I will just put it bluntly.
Perhaps the most unconventional aspect of my lifestyle is my lack of concern with money or status.
I am not sure what to say other than I prefer a simple lifestyle. I really am a believer in the maxim ‘Mo money mo problems.’ At least that has been my experience so far in life.
I live a simple lifestyle which is very insular and not too concerned with the world around me. I build my life around music, working hard, having fun, relaxing and well, weed. I know it is an alternative lifestyle. But I am autistic and have never done great living a public life. So, a private life of happy simplicity is by far best for me.
Perhaps a man in his early 20s, or even his entire 20s can get away presenting himself like this and getting dates. I am having a harder time in my late 30s presenting myself this way.
Please do not get me wrong. I realize my lifestyle would only appeal to a small percentage of women. And that is totally fine. I am not looking to just hook up. I am looking for a long lasting and spiritual connection with the right person 🙂
I am happy to explain myself better. But it is best for all involved if I limit my search to the internet and dating apps. But I really am lost in where to start. I have tried some of the subreddits on here that I thought would be appropriate like ‘simple living’ but I never seem to understand what they are about there. Not a judgement. I just think I am looking for something different than they are.
I know this is a rather unconventional question. Thank you so very much 🙂
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Well first thing first you’re gonna have to filter out all the women who have kids or want kids because kids are fuckin expensive.
I think you can have better luck finding that woman by meeting people while getting into the kinds of hobbies that tend to attract people with your same values. Online dating is not it.
Well Motor Feed, seems the big question is finding a woman into , more or less, voluntary life poverty. They are out there , no doubt. But some questions first.
How do you handle medical insurance? Do you want children ? Do you have a car? What kind of job do you have ? Gig work & barter? What sort of housing do you have? Is it owned?
Sometimes it’s how you define simple living. I’m not saying this is you because you don’t say, but – Some people who live in their mom’s house as an adult and smoke weed and play video games may describe themselves as someone who lives simply because they have a low cost of living and are happy that way. That’s not attractive to most women.
Are you able to support yourself? What is your living situation?
If you’re independent financially and not seeking someone to help you pay the bills, that’s a great start.
The other thing since you’re in your late 30’s is many women in that age bracket have children. Are you open to being a father figure? If your lifestyle as you say is heavy on weed, that’s concerning for a single mom.