Hello everyone! I need your help…I’m almost 38 years old female, single, no kids, wanting a relationship for ages but for some reason I meet men that are not serious, therefore, I’m not really taken seriously. However, I am fully aware I need to step out of my comfort zone which I’m scared but I am ready to do (I was in love with a man I met here on Reddit but he didn’t feel the same). Some obstacles I have are the following: I don’t have a car but I can Uber or do Lyft, and my working hours – I work on Saturdays and sometimes I find It hard to go on a date during the weekends. I work 10am-7pm and by the time I get out of the office I’m super tired. I am ready to make sacrifices in order to find the love of my life. Any suggestions on how to put myself out there? I don’t really have friends that I can go out in the city I live in, I’m just solo I don’t even have family here. Thank you so much 😊
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Dating apps?
Hmm. Given your busy schedule, I think I’d try to sort of kill two, maybe three birds with one stone here and join some type of mixed gender physical activity group so that you can get your exercise (and maybe fresh air?) and hopefully meet some nice men at the same time. Bonus points for if you can make some new friends this way, too! Tactically, I would pick something with a slightly higher cost of entry as I think you’re more likely to find older, more established people there compared to something like just a running group (which probably attracts a younger crowd). Also, I’m not sure but rumour has it the sport attracts more men than women without being a total sausage fest.
FWIW, I know several people who’ve met their partners through climbing/bouldering so that would be my personal first dart at the wall – although of course this ultimately depends on your own preferences and aptitudes!
I think if you may want to focus on making friends and building up your social life and hobbies. People that have a life make more attractive partners, plus you may meet someone socially.
I say pick a hobby start doing it regularly and meet people that way AND also create a dating profile. Get super serious about it. It’s a part-time job for real.
If you can, get into therapy, and start consistently discussing your dating life with the therapist. a good one will help you navigate this crazy world while also helping you improve yourself and notice your shortcomings. good luck! also if a guy is wishy washy kick him to the curb. aint nobody got time for that. the right man will NEVER make you guess his feelings.
Try dating apps (and reddit r4r subs, i know i didn’t end well before, but give it a shot). Join hobby based meetups, go to events or coffee shops during lunch
Not sure what you do for work, but networking is a great way to meet new people without having to fake interest in something. Networking meetups at bars and restaurants seem to give enough of a casual feel that people feel comfortable asking others out.
Remain persistent and optimistic in your search. You will find the person for you. 💗
**You have many options like dating apps, local events, hobby clubs, instructional classes like dance or pottery, travel groups, etc. Find a few niche groups and go from there.
Thank you everyone. I’ll try what I can and my best I will keep you posted and hopefully I can find the man of my dreams. 😍🥰