So I go on a date with a guy and I only eat by myself on the table whilst he just watches me eat đ
I even offered to share my plate or even pressure him to buy something but he doesnât eat. He only has a glass of water. The waiter even asked him if heâs gonna order anything which he said no
He doesnât order food for himself as he didnât like the food menu so I just order for myself and he pays the bill in the end
He spent like 5 minutes going through the menu and decided he donât want nothing.
The restaurant is a high end restaurant and he knew if he had ordered food for himself the bill would have doubled.
But I also noticed he wonât even go out for cheap food either. He just wants to âchill indoorsâ
I felt embarrassed just eating in front of him like that. I feel like it wasnât even an actual date
This guy doesnât even like going out even if itâs cheap food
Would you say this is weird ?
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Why didnât yall go somewhere else? Since you said he didnât like the food menu. Thatâd be awkward for me lol
Yes, but a very entertaining date story! Thank you for sharing!
Yes, weird. If he didn’t like the food why not just ask to change the restaurant?
Yes, that is weird.
Who chose the place? Who was paying? Is there some kind of cultural, religious, or dietary choice (like fasting) he subscribes to that would make him only have water?
Sounds like he’s either broke, a child who can’t find one thing on an entire menu he can eat, not assertive enough to suggest a different place that has something he wants to eat, or he wasn’t disclosing something about him that would restrict him from eating at that time.
I think itâs weird on both sides. Why not go somewhere that had food you both enjoyed?
I donât think so , I mean he just didnât like the menu..He might be following a certain diet or simply couldnât find something that he would actually eat and he didnât want it to go waste. If anything else about his vibe overall was fine then I donât think itâs weird.
When I’m incredibly anxious I don’t typically show any signs of it outwardly but absolutely cannot eat anything at all. The thought of eating food is equal to the thought of eating dog poop. I simply cannot and will not do it. He MAY have just been nervous to be out with a pretty lady đ
Kinda weird as an experience sure but from your comments it just seems like he wasnât feeling the menu, maybe it was too expensive or just looked unappetizing to him. It wouldnât be like a dealbreaker for me or anything.
Laughing because dating as a celiac must be this way. Does he have any food allergies?
Otherwise, I once met a guy who wouldn’t eat any vegetable. Even ketchup was “yucky.” He was in his 30’s and going blind from nutritional deficiencies. Survived off meat and gushers. Don’t go for a guy like that lol
When my husband and I first started dating he did this. It was because he had dental issues and no money to get them fixed, eating hurt so he ate âweirdâ. He would try to plan activities that didnât involve food, he would only order food he could take home and not eat in front of other people. He could eat in front of me, just not anyone else. Then there was the time he just watched me eat. Thatâs when I addressed it with him.
Once he explained it, I understood. He prioritized saving to get his teeth fixed. We kept going out to eat and we just planned our order to be something I could eat while there and then something Iâd want to eat later at home.
He also just really doesnât care for food in general so restaurant food is more for me than him.
I asked a guy to meet me for lunch at a cafe and he asked to reschedule to 4pm. Dude changes location to an Irish pub and buys me a beer then sits down and watches me sip it. Iâm like eh? And he says heâs sober and I say well I donât like beer. After 55mins he says he has to get going, as if this was a client appointment. Awkward asf
Is he a feeder lol?
Is he Edward Cullen? Lol
It’s a little weird, but if he was relaxed about it, then I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it.
He might have a medical condition. But itâs weird to suggest dinner if he knows he most likely wonât eat anything.
This would be uncomfortable to me, and if that happened, I think I would ask to box the food to take home and do something else.
Was the restaurant so exotic that he couldn’t find anything to eat?
I used to do this, but I was upfront about it. Guys would ask me out to dinner at, like, 7pm. I eat dinner at about 4. I told them Iâd happily join them, but Iâd only have a cocktail or wine.
He should have checked the menu ahead of time or suggested an alternative if he didnât like the food.
Yeah, I’m pretty sure you went out with a vampire since they don’t eat. Wasn’t this in Twilight?
Two follow-up questions:
I could see how it would be uncomfortable, especially for a first date. I donât think it was too weird or you shouldnât see him again. He can pick next time.
It can be weird and awkward, but it can potentially come from 100% kindness. Still, itâs different if this is with someone you know vs a relative stranger.
I had a date with an ex like this – I had left my iPad at his place, but didnât want to bother him during the workweek my mentioning it, since he lived an hour away (& I was trying to arrange to get myself there to pick it up, unbeknownst to him). Well, he decides to spend a whole evening (2 hr drive total) bringing it back, and took me out to my favorite local restaurant. It turns out he didnât get anything because he already ate. He was literally just being nice, and I was a bit of a brat who was secretly miffed he was too tired to make out before he drove all the way back home.
Have you considered with his taste in location and lack of human food, that he is a vampire?
In all seriousness, he could be fasting. If you decide on a second date, definitely ask.