My bf and I (31F) have had an on again off again relationship for the last 9 months. We decided to take a break about 2 weeks ago. We found it too difficult not to text each other or hang out so we just tried to hang out with each other less. Nonetheless we agreed to take a break and not have serious conversations to give our brains and hearts a break. We agreed that on our break we’d still check in and let each other know where we’re at. This is something he wanted so I agreed. I said, my only request is that we don’t tell people we’re on a break or that we’re single, bc we both agreed that we’re completely committed to each other. He agreed. I found out that he texted a friend of his, who asked how he and I are doing, that he’s “single as fuck”. He also deleted the texts, and I recovered them on his phone. I feel like this is a dealbreaker for me. This day in particular that he texted this friend, who happened to be a girl that he says he would never sleep with bc he’s not attracted to her, we saw each other multiple times that day and I even got him breakfast. I can’t get over it. He said that I’m reading too much into it and that he’s sorry but we’ve been so off and on that that’s just what he chose to say and he didn’t say it for any particular reason. He was still completely committed to me. The fact that he said that in the first place and then tried to hide it, is so messed up and something I’d never do. Would you say it’s a dealbreaker? I broke up with him.
TLDR; my bf said he’s single af to a female friend while we were on a break and then deleted the texts so I wouldn’t see. Would you say this is a dealbreaker?
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He wanted to be single, so he asked for a break. He wants to play the field but keep his options open with you. Is this the kind of person you want to be with?
This sounds like an exhausting relationship to be in as a teenager, 31 is way too old to put up with this.