He(26M) humiliated me(25F) in front of his close friends, and now he’s the one giving me the silent treatment.

I (25F) was genuinely excited to share something during a video call with my boyfriend’s (26M) close friends — a couple of them are girls I also talk to regularly and have gotten close with. I told them that I recently started learning to drive. It’s a big step for me and I was proud to say it out loud.

He was sitting beside me, so I said, “Hey, you tell them,” kind of thinking he’d tease me lightly. I expected a little fun — he and his friends are the type who constantly joke and make sarcastic remarks. That’s their whole vibe, and usually it’s harmless. But what he did was different. He started exaggerating everything I did wrong and told the story in a way that made me sound completely dumb.

He was going into detail and dragging it, acting it out like it was stand-up comedy. I tried to step in and explain myself, but he kept interrupting and trying to “prove” that I was wrong — like it had turned into a weird debate about who’s telling the more accurate story. I even said, “This is going too far,” but he didn’t stop. I started tearing up in the middle of the call. His friends noticed, and they were actually sweet — they said things like, “that’s totally normal,” “you go girl,” and tried to lift me up.

But he? He didn’t get it. He kept going. Still being sarcastic, still playing it off like nothing happened.

What hurts most is not the joke. It’s that when I was visibly hurt, he didn’t stop to protect me or check in with me. He didn’t say, “Okay let’s stop.” He didn’t show me I mattered. Instead, he went quiet after — and now, he’s giving me the silent treatment. Like he’s the one who’s been wronged.

Here’s the context that’s messing with my head:
He and his friends joke around like this all the time. They’re sarcastic, always teasing each other — and I’ve told him before, I didn’t grow up like that. I’m more emotionally sensitive, and even if something is “funny,” it can still affect me deeply. Sometimes he seems to understand that… and sometimes it’s like he forgets and just flips the switch back on. I never know when I’ll get mocked again.

Honestly, when he’s not around, I get along really well with his friends. We talk about meaningful things. But when he is there, I feel like I can’t fully be myself. I don’t speak freely. I’m constantly thinking, “Should I say this?” “Will this trigger him?” “Will he mock me again?” And that makes me shut down.

Now, after all of this, I’m just confused. I’m upset, but he’s the one being distant. I feel emotionally abandoned and humiliated — especially because these people are his closest circle. It’s not just about this one video call. It’s about how I feel around him. It’s about what happens when I’m vulnerable, and how he chooses to respond.

Am I overreacting for feeling this way? Is this something we can work through? Or is this a red flag that I shouldn’t ignore?

TL;DR:
I shared my excitement about learning to drive with my boyfriend’s friends on a call. He exaggerated my mistakes to make it funny and ended up humiliating me. I got visibly upset, but he kept going and now he’s giving me the silent treatment. It’s making me question how emotionally safe I am with him, especially around his friends.