It’s been a month now, things been definitely…changing. For anyone wondering, Eleanore’s birthday went great, especially without Wendy there to ruin it. Basically what happened was Wendy found my post and went crazy about it, she started accusing me of trying to ruin her life over something so “little” and the way she only found out because her older sister saw the story on TikTok. We got into an argument and she tried gaslighting me into being the “crazy one” and threatened me to leave and take all I own and whatever she said. She then proceeds to go into our room and start tearing things down, trying to look for the tapes again. I pull her wrist, trying to get her to calm down but she took it as an opportunity to start breaking down crying saying that I “hit” her. Which I back off and just watched her as she tried to throw things at me, and now I reach my breaking point because it’s the day of my daughters birthday and had little time to get to dinner tonight, because we have reservations. I was already ready and had to pick Eleanore up from a friend house, so I grab my keys and left her there, not having time for her to act like a child. And by the way, the tapes were at my mother’s house as we were all gonna go there after the dinner. The night went great after that and me and Eleanore came home to a messy house with furniture and pictures teared up. It looked like a bunch of three year olds went wild in there. Wendy and her children wasn’t anywhere to be found and neither was her car. I already assumed it was Wendy who did all of this, plus I had proof because I keep security cameras in my house. I tell Eleanore about everything that went down before her birthday and she was shocked at least to know the woman she thought was an angel was actually b****. Long story short we call the cops, Wendy gets arrested but gets out after 3 days. Now I am almost done with my divorce process, also Wendy if you’re reading this, have fun living at your mother’s house and having a criminal record, I hope it was worth it.
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Dude Op, I’m so sorry for this. And I encourage you to get ahead of her and share your side of the story with your mutuals before she twists it into you being abusive.
Honestly what a psycho! I hope things go smoothly for you throughout the divorce process. Sending you and Eleanore lots of love and support. ❤️ also happy belated birthday to Eleanore!
I’m glad you decided to divorce that psycho. Good thing you had security cameras. I thought things were going to go south when she said you hit her!
Cameras to the rescue. There is proof, and she can’t twist that. Good for you op. Divorce was the only option
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She trashed your home, faked abuse, and tried to hijack your daughter’s birthday with a meltdown. Divorce isn’t drama, it’s damage control at this point.
I am so SO glad that you had security cameras & left the tapes at your mother’s. I hope that you two can move on without that horrible woman in your life. Happy birthday to Eleanore!
It’s not the outcome you hoped for, but at least now you can count yourself lucky, and you got rid of that psycho of a woman. I hope the divorce process goes smoothly. And happy birthday to Eleanore. 🙂
And Updateme.
I applaud you OP! Glad to hear your daughters birthday wasn’t ruined. I’ll agree with the other commenter’s and say you should tell mutuals and close family and friends the truth before she starts poisoning them against you.
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Well, obviously OP doesn’t live in the US or Canada to have a divorce mostly done within a month.
OP, I wish you the best.
WHOA. While I am glad to hear that the trash took itself out I wish it hadn’t cost you home furnishings and pictures!
‘Good job excising crazy from your life! Keep up the excellent job of dad to Eleanore!
NTA. Get a really good lawyer. Make sure you have back up tapes for those cameras.
Tell your family and friends what’s going on NOW.
Hey Wendy, fuck you! lol
I’m sorry you had to go through all that craziness. She needs mental help & she needs to grow up. Divorce was the only way going forward. What she did to begin with isn’t imo forgivable. Then, to top it off with her acting crazy, trying to say you hit her, throwing things & destroying furniture & pictures… whew. I hope your daughter enjoyed the videos. I’m proud of you for doing what’s right by not only your daughter but your late wife. And I hope Eleanor had a wonderful birthday up until then. I’m hoping the divorce process moves quickly & you both heal. Updateme!
It’s incredible how people can blow up their entire life & their families’ like Wendy did, all because of toxic jealousy. No mentally healthy person would ever be upset about lovingly made tapes for a girl whose mother died long ago. And certainly not to the point of stealing them & intending to throw them out. It’s just ghastly.
OP, I am sorry you & your daughter are having to go through this. I’m sorry for Wendy’s kids, too, having such a crazy mother. But thankfully you pushed hard & were able to get the tapes back. Divorce is no fun but you will have peace again.
Happy birthday to Eleanore, & I can only imagine her emotions while she watches these precious tapes. Good job, Dad!
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Now you know why her first marriage ended in divorce. I’m glad you never had any kid with her.
Next time, do due diligence. My regards to Eleanore.
I’m glad you kept the tapes out of the house, she surely would have destroyed them had she found them. People are wild and I’m so sorry you had to go through this. Hopefully, she gets the help she needs as this is completely irrational. Yay for a successful birthday for Eleanor!
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Remember to change your locks🔒!
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How fuc&ed up are YOU that you allowed this crazy, out of control, bizarre relationship to continue? Especially when there were children involved? You need therapy.
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Damn that’s tough, good luck and stay strong OP
so you’re saying within just a month, your ex was arrested, released, AND an entire divorce was almost fully processed?
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She’ll try to spin it to seem like the victim she isn’t.
It’s good you finally saw her for who she really was and got out of that marriage.
Updateme!
I’m so sorry you and your daughter are going through all this. I wish you and your daughter all the best.
Thanks for the update.
I had commented on your very first post.
Glad to read that your daughter Eleanore had a great 18th birthday, including the tapes of her deceased mother.
I am glad to hear you left the relationship, but sad for the soon to be ex-wife’s children that had a several years long relationship with you. Children are too often the collateral damage.
Damn, have you heard from wendy after she tore down the house? Be careful
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Wow! It’s almost impossible to believe she hid that level of crazy for 6 years. Wendy definitely needs professional help. Glad you no longer have to put up with her behavior. Super glad your daughter was able to receive the tapes of her mother. I think the thing that really had the most impact for me was how she asked you to show her where the tapes were, all the time planning to steal them. Good riddance. She would’ve been boiling bunnies next.
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OP I’m sorry you and your daughter had to go through this. I’m glad you were able to celebrate her special day and to share the videos with her. I guess I missed the update in you being able to locate the tapes.
Happy Birthday to Eleanor and I pray you two are able to move past this without anymore trauma or stress. I encourage you to seek therapy for you and your daughter. I mentioned previously that there may have been other times that your soon to be ex wife did things that were unkind to your daughter. She may need to process all of this and you certainly need to unpack all of this. Good luck to you and Eleanor.
Arrested for trashing her own home? Divorce proceedings already done? B.S.