Firstly, sorry for my spelling and writing—English isn’t my strongest, but I really need to get this out.
Let me tell you all about it, because this situation is messy.
My stepsister (F30) has been with her husband (M31) since they were 17 or 18. They had a child who sadly passed away in 2015, and now they have two kids together.
About a year ago, my stepsister wanted to break up with him. I think she was going through some kind of age crisis and felt like she wanted to meet other people. Her husband completely lost it—he threatened to take his own life and tried to stop her from leaving. Then suddenly, their relationship seemed “good” again. They were “in love” and said they’d stay together for the kids and financial reasons. Her husband even started talking about wanting another baby.
Fast forward to about five weeks ago—he starts talking more and more to my stepsister’s best friend. It got weird, like they were cleaning a boat together at night… yeah, super strange.
Three weeks ago, he told my stepsister he wanted to break up, but didn’t say why. Obviously, she was heartbroken because she still loved him. The very next day, he admitted he was in love with her best friend. She was devastated but told him he could come home once he was 100% sure about what he wanted.
Did he come home the next day? Nope. He left her at home with their two kids, claiming he was staying at a hotel far away—which was suspicious because there are hotels way closer. When he finally came back, he said he was definitely in love with the best friend.
At some point after that, I heard he even slept over at my stepsister’s place one night. My stepsister confronted her best friend and said, “It’s either me—our friendship—or my husband.” The friend responded, “Oh, I’ll always choose you, every day,” and also said, “I don’t love him.”
But then, because she didn’t return his feelings, he again threatened to take his own life and apparently took 100 allergy pills.
And then—this morning—I woke up to a text from my other sister about a post. I was confused like, “What post?” Well… turns out the best friend has now decided to be in a relationship with him. Like, are you kidding me? I’m getting angrier just typing this.
Oh, and to make it worse—she’s now lying to my stepsister about it, trying to pretend she’s not even with him.
I don’t even know what to say or do. This whole thing is so messed up.
I just want to smash there face’s but at the same way be calm about the whole situation. I want to be there for my stepsister but at the same time I feel like I can’t handle that drama mentally right now.
What shall I do? How should I act?
Update: I just heard that he said immediately went to my stepsister’s best friends house after leaving the kids and saying he can’t stay the night. Ugh.
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>What shall I do? How should I act?
You support your sister in whatever decision she makes and otherwise stay out of it because it doesn’t concern you.
You can be petty. I would trash her reputation. Send messages to her workplace that she is a homewrecker. Even trash her house with toilet papers. And him. He is a loser. He deserves a woman like her ex bff. Just watch when your stepsister finds another man. Man like him only wants someone to be interested in him.
he’s mentally unstable, stepsister needs to document everything and file for divorce.
What do you do? Stay out of it. Support your sister. Cut her husband & so called friend cold.
I would tell your stepsister to gather evidence of the cheating quietly even if she wants to try to stay with him after this. If she changes her mind or he leaves her having evidence of infidelity could greatly impact potential divorce and custody arrangements. Otherwise support stepsister the best you can. Best friend and husband SUCK. I’d be just as pissed off as you and I’m even mad for your stepsister and I’m just a random internet stranger.
Your stepsister needs to be rid of her husband who is unstable, a drama queen, a liar, and just generally not husband material. But what you do, is simple be there for her and let her make her own decisions. If you get in the middle of it, it will come back to haunt you especially if you tell her how awful he is and then they get back together.