I hate having such a revolting looking face. Every time I’m in a public place, I see people looking at me like I’m severely deformed, or some kind of alien. My own mother spent much of my adolescence and early adulthood reminding me how ugly I am, and how no women will ever be attracted to me. The last time I went on a date was 2018. I thought that might change a few weeks ago, when a rather attractive girl on a dating app invited me out for a drink. When I messaged to say that I’d arrived at the place we’d agreed to meet, she replied with something like; “Surely you didn’t actually think I’d want to go out with someone who looks like you” (laugh emoji), then promptly unmatched. Since I’d ended up at a bar right by the river, I seriously considered throwing myself in.
My facial deficiencies are compounded by a missing tooth, a stupid single eyebrow that meets in the middle, and hair that’s simultaneously going grey and trying to escape. I’m rapidly losing any hope of ever finding a partner due to my age and deteriorating looks.
I’m sorry for such a pointless and self-indulgent rant. I know there are people in the world with far bigger problems than just being unattractive. It’s just that the loneliness stemming from my appearance is starting to become borderline crippling.
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I’m sorry you feel this way, how you feel is important and shouldn’t be minimized simply because there are “bigger” problems in the world. I can’t give any advice other than to learn to love the person you are because only you know your worth and that extends past physical appearance. The girl who lied to you is the ugly one in this situation and not you.
Unibrows can be cut in half with a good shaver! I do it all the time, there’s no shame in it. Dentistry schools often do cheap work for people so they might be able to fix your tooth on the cheap or even free.
If I ever start balding I’m going to shave my head and grow some facial hair. A plan like that could work for you too.
Don’t despair, there are options!
This is a rough place to be if you are looking for women to validate you. It sounds like your own mother never did this so you likely have a deep seated need there. I would suggest therapy if you can afford it. It terms of women, you are not alone most men struggle with seeking and receiving validation from women.
The best advice I have for you is that you have intrinsic worth far greater than what any woman can assess.
I fucking hate mirrors. Half my face is kinda paralyzed I can’t even tell you the last time I took a picture of myself.
I hate how I look too. The things you listed off are fixable! Get that tooth replaced, and visit a salon to get your eyebrows tamed. There’s absolutely no shame in this. As for your hair, grey isn’t bad if you’ve got it neatly cut in a way that suits you.
I had to go an entire year with a missing tooth after eating a piece of boneless chicken at a Thai restaurant shattered my tooth. It was a tooth I already had had a root canal and crown placed. The entire root shattered. My dentist thought it was my bite, because I’d broken so many. I did Invisalign and haven’t broken any since, but I digress!
It took 6 months for my mouth to heal after they extracted the root shards. Then they did a dental implant and that had to heal for another 6 months before they put a crown on that. Now, you can’t even tell it was gone. The missing tooth was embarrassing but it’s better now. It wasn’t cheap but it was very easy to get done.
It’s okay to do cosmetic stuff. Caring for your skin and hair isn’t against the rules or doesn’t mean you’re less than a man. You might find if you fix the simple stuff you’ll feel better about yourself and that new confidence will help you find a partner.
Also, women who only care about looks aren’t worth dating.
I know many people will tell you to focus on yourself and how you feel internally—which is important for sure—but it will also help you feel better and will feel EASIER to feel good about yourself if you focus on the things you can change. Shave the unibrow. Start working out (a good physique can flatten out other things that stand out much more than you’d expect). Don’t think of yourself as inherently ugly, acknowledge that there are things that you can do to fix it. The feelings will follow the actions. Hang in there friend.