changes. Unless you have a very social life, where you’re meeting lots of people and women, you just don’t get to meet as many women as when you’re younger. That simple
No, you just lose intrest as you come to realize that all that’s left are the women nobody wants (or have never wanted) and that you’re better off alone.
I think as you get older, you gry more authentically self-confident, and that makes you seem more attractive.
When I was 27/28, I wasn’t any richer than I was at 22/23, but I went from I couldn’t get a date to having my choices.
Dating becomes easier for men the more ESTABLISHED you are.
Depends. I haven’t tried dating anyone in a bit but my last attempt was unbelievable. She had just turned 30 for reference. She sent me link to a google spreadsheet that was basically an interview. I wish I was making this up and I wish I saved it. It was like 40ish questions long and included income questions like how much I paid in taxes last year down to the exact dollar, how much I contribute to my retirement accounts and what my matching rates are, and if there is room for growth at my current position. Then was the health questions. If my family had any genetic abnormalities, if anyone in my immediate family had cancer at any point, if any of the men in my family were under 5’10”. Genuinely bat shit crazy stuff. I have never ghosted and blocked anyone harder in my life.
Her friends were friends of my friends, which is how I met her, and I saw them by chance at a get together at a mutual friends house. They were ripping on me for ghosting her until I told them about the list of questions and they couldn’t believe it. They had no idea she was doing that to dudes and couldn’t figure why she was chronically single until I told them. It all clicked for them at that point.
So in my experience, it doesn’t get easier. Just more of the same crazy garbage to sift through.
No. as you get older the pool of women who are available largely end up in worse situations. Many end up divorced (which can be no big deal or a huge deal depending on their life circumstance) many have kids (some full time, some part time, some 1 some 3 some 5) some end up with lots of debt (from divorces and kids) many come with baggage, they dont trust men because some jerk did X or they drink a lot because their ex used to drink a lot, or they dont like you seeing them naked cause their body doesnt look like it used to… its all totally a legitimate way to feel but you see a lot less of it in your 20’s. a lot of the ones not in these situations havent met a guy and if you speak to them for like 15 minutes you can soon ascertain why.
to be clear – im not hating on any women who fall into these categories, we all go through life and make our own messes and pack our own bags and carry those until we decide we dont need to carry them any more. but all of these factors make it super hard to navigate dating. its hard to get intimate with a guy when you have a 3yo crying because mum is paying attention to a dude, its hard to plan for the future when you have to navigate 20K of debt with a new bloke before you can start saving for a house deposit. its hard to make a relationship public when you have a crazy ex husband and his family throwing abuse at you on Facebook because “how dare you leave him when he was at his lowest, unemployed and cheating on you”.
look, theres still some great women out there! for sure! but it’s not like in your 20’s where most girls just want to go to trendy bars and drink sangria and experiment with bdsm
I think for most men yes. I think many people finally figure themselves out and realize that finding someone you’re attracted to isn’t skin deep. Both for men and women.
Yes, so long as you look mature and clean. It’s not about wealth, it’s about life experience and interest. I don’t have anything in my bio alluding to whether I’m wealthy or successful or anything-all it says is that I’m a mechanic.
What a weird post
I was 26, pretty good looking, and in great shape and I could get attention but dating was tough. At 28 I made $450,000. I bought an M4 and got a sweet apartment and it was much easier. Being attractive helps tremendously but its almost like you can never close the loop unless you are doing okay.
For reference I was simply broker and then very much not broke. Tis is sales