TL;DR Boyfriend and His Parents Want Me to Change My Beliefs. I’m Not Sure If I Can Do This Anymore or If This Will Be Healthy for Me Longterm.
Long story short I currently take birth control for hormonal acne. I don’t want 15 kids when I get married and don’t believe in the Catholic church’s stance on NFP / birth control being a mortal sin.
However, my current bf was studying to be a Jesuit priest before he met met and is a very devout Catholic which has caused us issues.
Him and I have been together for 10 months. We are both waiting until marriage to be intimate however, I’m worried about this causing huge problems in the future
His parents accused me of trying to pull him away from the “true faith” when he tried my church.
He wanted to try it and I think they were being over the top about it. I’m a non-denominational Christian. He also told me he doesn’t see himself considering engagement for 2.5-3 years since we started dating in May.
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run away
Only you can decide if the juice is worth the squeeze, but that sounds like an awful lot of barriers to having a good relationship when it’s supposed to be an easy and pleasant experience.
Escape while you can. If he does what you want, the parents will resent you. If he does what he wants, you will resent him. Since you’ve given him a shot before “getting back together,” the next stop is arguing about old stuff on top of everything else.
When it comes to these… extremists… if you’re not on the same page as them, trust me, it’s not going to work out.
Source: I was raised in a Christian Fundamentalist household.