Yes, it absolutely can help heal certain wounds. Doesn’t mean it will though.
It may also just be like a bit of a bandaid. Maybe certain things don’t feel as loud or unrelenting with that specific person but if things end with that person, the wound can be reopen indirectly. And then you’re staring from square one again with anybody else.
Responding as someone with relationship involved issues and related PTSD.
I did the work in therapy for years. Lots of journaling, introspection, putting myself first. It did a lot for me personally, but I remained terrified to be involved in any kind of relationship.
The fact is, you have to actually face your issues in order to heal them. You have to put yourself in a new, safer, situation, and make different and better choices, in order to heal some of these things. It wasn’t until I found a safe person to open up to that I began to fully be able to face some of my trauma. You need both. Safe intimacy and therapy and personal work are necessary for healing!
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Yes and no,
well you need help from outside yes.
You have to watch out that intimacy is not masking your symptoms and actually healing them.
Because if its only masking and the intimacy is gone.. you are going to hit the bottom harder than last time.
I think it can help, as part of a larger effort involving therapy and introspection and such. Certainly not on its own.
The key is to do the work yourself. Replace bad memories with good ones, regardless of who you’re with or what you’re doing.
I feel like true intimacy from my wife makes me feel healed from my stress. But when I feel she just did it for me or too tired then it’s doesn’t
That’s what love does
No. Nobody can fix you but you. And expecting somebody else to do it is a horrible thing to do.
No. Therapy can. Intimacy will give a temporary relief but deep-seated issues will remain.
Yes, it absolutely can help heal certain wounds. Doesn’t mean it will though.
It may also just be like a bit of a bandaid. Maybe certain things don’t feel as loud or unrelenting with that specific person but if things end with that person, the wound can be reopen indirectly. And then you’re staring from square one again with anybody else.
Responding as someone with relationship involved issues and related PTSD.
I did the work in therapy for years. Lots of journaling, introspection, putting myself first. It did a lot for me personally, but I remained terrified to be involved in any kind of relationship.
The fact is, you have to actually face your issues in order to heal them. You have to put yourself in a new, safer, situation, and make different and better choices, in order to heal some of these things. It wasn’t until I found a safe person to open up to that I began to fully be able to face some of my trauma. You need both. Safe intimacy and therapy and personal work are necessary for healing!