My (f22) boyfriend (m21) has no time at all.

r/

Me and him have been together for maybe 9 months now. We have had a good overall relationship and the good times have been really good.

We have had issued with finding places to be and hang out and have private time. Because we issues with our parents. But we have always tried to find ways to make do with what we have and its been good.

I think the only big issue we have had was mainly my fault. And its mainly because of me being emotional and tend to get depressed or anxious about the relationship. I have a deep fear of rejection and it tends to make me anxious or sad whenever we can’t meet up or plans don’t work. I know this is a problem, we had a talk about it and I try to deal with it.

Last few months, maybe since february this year he has become more and more hard to make plans with, mainly because he has much school work to do, and also dealing with family plans disrupting our plans. It has made it much more difficult to actually be together and it was at a point where we met maybe once a week. I know he tries to find time and it’s none lf his fault. It really sucks that we get so little time and it really does make me and him sad. It makes me anxious and I spend so much time just missing him and thinking about him. Its Stressing.

The last few weeks have been even worse. It has come to a point where we literally have only been able to meet for 1-2 hours a week. Of course it’s super nice to see him but at this point I just feel so defeated. Last time we met as I’m writing this post was literally 2 weeks ago. I don’t know how much more I can wait or take. I know it isn’t his fault for not having time but I just feel so over it all. But I feel like I’d be such an asshole if I were to leave. I really do like him and I really want to continue being with him. I just need some outside perspective from people who aren’t anxious sad wrecks. Thank you all in advance

TL;DR: he has no time at all due to school and family. I haven’t met him in real life in over 2 weeks.

Comments

  1. captainalphabet Avatar

    You both need to make an effort if you want to spend time together. Keep the plans you make together even if it means missing something else. Relationships last when both parties prioritize them.

  2. xXDaNXx Avatar

    Can you not make an excuse to go study in the library to your family and then meet your BF there?

  3. Poots_in_boots Avatar

    What do you mean you have issues with your parents? You guys are adults and if you wanna be together then you’ll make time.