So I got engaged two weeks ago. Me (25F) and my man (27M) were on this Napa trip with a few close friends, including my best friend J (26M). We’ve been tight since college, always just friends, never anything else.
Anyway, my man proposes during sunset in the vineyard, super cute, private, perfect moment. J takes some pics of us right after, and one of them? Straight fire. I’m crying, he’s hugging me, ring poppin, like it looks straight outta a damn commercial.
Cool. Cute. Whatever.
Then this dude posts it on his IG… but he crops my fiancé out. Like bro, what?
Just me in the pic. No caption like “congrats” or “happy for you.” Just straight up posted it like it was a solo shoot. No tag for my man. Just “she’s glowing” and vibes.
I hit him like, yo… this kinda weird. That was my engagement photo. And he hits back with “you looked so good in it, I just had to post.” Like okay? But again, not about you, not a thirst trap, this was me getting engaged.
So I just untagged myself. Didn’t make a scene. Just moved on.
Then he starts being mad weird. Posting stories like “funny how people switch up” and “too real for the fake.” Like okay, Drake.
Now some of our friends are acting like I overreacted, saying I “should’ve been flattered” and that “he was just being supportive.” Supportive would’ve been keeping my man in the pic and maybe saying congrats, not acting like I was the star of his content drop.
So yeah. All that.
AITAH?
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nta obviously! bro is weird for that and so are your friends for thinking you should’ve been flattered
No, not the arsehole. He cropped you fiancé out of you photo. Not cool. You stood up for your fiancé when you untagged yourself. It was a photo with you both on, rude why they’d crop the photo in the first place.
I would of done the same
Your friend has feelings for you. Act accordingly.
Yo as a dude that creepy asf. He is definitely in love with you in a not platonic way. He sounds like a friend zone victim with zero common sense.
Best friends, just friends. Riiiiight. Dudes in love with you. Same old story as always.
Good for you to see the disrespect for your future husband. Now you just cut the “best friend” out of your life.
Finally showed you his feelings, and I doubt he’s respected your bf all this time. Have zero alone time with him for any conversations, even to clear the air. Only ever meet in the presence of your fiancé to make it clear your commitment
Who cares what people post on instagram?
NTA – He’s into you and is sad you are getting hitched.
Ahhhhh no, this person is NOT your friend. This idiot had hopes of using the friendzone to get in.
Now that there is absolutely no chance, he’s gonna start besmirching you to anyone and everyone coz he’s an emo lil incel who feels entitled to you and your body because he put in the time as a friend.
Reshare your engagement photo without any edits and block his ass.
NTA! Why would you be flattered when another man posts you like that? No. You’re engaged. To crop your fiancé out of your own engagement photo? That’s super weird.
NTA. I’m happy (for you) you looked great in the “solo” shot, but wouldn’t your REAL friends – who weren’t there – be curious why you looked the way you did? I assume there was nothing put in the picture to give anyone a reason for your emotional display.
Your so-called friend sounds a bit stranger danger on this, as well as shady with the group intervention gas-lighting.
>Now some of our friends are acting like I overreacted
No human would say that untagging is an overreaction, but ChatGPT thinks every AITAH post should end this way.
NTA this is completely bizarre. Does he have anything against your fiance?
Clearly, he had feelings and was hurt enough to post it like a creep. I’d distance myself from him in the future. No one needs opposite sex friends who want more.
Yeah, he straight up was mad you chose someone else and acted like a child about it. You don’t owe him a following on a stupid social media site, especially if he’s going to disrespect a huge moment for you because he had feelings, never said anything, and thinks this is an appropriate way to deal with it.
Glad you got the Golden Apple, because the alternative was a rotten core that’s been festering at the root of the tree.
NTA
There is no such thing as best friends of the opposite sex. Tell the truth in all the years you’ve known him. Has there ever been a one night stand, a fling, a quickie?
I’m going to be honest you’re the asshole for even asking a question like this.
Go touch grass, all of you. Ask yourself if your friend makes you feel good or makes you feel bad. It’s that simple. You’re going to have a fight over something as simple as an IG post. Maybe it’s best you respectfully go. You’re separate ways. People outgrow each other at the end of the day And there’s nothing wrong. With respectfully spending less time with each other.
But maybe you should ask yourself why you’re surrounding yourself with people who you consider good friends. However, you’re going to risk a friendship over something as simple as a social media post?
Also, I hope I’m not sounding harsh I just don’t understand the attachment to social media into the real world, affecting relationships Maybe you’re both the asshole and you can agree to but this behind you with a couple of beers and laughing at how silly you are to get mad over social media posts.. or maybe you guys have to get honest with yourself and realize not all friendships are meant to take up so much of your life and you could still be friends while parting and finding other things in life to make you happy.
NTA. You handled it maturely. The others giving you grief are his friends not yours. He’s been into you this whole time. Him and his friends are suspicious.
Guy best friends don’t exist, it just an elite freindzone player trying to break out
OP, how does he act towards your fiance? Just curious if there’s been any indication of anything weird before.
Well in his defense your ” Friend” did manage to stop himself just short of pasting his own face on your fiancee’s picture. Seriously though he has to go, there’s not a chance in hell that he wont step up his efforts now that you’ve let him down and not just recognized that he’s been the one for you all this time. Here’s a prediction, there’s not going to be a confession of undying love just yet. Instead there will be some placation so he can stay involved just as a friend, but bare minimum he’s going to be dripping poison in your ear about your fiancee and trying to split you both up any way he can. This isn’t some love struck teenager with a crush he’s 26yo, this is his adult mindset. Good luck.
NTA. He a wierdo and upset because you engaged to someone other than him
NTA, what he did is super disrespectful to your fiancé. Cut that dude out of your life, he’s just going to be toxic waste to your relationship.
Even if it isn’t easy to cut someone off due to history, sometimes things need to be done. Bro crossed a line here. Needs to be cut.
This is weird. Calling it out is the right thing to do.
NTA. J for sure likes you. And I’m concerned that your friends who are defending him may ship the two of you together. Be cautious of any attempts from them to hurt your relationship with your fiance or disrespect him.