Okay, so—I have my first actual date in years coming up, and I’m kind of freaking out. In the fun, butterflies-in-my-stomach kind of way. The what do I even wear when I secretly hope he won’t be able to take his eyes off me? kind of way.
He seems great. Like… really great. And that’s exactly what has me spiraling—from overthinking conversation starters to debating if I should go bold with lipstick or play it cool and effortless (whatever that means).
If you’ve ever re-entered the dating world after a long hiatus, how did you handle the nerves? The hope? The voice in your head wondering if you’re too much—or not enough?
Send your tips, pep talks, and “you’ve got this” energy.
(Also… anyone else get nervous about coming across awkward when they really want it to go well?)
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Where something that makes you feel good and comfortable in your own skin. I keep my clothes casual but well-fitted and usually have my hair curled (pretty normal for me) and standard makeup. Don’t prep conversation starters. Let things flow naturally. If the connection is good it will work.
Don’t put a man you don’t know on a pedestal. It’s just one date, don’t put so much pressure on yourself.
I never get nervous for dates. And I’m a very anxious person in general. Job interviews have me sweating. But with dates, my view is I’m going to be myself 100% from the start. If they’re not into that, then I’d rather know sooner than later. I don’t do anything special with makeup, I shower and wear clean clothes obviously, but I don’t do anything special.