I dont get it. And I really want to understand the motive. Why would you ask a Internet stranger living in a different Country if she is dtf or if she wants to meet or other Things like that. I got this so often now and I dont know how to respond to that other than maybe saying thank you for the compliment. š
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DTF?
Whatās a dtf
I assume the logic is the same as for those obvious scams, it’s fine if it doesn’t work 99,9% of the time, that just means you try 1000 times instead.
That’s probably why it’s so common too, one creep can reach dozens or even hundreds of women in one evening.
It makes sense if theyāre posting in NSFW Reddits related to the sex work industry. Doesnāt really make sense to message someone 5000 miles away whoās asking for bicycle advice if theyāre down to fuck out of nowhereā¦ unless.?.?
I expect you to be scammed and / or blackmailed.
I expect her to drop everything and catch the next flight to my apartment at her expense obviously /s
No offense but why else do you post on subs like amiugly and all that? The men who frequent those subsĀ are creeps and looking to prey on women. They’ve got one goal, to objectify women. For women they deem ugly, theyĀ put those women down and make them feel horrible about themselves to make themselves feel better about their own lives because they’re bitter horrible people and that’s the only thing that brings them happiness. For women they deem hot, they sexually harass them. Like I’m not justifying their behavior, but why areĀ youĀ delivering yourself to them on a golden platter?Ā
Listen if you’ve got an onlyfans account and you’re trying to make money off them, I get it I guess….. But if you’re not looking for these creeps to target you and you don’t want their dick pics, why are you posting yourself there?
Edit: Ok actually I’ll change my answer a little since I looked at your other posts. I have no way of knowing if you’re really dying of cancer or if that’s a ploy to try to make money, but on the off chance that’s true, I’m sorry to hear that you are in this situation. Sending hugs your wayā¤ļø
As far as the posts and dms, from what I’m getting you are doing sex work? Men are dming you sexual content because your posts give off the impression that you’re a sex worker. Like I said before, there’s no other reason to be posting pictures of yourself in those subs.Ā Your business model is operating successfully if you are getting dick pics and sexual dms.Ā They are dming you because they are under the impression they can pay you and you will do your whole sex work thing.Ā
I donāt think anybody who actually does that stuff is going to answer you here lol
Iād guess they do it because they think thereās no consequences to it, they canāt really get away with that in person to often
Donāt address āmen,ā address the weirdos. I always wonder this, what is the point of dming people on Reddit? You could be living in the UK and they could be living in New Zealand for all they know.
I always assume itās an ego stroking move. They want the validation that some random woman from across the world wants them. Despite the logical thought that they are thousands of miles away.Ā
I have no problem chatting with someone thousands of miles away, but actually conversing not stroking their ego.Ā
I think they want to come have sex with you or, come to them for sex. Itās not even exactly expected to happen. Thereās also the chance of sexting, but mostly I think itās a power move.
It probably doesnāt help that you posted pictures of yourself on r/ amiugly, and are attractive. Meaning you donāt think you are, or are desperate for attention/validation .
Making you a prime target for people who want to use that to take advantage of you.
You might delete that post, and change your avatar to something masculine if you donāt want the attention.
Iām sorry if thatās rude, or sexist or whatever.
You shouldnāt have to act differently, based on your gender when online, but itās the world we live in.
People and men in general can be lascivious, and unruly when given anonymity. Especially young men.
Iām not saying itās right, but itās naive to think otherwise. Just the way things are.
I donāt condone it, but getting upset about doesnāt change anything.
You know how it’s generally agreed upon that rape is more about power than it is about sex? The best description I’ve heard is comparing it to a gardening shovel/spade: you could use a spade to garden or use a spade to hit someone. Sex is the spade, not the action. Whether it’s gardening or murder is how one uses the spade, and whether it’s rape or a good time is how one uses sex. A murderer is more interested in the murder than the weapon, and a rapist is more interested in the harm than the sex.
I start with the above as this is similar. Their weapon is sexual DMs. Their aim is to make people uncomfortable. They’ve been blocked, they’ve been called mean things. There’s probably been a non-0 amount of times the person on the other end responded well (as in once, literally just once). Many sex offenders can have consensual sex, so the rare times they are successful at sex DMs don’t ruin it for them, but they’re still getting off on all of the women (or people, though – as a man – it has only happened a few times on Reddit and several times on Grindr) they make uncomfortable with their unsolicited sexual messages and/or dick pics.
It’s modern day flashing. All they get is people being uncomfortable, averting their eyes/blocking them, but that’s the fun of it for them.
You know I was so confused when I read this post cause I saw āDMā and assumed it was a dungeons and dragons post
They are just hoping someone shows bobsĀ
Lead them on. "Oh, totally, yeah, let’s do that! When and where shall we meet?"
If i did?
I’d expect her to ignore me, or ask WTF?
I suspect that it is the act of sending the DM that they enjoy. The response is irrelevant.
The correct answer is guys who DM random women asking for sexual stuff right out of the gate arenāt thinking at all. They arenāt even thinking off or expecting a certain outcome.
The only thing going through thier minds is Iām horny, I wanna see tits, ass, and couchy and I wanna bust a nut.
Nothing else is going through their minds and thatās why a lot of guys do some of the most brain dead stupid shit that donāt make sense when they get horny. Because they arenāt thinking.
So OP, if you get sent a dick pic here’s a pro tip in how to deal with it.
Save the meatiest, veins bustin, girth, lengthy dick pic you can find and when you get a random "Look how hard I am for you" or whatever, reply back
"WOW, thanks for the pic, now I’m excited too!"
Attach King Dong pic
I think they’re just lonely. Alot of men are very, very lonely but lack the self awareness to realize it. Similarly then the main way they have in the past alleviated that loneliness was through intimacy with a woman, which nearly always involved sex.
So to a whole lot of men out there, sexual gratification and diminishing loneliness has the same solution. Women.
Its why at 6 am after every bar and club has closed you’ll see some sad, drunk-as-hell guy wandering around, hopelessly looking for a woman. Any woman. And when he finds one, he’ll have forgotten all his usual manners and respect , instead go like "Hey! Hey you! Come over here, where are you goin? I just want to talk!!" Shouting desperately after any woman he might see.
Not because he’s really this desperately horny, although he thinks thats what it is. He’s extremely, deeply lonely and this is the only way he knows how to alleviate it.
That’s what these guys are going through, or many of them, when they are sending random women on the internet dms. Or posting comments to the same effect. It’s also what makes the OF business model work, as the women in that field are essentially tapping into these guys deep-seated loneliness through the facade of being porn workers. They talk to them.
Guys do this for usually two different reasons as far as I can tell.
I expect her to get her life together, wake up at 4am, dump her face in ice and Saratoga water, wipe her face with banana peela, and hit the gym. Then dive in pool, float in the air mid dive for 4 minutes, and then have a business meeting where she encourages others to reach higher goals like at least 10,000. Then have her assistant make her some food followed by her dipping her face in another bowl of ice and Saratoga water. Of course I’ve never sent a woman nasty stuff if she wasn’t my girlfriend, but if I did, I would hope that the nastiness would inspire her to become the best version of herself. If she’s getting up early, with a strict routine and going to bed early, she has no time to see nasty DMS from creepy guys. Temptation runs through the night so this would inspire her to go to bed early so she won’t be tempted by sexy MFs like me.
Not alot. A bot at best. Lotta of yall really think that the mosr desprerate is common ā ļøā ļøā ļøš¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£
Say yes and give them a random address. Say that you will be the girl in the raspberry beret.
I was listening to a podcast today that talked about paraphelia disorder and they mentioned exhibitionists, like subway flashers. They aren’t looking for someone to go "Wow, what a nice penis!" The shock and disgust they get is what gets them off.
I imagine similar for guys who message women online to just say filthy shit.Ā
I expect bobs and vajeen. Duuuhhh
For goodness sake, please just turn off your dm’s in your settings. They are horny animals with no conscious thought. That’s literally it. Don’t give them the ability to vomit their horny all over you.Ā
As with most sexual harassment, it’s more about power. Knowing that they saw it and convincing yourself they wanted it and the power that gives you over them.
To be clear I don’t do dick pics. I don’t like doing them with long time partners let alone strangers but I think that’s the cause
They want to see their reactions. Sometimes, thatās fun
I guess you could use the logic my grandfather did when he was younger. His pick-up line was, "Hey baby, let me see them titties " he always said 9 times out of 10,it didn’t work, but when it did it broke the ice and made it all easier.
Couldnāt be much, Iāll send a chat to someone saying hello and my name and I get completely ignored. So I assume the dudes sending weird shit probably get the same. Which kinda makes you wonder why not just start being a creep if Iām just going to be ignored like oneš¤£š¤£š š š„
A lot of us dudes will go our whole life and never experience a girl chasing us/asking us out/sliding into our DMs/making the first move.
Lonely dudes with no social skills can get pretty desperate.
A common scam is receiving a random text from a random woman, a man gets excited thinking he got lucky, and woman asks for $$$ to go see him or whatever, and a desperate man pays.
Bundle all that together, and add the horny hormones on top of it, and you have desperate dudes sliding into DMs fishing for anything
I donāt get it eitherā¦ if I were a woman, and someone asked me for nudes I would be so confused. Itās not like I canāt just google nudes/porn and see more nudes than stars in the skyā¦ just a bunch of heathens who canāt get enough of what they already have.
Instant Block
For them to say ‘I’m sorry, I was wrong. I love you." š¤£
Just need that CC#
It’s the same as dogs barking and running after a car. Both are just doing dog things with no plan.
Because it works!
Okay not really and not always and with a very strong likelihood of not working in your favor but just like gambling, you can only lose what you have and gain more than you ever started out with.
I haven’t asked someone to come fly to my country to get some dick but the boldest of moves did award me with some nudes. There are women out there that are open for adventures ( or just-crazy-but-in-a-fun-way – dudes.)
That’s how adventures and good story begins with. Say Yes to adventures and stupid stuff and see what happens. No good story ever began with:"I didn’t do or say anything. Don’t take risks!"
On a serious note, don’t be creeps to women online. Hard enough as is in the real world.
I mean, I occasionally dm off of some specific subreddit, always ask if dms are open, and if so it’s some random sexting, maybe some pics maybe not and then I go on with my day