I need to take a break and cut off my family for the time being.

(M20)

I’ve always had issues with my family. Especially my parents. I won’t lie to you internet parents, I used to lie a lot, I wasn’t a good person.

But I’ve found Faith now, in God. And you can take that as you will but it’s given me a reason in life.

I moved out of my parents house last year after my parents kicked me out at 19 because I wasn’t bending to their will.

The way my family and parents are is- everything has to be THEIR way. If I don’t listen, deviate from the “plan” or decide to do something else, I’m berated, screamed at, called names, etc.

My entire family holds grudges. They bring up stuff I did when I was 14 and compare it to now, insinuating how Im never going to change (I rarely see anyone so how do I change their view?)

When I decide I want a break, or need space, they call me selfish, they tell me that I’m the reason no one likes me or cares about my Faith. They say the way I’m changing is not conformed to their way so it’s selfish.

My parents are the worst of this, majority of what I described is my parents, and my family encourages it.

A side note too, my parents were a fan of corporal punishment and still are. My dad still sometimes threatens me physically by threatening to “grab me by the neck”

And he’s done it before when I was like 17

The rest of my family are drunks, could care less what happens if it doesn’t benefit them, or worse.

Honestly, I’ve reflected on this for a couple months, and I think it’s time to be “that” guy in the family.

No contact whatsoever for my parents or family. I’ve already done the liberty of removing them from social media and just don’t feel like this is a family. I have a lot of good friends including my like-brother best friend and church friends.

I just need some advice. Part of me feels bad especially since I know I have not always been a good son, nephew, brother, etc. But I’m not the only one at fault and it’s always blaming me..