I (23f) am supposed to move in with my mom and my older brother this may, but I just don’t feel like it’s a good idea for me. I’ve struggled massively with my mental health for years and a big part of that is dealing with how my mom treated me as a kid. I’m worried if I live with her I’m just gonna regress and move backwards in life.
Her dad just passed, and she lives in another state and is looking the relocate where my brother and I are. She can afford to live with just him and he is fine financially so it’s not like I would be screwing them over, just their cost of living will be higher without me.
If I live with her it’ll be 5 cats and 2 large dogs in a 3 bedroom house. I currently live by myself with just my 3 cats and it’s very manageable. But I do pay a little bit more in rent than I would like to and recognize if I stayed with her it’ll be somewhat cheaper but not by much. I already told my apartment complex I would be moving in 2 months, but it hasn’t been too long and I’m hoping I could still retain mylease.
I’m supposed to call and talk to her tonight. Shes going to be so angry and disappointed in me. I cant stand it. But that’s all that’s stopping me.
Am I making the right decision? Am I being too selfish?
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