In highschool I met this guy in math class. We became relatively close. We started off as friends but it gradually became more romantic. One day I went to his house and we did the devils tango. During this, I saw his phone get a notification from Snapchat. The persons name was “wifey”. After investigating, he had a gf the whole time. He begged me for months to keep it a secret but when I became overfilled with guilt I ended up telling her. Once I told her, I was bullied and degraded by a lot of people included the guy who cheated. Then, years passed and he tried to reunite with me because they supposedly broke up. At this time, we had both started college (at the same college). He invited me to his dorm. I very clearly stated that I didn’t want to do anything sexual with him. But after constant pressure from him I just decided to do it. I don’t know why, but during the devils tango I started crying. He freaked out which was understandable but he then told me to leave. We never spoke after that. He’s currently back with the girl he cheated on and he avoids me anytime we see each other on campus. I truly don’t know why I still think about him. But why doesn’t he think about me? Was I nothing more than a “fun time”? Lastly, how do I get over him? When I think about it, although he hurt me over and over, I really loved the fun times we had and I think that’s what I can’t get over. But it’s truly taken over me and it’s caused me to not want to get to know other guys.
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That guy was a psychopath. For so many reasons. I’m sorry. Take another crack at it sister. Most men these days will stink, but there is good men out there.
Sometimes we have wonderful memories and experiences with people that turn out to be not worth it later on in life. I wish I could put this more delicately but he used you and he isn’t worth it. Block him, unfriend him, etc. It will take time to get over him and that is ok – don’t beat yourself up if it does. Know that this is temporary. But absolutely go no contact with him. When someone shows you their true colors, believe them.
You aren’t thinking about him, you’re thinking about the picture of him you’ve built from your limited memories. And yeah he does think about you, but he clearly thinks of you as trouble. He’s a cheater, is that who you wanna be with?
Im sorry you went through that.
He isnt worth your time though, and you dodged a bullet.
All i can say is find someone worth your time
We think about you but it’s in private
This is not a good person. You are worth much more than him. I am sorry he treated you like this, but from his actions with the other girl, you are blessed that he is out of your life.
You are young, find a guy who treats you with respect. Now you have some experience with what to watch out for. Please don’t let guys pressure you into sex. NO means NO. A real man will respect your boundaries.