Personally I would expect her to tell me, the sooner I know the better, and thankfully my mother in law once told me that even though she loves her son if she ever found out he was hurting me in any way she would tell me to leave. If my son was cheating I would give them a deadline to tell the girlfriend otherwise I would tell her myself.
However, I’ve seen way to many mom’s turn a blind eye to their son’s cheating or just saying for them to not bring it around them. To me that’s enabling them to continue doing whatever they want without consequences and honestly wouldn’t surprise me that with that type of parenting the guy turned out a cheater.
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No, I might have some words with my child, but I’m not telling the partners of my sons or daughters if anything like that happens.
My approach would be to tell the cheater that they could confess themselves, or I’m telling. Up to them. But either way the victim will find out they’re being victimized.
My sense of right and wrong is too strong to take the approach of staying silent or treating it like it’s not my business. I wouldn’t care that it’s unpopular or that I might be ostracized. Wrong is wrong.
I follow someone on IG who found out her husband was cheating last year, and I don’t think his mom knew beforehand but she definitely enabled the affair once it was revealed and helped him and his affair partner move in together.
Honestly depends. I have a great relationship with my inlaws and especially my mother-in-law. I would never expect her to tell me something like that.
If it were my kid cheating, I would confront them and guide them to doing the right thing, but I’m not likely to tell their spouse right away. My thing is the truth always comes out eventually.
I also don’t see myself lying outright. If one of their spouses approached me and asked, I would have to tell them.
Absolutely. I would want to be told and I would tell. There’s no moral justification for not. Cheating isn’t only disrespectful but it’s fucking unsanitary. The unknowing party could get sick and/or end up permanently sick based on the actions of a coward. And in that case, if I found out someone knew and didn’t tell me, I’d blame them too.
To not tell shows such a lack of consideration for the hurt party, I’ve cut off entire friendships when I found out they cheated and/or knew about it and didn’t tell the clueless party.
Lol just told my 11 year old the other day that I don’t think he’s going to develop into the type who cheat but if he did i would tell his girlfriend
If I had a son that ever cheated on a partner, I would tell him or her. I’m sorry, but that’s not okay. That’s not how I want to raise my children because cheating is so selfish. I actually screenshotted proof from a 3rd party that told me my ex cheated on me with a hooker and that’s why he lost his job. His mom turned her eye and said he’d never do that. I sent her more screenshots from other witnesses that confirmed it. It’s enabling children to be selfish, self-centered, lack accountability, lack morals and have zero regard for others.
I would tell and I would want to be told. I can’t imagine enabling hurting someone like that.