Not just on the outside, on the inside too. I’m using a throwaway, cause well, I’m embarrassed to state it simply. I’m hideous, I edit my pictures and use filters so people think i’m pretty when i’m not. Overall, I’m a very jealous and insecure person. I find it hard to be happy for my friends and family when they make big accomplishments, as I wish it was me but it’ll never be. I waste my days away feeling sorry for myself, alone in my disaster of a room, all I do is self harm, eat, and masturbate. I’m a loser. I’m failing school and I most likely will not graduate high-school at the rate i’m going at. I don’t date like most kids my age. I’m just this. I’m miserable, and irritable and I drive everyone away.
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The good news is you are aware of it, and you know it’s a problem.
The real question is, do you want to do anything about it or not?
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Maybe you have a disability. Don’t fret. Things get better.
If you’re in high school you’re young.
If you’re young you have a chance.
But only if you want it.
Don’t be so hard on yourself.
Don’t focus on moods or emotions. Instead focus on your purpose and direction and most importantly DISCIPLINE YOU ALSO NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF.
I DONT CARE HOW HARD IT IS.
YOU LOVE YOHRSELF AS MUCH AS YOU CAN AND YOU HANG ON.
LIFE WILL HURT YOU.
BUT DONT LET YOUR LIFE BE SELF SABOTAGING.
BE ABOVE YOUT LOWER SELF.
THINGS GET BETTER KEEP REMINDING YOURSELF THAT EVEN IF YOU DONT SEE IT IN FRONT OF YOU.
MUCH LOVE SENT YOUR WAY.
IVE ALSO FELT THE WAY YOU DO.
THE ONLY THING THATS HELPED ME.
IS TO BELIVE IN MYSELF.
REMEMBER MONEY IS EASY.
WHAT BRINGS RICHES IS
BELIEVING IN YOURSELF.
DONT GIVE UP ON YOUR LIFE.
LIFE IS A REAL GIFT.
I HOPE MY WORDS HELP YOU.
AS I WISH SOMEONE GAVE ME THE SAME THING.
Hit the gym and lower your standards. You’ll get a few lays and your confidence up.
Trust me, you’re not alone. ALOT of people feel this way in high school. I’m not downplaying what you’re going through, I can only tell you that it gets better.
Your perception of yourself is a reality that only exists in your perspective. Doesn’t mean it’s the truth.
Better days will come, you just have to tell yourself that.
It can be hard to take action when you already have things taking a toll on you but small steps.
Start with fixing the negative self talk. High vibrational energy attracts high vibrational energies. If you’re happy for others, you respect yourself enough to know you deserve it too, this means you believe in yourself and will take steps towards that.
You’re beautiful.
Oriente toi vers un psy et un coach de vie, pour ton bien-ĂŞtre, ta santĂ© mentale et retrouver de l’estime pour ta personne.
these comments are terrible, but im going to give you some advice i wish someone gave me when i was in high school. This feeling that you’re feeling, great news! Its temporary. In fact, it sounds like you may be experiencing some symptoms of depression and the great news is that as you finish out puberty (and trust me sometimes puberty lasts until you’re 19 or so) you will start to feel better and better! I felt this way when I was in high school, in fact I even dropped out. However once I had some time to just bedrot for like a year I got a part time job, and realized that people really do like me! That I am not as ugly as I thought, (a coworker wanted to set me up with her roommate), I got a boyfriend that I am still with now. I started school again! The point of what I am saying is that nothing lasts forever, especially not these unhappy feelings. I also want to say, people tend to get more attractive as they enter their early 20’s. the babyfat falls off your face, and a few other changes occur. My final piece of advice, is to keep your head up! You may feel like this is just happening to you, but it happened to me, and it happened to lots of people I know. Stay in school, take an extra year to graduate or move to online high school if you think that’d be easier. Just keep trying to better yourself and take everything as it comes. If you aren’t in it already, id recommend therapy. It helped me a lot. I would also recommend doing daily meditation (there are plenty of free meditation apps), taking walks as often as you can, and journaling about your feelings and thoughts. Small changes can make such huge differences! And I didnt believe it until I started doing it, and then it just hits you one day, like wow is this how normal people feel every day?
Ashley?
You’re not alone. A lot of people in their 40s still feel this way. Try to find a 1-thing positive each day. Hold it. Repeat the next day. You’ll build your collection.
Well you might be ugly, but you can workout and get a killer body. Do that instead of this. I was once like you but then I said fuck that shit. You only get one time in this life, fuck it make the most of it. Who cares if youre ugly there’s lots of ugly people, doing big things. Get your ass up and get out there. Who knows what will happen. Start right now go to the gym! Only you can do it!
I have spoken to many people who feel the exact same way about themselves, sweetie, and I told them this: true beauty starts from within, and that’s what truly makes people beautiful on the outside. I would love to know exactly what it is that you don’t like about yourself because I could tell you what you could do to feel better. I’m sure that you’re a beauty, but if you’re not happy within, you just don’t see it.
“I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. I can’t imagine how overwhelming all of this must be for you. It’s really brave of you to put your feelings into words and reach out like this. You don’t have to go through this alone — there are people who care and want to help I’m sure. It might not feel like it right now, but things can get better with support. Have you considered talking to someone who can help, like a counselor? As far as your classes are going at school as well maybe that class is not challenging enough or they are not helping you enough for your grades to get better. They can offer guidance and tools to help you navigate things when it comes to graduating. You deserve support, kindness, and a chance to feel better so don’t drive everyone away if they are trying to help. If you ever feel like you’re in immediate danger, please don’t hesitate to reach out to someone you trust or a mental health professional. You matter, and your feelings are valid.”
Oh you’re in high school? You’re going to look totally different in like 5 to 10 years
“the first step in change is self awareness”- every therapist i’ve had so bascislly you’re on the right path i think
One thing at a time- a doctor once told me we only have the energy to tackle one thing we’d like to change at a time. Make a list and prioritize. Start on number one. I’ve quit drinking, nicotine, dropped 75 pounds (help from weight loss surgery) and most recently moved myself out of a job I was beginning to hate. I had been trying to do all of these things for years. The difference was I finally took this advice ^. One thing at a time.
I’m 33 & connected with your whole post. I never felt this way until now. I am trying lexapro
These thoughts are an addiction start by replacing one at a time with a better addiction like loving one simple thing about you. And add from there. Please start before those thoughts consume your life and you either wake up realizing those thoughts stopped you from living, they convince you to remove your light from this plain or you do something because of these thoughts that alter your life in a way that’s irreversible.
No you are not!!!!!
Well, it’s like this; Things will only continue the way they are if you allow it. You are giving yourself the excuse to continue living this way.
I would suggest you start by finding a counselor of some sort, maybe go through your public aid and find someone that takes Medicaid and stuff. If you don’t have health insurance then you need to get on Google and start looking up solutions on finding a good counselor somehow. Then you, along with them, can figure out the right medication for it and you will have a licensed professional helping you.
And stop thinking this way. Stop berating yourself, stop stomping on your own dreams. How do you ever expect anyone to respect you when you yourself are showing them it’s ok to mistreat and abuse you because you’re your own worst bully. You can be an incredibly beautiful human being inside and out once you learn that you deserve better and start treating yourself accordingly. You can have good things in this life if you just get out of your own way, sugar.
You can start working out. If you are too shy or scared to work out in public in front of others, then you can search work out videos on YouTube or Google them. Start at home in private, that way you’re making actual progress but you’re not having to face the anxiety. Practice talking to yourself more positively. Start wearing clothes that compliment your body type, colors that blend with your complexion and style. Figure out what you love and don’t want.
Start cleaning out your home. If you come across something that is just sitting there and isn’t bringing something good into your life? Toss it. Which, in all honesty, you can do that with your entire life. If it doesn’t serve you or a true purpose in your life? Fucking toss it. If it’s bad, if it’s negative, no matter who or what it is…. Get rid of it. You have far too much negativity as it is with the way you treat and speak to yourself. You don’t need anything nor anyone else to help you with that.
Take back control of your life from whatever bottomless void you’ve allowed to take over.
Or, if you want, you can just stay exactly where you are doing the exact same shit you’re doing now. Absolutely nothing. And you can allow yourself to wallow in this cesspool of jealousy, anger, bitterness and resentment, instead of actually getting up and doing something about it to change your life. Like, you can have everything everyone else has, you just actually have to get up off your ass and work for it.
So it’s all up to you. If you want it badly enough you will find a way to get it done. Remember that whatever you choose to do is on YOU.
Stop thinking that about yourself. It is not true. You may be in a bad place rn but life is full of ebbs and flows. What you need to do is change the energy around you. Surround yourself with good people, volunteer at a charity and do this every wkend for the foreseeable future. Focus on your school work. Exercise: The harder you work today will pay off in future. My strongest recommendation is to find God – Your local church (whatever faith that you choose) will welcome you with open arms.
Oh hey, me too
Damn ur so real for this, don’t give up though. That’s the only thing that will actually make all of this true trust me
I feel this way too.
Me too. So fuck off bruh
You’re just feeling this way because you are a teenager and that’s the toughest age. It will get better. I’ve felt exactly as you feel. But it turned out I wasn’t hideous like I thought I was. Give yourself grace for still being immature at a young age. Most people are way more insecure than they let on, you arent any worse than anyone else. You’re just figuring things out. Becoming a good person, becoming an interesting person, learning discipline, it all takes practice. You just have to start somewhere.
Try to see a psychiatrist, my problem was that I needed antidepressants. They could help you too. I wish I had started them before college so I wouldn’t have wasted my time. It’s ok to waste high school but don’t waste college. If you don’t graduate high school, get your GED then go to community college, then transfer to a four year college. Not the end of the world.
When you get to college, don’t waste it. Learn a skill and become an expert in a field. If you fail a class, just take it again, it won’t matter once you graduate. You’ll be fine. You’re still at the very beginning of your life, it’s barely started yet.
You are a child of God. You are set apart and God has a plan for you. See yourself as God sees you . Perfectly and wonderfully made. He loves you so much he sent his son to bare your sins so that you didn’t have to. You are made in His image and everything he is you are also. Serve others, forgive everyone, and love unconditionally.
Awareness is huge. You got this.
Go work out. Seriously. You probably won’t read this, but if you do I was you not all that long ago. Like straight up wrote a self hate letter that read almost word for word of your post.
Just take all that anguish to the gym. Or for run or a hike. Daily basis. Give it a week, starting is the hardest part. It gets fun and you’ll fall in love with yourself. Your confidence you gain will help ease your pain.
Im not in any better shape or anything, I just feel better and not like dying.
Don’t allow negative thoughts and emotions totally consume you fight back.
Look, birds and fish and lions don’t overthink that much. And don’t place value on themselves by any subjective scale. They live their lives. Period.
You’re not invaluable for “being ugly inside and out and not doing anything”. You’re a member of our species, you have value and you deserve love and care. Yes, from yourself too.
Don’t take pictures of yourself for a while, it’s better than edit them. And go do stuff. Whatever takes you out the house. Follow your curiosity. Go to the nature and wonder! Do you know how amazing animals are? They’re fun to watch! And the trees are amazing oxygen producing machines, and they’re beautiful! You have the chance to enough all of that. Better yet -you are part of that beauty. Hence, you’re beautiful.
And maybe take someone to watch the birds with you.Â
When I have read institute… you have time to CHANGE YOUR WHOLE LIFE, take advantage of this stage, build a good physique, study something with a good job opportunity, IMPROVE your social skills, see something psychologist, do some contact sports, improve your diet and your life will change COMPLETELY
You need to fear for your life (a scare), and to grow up. Gratitude is what you need.
So do something about it
Go to the gym, get a therapist, clean your room
No one’s coming to save you
you sound a bit depressed.
find something you love, and do it.
Jesus loves you! You were made in his image and you have a purpose ✨️ ❤️
Lean into it. No the self harm but the rest. Try it on as a personality on purpose and see how it feels. The world needs all kinds. You might actually be an interesting person which is very rare. You do you.
Won’t lie, I feel the exact same way.
Hey sweetheart. I just wanted to tell you that you are not ugly, even though you may feel like that. Sometimes our feelings tell us lies like the one that you mentioned above. You were created in the image of God Himself and you were wonderfully and faithfully made- don’t let society and the so called beauty standards lie to you.
Because I lije to read people’s comments on posts, there are a lit of good comnent that people respond with, DON’T drop out of school!!!! If your lacking the credits to graduate, go back for a 5th year of highschool, shit I know one guy that took 6 years to complete highschool!!! LOL I don’t have the self loathing you seem to have but have been plagued with really bad ADHD most of my life, but I’ve still managed to to pretty good for myself over the years, not in marriage unfortunately, but my other endeavors have proved to be fruitful over the years. Finish high school, don’t worry about dating, maybe even consider going to a trade school after you graduate high school, all the young guys that use to work for me in their late teens arr now in their late 20s and doing quite well for themselves, halving seen 5 or 6 of these younger guys maybe consider something like this dor yourself, I know a younger women in her late 20s that’s actually a realky good Subaru mechanic, some ofcthese I know sound like a man’s job but over the last 20 years I’ve seen more and more women doing these types of jobs that was unheard of 40 years ago, and to me the important part, they do really like the field of work that they’re in!!! LOL
So do something about it. I know easier said than done. I’m not a Dr, but you sound like you’re suffering from some serious depression at the very least. Get help. See a therapist, maybe a psychiatrist. They can help guide you to a better life.
I used to suffer from crippling depression. I would sleep 14 hours a day and go to work and that was it. I had psychomotor retardation (so depressed that my speech, movement and reaction times were affected) and flat affect (numb, no emotion). Wouldn’t shower for weeks.
I got help and now I’m living my best life. I’m the happiest I’ve been in my life. I made friends. I go out to karaoke and dancing. I’m working 2 jobs that don’t suck and going to school. My psychiatrist told me I’m the poster child for psychiatric help success.
Now I’m not going to tell you it was easy. I’ve been on more different meds than I can count trying to find the right ones. Therapy is hard work. You have to face up to your problems. And finding the right professional for you is kind of like dating you have to find someone you click with. But it’s so worth it!
But you have to take the first step and reach out like you’re doing here on reddit. Good job! Now get out there and get some real help. With telehealth, you may not even need to leave your room. Please get help! People care about you! You are a worthwhile person! You deserve happiness! Let me know if there’s anything I can do.
Youre in school, dont crush yourself before youve even started. Go talk to a therapist, make your parents do it or grab one of those 20 million apps they have like zocdoc or whatever. If you dont feel cool talking to them then just move on to the next without giving a shit. Basically find someone that you can say what you just to. They will knock down every single negative evil sentence you just hit yourself with. You then just do that over and over and over til you realize you need to stop punching yourself in the face over and over.
Soon you will be like, holy shit why do i keep punching myself in the face like this?
Just want to throw it out there to look into PMDD to see if that’s a cause.
If it’s not, it’s normal to feel this way at your age and it will get better, especially if you try your hardest to stay positive.