Hello ladies and gentlemen,
Today, I’m starting my detox journey by deleting all my social media apps, including Instagram and Facebook. I also plan to remove Reddit and any other apps that distract me from reaching my goals.
My reason:
I’m tired of being an anti-social man in his 30s. I live in an empty apartment, with only a few things in my life that I could actually be proud of. But somehow, it never feels like enough. I want to be more appreciative of the things I do have, and I believe social media sets unrealistic standards—especially for men my age.
So, I want to start changing myself into the hero I once envisioned as a child.
To do that, I feel the need to distance myself from the source of those high expectations. That’s why I’ve decided to delete these apps for an indefinite period. I want to see who I’ll become when—and if—I decide to return to social media.
For now, I’m taking it slow. Step one is deleting the apps. Step two: eating healthier. And lastly—but most importantly—getting back to the gym.
My concern: I tend to fall back into old habits pretty easily. So I’m turning to this community for advice.
What would you say to a man struggling with low willpower and self-esteem who’s trying to take control of his life again?
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I just recently deactivated my socials and honestly, it was amazing. It was hard at first bc I’m a problematic doomscroller, but I found that I wanted to be more socially active (call my friends, go out etc) when I wasn’t “seeing” them all the time online. It’s a great first step! Good luck!
Get yourself around people. Volunteer, take some kind of classes, Call up some old friends, see what they are up to. Don’t be afraid to be rejected, it happens, it’s not a big deal. We have all been rejected, and have rejected someone. push your boundaries. There are 8 billion people on this planet.
Kudos to you for recognizing that and being willing to do something about it.
I dumped all social media (besides Reddit) 4 years ago and never looked back. I can honestly say after like a week at most, I didn’t miss them one bit.
As for the other goals, one piece of advice that has helped me in life – make S.M.A.R.T. goals for yourself to avoid becoming overwhelmed. Learned that in the business/professional world and it easily transfers to personal life too.
i’ve had my phone on “personal” mode for about 2 years straight and even just not seeing notifications and those little red dots in the corner of apps helps
Articulate a catchphrase that’s uplifting and purpose packed , that speaks to your very being . (Your why + self-belief) .
Each time you struggle and face resistance from within (before your old habits and patterns of avoidance take hold) , keep repeating it (your catchphrase) – the louder , the better (initially) and start with any of the tasks which you want to improve upon . Soon with practise , it will become your anchor thought … a battle cry for all your future battles .
Been thinking about doing this detox experiment myself , for a long time . Good luck with yours !
Keep your eyes on the prize- id read books to help
I’m the consistency believer. If you’re detoxing your environment that’s great but that will benefit only if you use that time in proper way.
Like say, previously if you’re wasting your 2-3 hours on social media then now you can read a book or learn to code (if coder).. But being still will drive you into state of sleepiness.
I properly say prepare a schedule that will be a best thing for you.
This is my experience remaining depends on you …
Make sure before you delete it you get the contact info of people you want to stay connected with. I deleted all my social media and ended up regretting it afterwards because I burnt so many bridges. Next thing you know years go by and when you try to reach out well, no one talked to you in years and likely won’t even reply. I think It is a form of self isolation which can then also lead to depression n’ what not.
Just something to keep in mind, maybe take a break. Delete it if you want but just remember to stay in contact with those you have chosen
Detox from self-improvement, accept yourself and try to help others