I’m my dreams I know he’s supposed to be dead, I say out loud “you’ve been gone for so long, why are you here?” but he’s always there. Almost every dream he makes an appearance. That cat was my soul when he was alive, the day he died, what was left of my already broken soul was shattered. I can’t get over him. I still cry about him. He is so REAL in my dreams. I get to love him again every night I close my eyes, but I wake up sad. I know people will think this is “stupid” or “I’ve lost so and so human and that’s what real pain is”, or “it’s just a cat”, I get that, but all I had was that cat, no family, no support, just him and I against the world. If you’re reading this, kiss your fur babies for the crazy cat lady on Reddit please. I need to go touch grass now.
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19 months and Bramble still visits me in my dreams . I hope she’s still visiting me in 8 years time. They’re never ‘just a cat’.
Rest in peace to your kitty. Of course you still dream about him. You love him. That doesn’t stop just because he’s not on the waking plane with us anymore.
Gave my little Bubblegum a kiss for you. He’s now purring and rubbing his head against the phone.
It’s been almost fifteen years since I had to put my cat down, and I still tear up thinking about her and still feel like I killed her.
I still cry over my old dog and it’s been 4 years. Occasionally he shows up in my dreams, I like to think he’s poking his head across the bridge to make sure I’m still doing ok.
It’s OK, I still dream of my pet. That’s 50 years ago
I’ve had the same thing with loved ones for a very long time, that’s grief
It becomes less frequent over time but it doesn’t go completely away
Maybe your dreams are trying to make up a situation where you feel less alone though. I’ve known many mentaly crushing situations over long periods of time and those are more common then
Although you can never get your friend back and the pain won’t go away, maybe taking care of another cat would help. Not trying to have another take your old pal’s place, but rather create something new with a different cat
My thought on the topic has been in the past that many adorable cats don’t have a home and that alone represents motivation to go over feelings and try to create something new if i can, there is another potential relation and a lot of love there
I just passed the 3rd anniversary of losing my soul-kitty Buyo. I still wear a locket with some of his ashes everyday. He visits me in my dreams sometimes. I miss him dearly and I always will
I had to put down my 18 year old cat Lily two years ago, I had her since I was 5 years old and she was family to me. I’ve also attended two of my best friends funerals but those are different. I’ll say this, the pain of losing my cat is pretty high up there on the scale with losing them. Your cat was family, and that’s one of the hardest things to lose. I like to think he is visiting you in your dreams, to let you know that he’s not that far away and that he loves you.
I’m sorry. I don’t know what I’ll do when I lose my boy… but I know I won’t be OK. I hope he visits me in my dreams too.
Time to adopt?
How do you feel about getting another cat?
I have had many, many cats over the years, but my Henri, who died about almost 3 years ago, is the only one who ever shows up in my dreams. I miss all of them, but he’s the one that I still get upset over. He was a pure soul with nothing but sweetness in him.
One of my little rescues, a tuxedo cat, keeps popping up in my dreams, and i feed her, marvel that she has survived, and feel sad that I’ve forgotten her so long.
13 years and sometimes I still dream about our bunny…
He was a big part of your life; a beloved family member, it makes sense that you’d dream of him even this many years later. It would also make sense if you still have days where you bawl your eyes out missing him.
It still haunts me sometimes , my dog died about 4 years ago and i still blame myself for it because i couldn’t protect her from the stray dog that got her pregnant and she died because she couldn’t give birth , and the puppies also died
I understand! My first cats Henry and Sydney have been gone for 25 years and I’ll never forget them. Yes, I still dream of them and tear up just thinking of them.
For several years after my soul dog died, I would have recurring dreams about her. I have always had dreams where I’m lost in a multiverse, I’m in the wrong one but it’s just similar enough to my own that I’m torn between staying and venturing back out into the void to find my actual home (and risk being lost forever). After she died, she started appearing in these dreams and guiding me back home. I knew she was a spirit in these dreams. These dreams started to become less frequent and eventually stopped. I don’t know what it all meant but a part of me wonders if she was visiting me when I needed her to.
My kitty passed last September. I frequently dream about him, and each and every time I know that when I wake up he won’t be there. Miss the turd dearly.
It’s normal to see beloved ones in your dreams since your soul can still move and visit different places even if its souls places, do you think about him usually?
I feel that way about my dog Riley. She was the best girl. We had her from 2001 to 2017. I swear I still see her lying on the couch from time to time. We have not gotten a new dog. Instead I’ve become the dog sitter for family! Works well.
I still dream of my first dog, Rascal. I still dream of my husband.
Love doesnt die. It doesnt. It just puts on a new coat, and takes a new name, and that name is Grief. And theres no shame in grieving.
I’ve also gotten the, “you don’t know real pain until you lose a human.” It’s ignorant – because I HAVE lost humans. My best friend had juvenile Huntington’s Disease, died at 19. Another friend, my lane buddy on the swim team, mysteriously drowned in the lake at 16.
I’m ALSO allowed to grieve my pets. I’ve lost some in traumatic ways. Some were emotional support during hard times. Others I’m just bonded to. I have (diagnosed) PTSD from one of the more traumatic ones.
The people that say it’s not the same drive me up a wall. No situation the same, but you’re feeling grief and that fucking sucks. Some people don’t feel as much for their pets and that’s fine – but they fail to realize that many of us do.
I hope your dreams are at least happy ones at least? Sometimes I’m comforted when I dream that someone or a pet I’ve lost is alive. It’s like extra moments with them.
I still sometimes get one of those hyper-realistic dreams about my English Bulldog we had to put down almost 5 years ago. I used pat his side and get that thunk thunk from it and when I dream about him, I feel that thunk like he’s there.
I still miss you, Charlie.