Ever since I was younger, I have always had a preference for men who were way older than me. For reference, I am 21 and most of the guys I find myself attracted to are 40+ besides one exception. It’s been this way since I was a little. I’m 70-80% sure I am this way since my first crush when I was around 8 years old was my dad’s friend. It’s definitely a physical thing since I like common traits in older men like grey hair, wrinkles, bald guys, increased body hair, and deeper, raspy voices. I also think that, for the most part, older men have been a lot kinder to me than guys my age. It’s probably just because they see me as a kid, but still.
My issue is that it’s gotten worse recently to where I can’t really find men my age attractive at all. Sometime I’ll catch myself eyeing a random man in public and it’s so embarrassing. Hopefully this is just a prolonged phase because I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable. I’m worried that I’ll have to wait a decade or so in order to date because of this preference. (potentially fetish but hopefully not)
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I think they are more kind to you because you are attractive and young.
Maybe explore to your past a bit more, and see where it stemmed from in your childhood. Was you “crush” flirting with you? Did he make you feel special? Perhaps there’s is more there than it just being a ‘crush’, and this is why you hold on to that age preference in men.
I think as long as you are being treated respectfully it’s ok since you are a consenting adult, but it makes me wonder why an older man would want someone half his age… it’s usually not for the right reasons.
RIP your DMs
Men in their 20s suck, it gets a little better in your 30s, but I’ve also always been attracted to older men because I don’t want to date someone who doesn’t have their life together.
I’ve always liked older men myself. I’m currently 50 and the man I like is 56. So the age gap is very minimal.
My ex sister in laws husband is like 20 years older than her. They seem happy enough. But RIP to your inbox lol
RIP to your DMs
All good. I was 19 when I married a man 12 years my senior. We’re at 25 amazing years together. You’re a big girl, old enough to know what you want, old enough to vote, old enough to drink, and old enough to die in a pointless war.
Enjoy your youth and go hit up those silver foxes!
I mean, shit, we all got our preferences and kinks. Don’t be ashamed for what you like. Just keep doing you and being you.
I’ve always been the same, something about a weathered man just gets me going haha but now I’m 35 and realizing older men want younger women. So, get one now while you can lol
I married a man 18 years older than me and that cured it for me. 12 years of that marriage and I will never date an older man again.
Ewwww
At least as you get older they’ll theoretically get wealthier with paid off houses, lol
I understand you completely. I’m 26 and want to pursue a man thats 50. I’m extremely drawn to him and I don’t know why. I think about him constantly. Unfortunately I met him at my job.
Mesophilia.
No you’re not a perv. Everyone prefers someone. It may just be harder to find someone since the group maybe be more limited. But don’t feel Ike there’s something wrong with you.
Some stuff that I have read, even though I am not a trained psychologist, is that some women look for stability. An older man who has a steady job, financial stability, and is able to take care of your needs checks all the boxes. Personally, this is something that talking to a professional may lead to better answers and advice.