Mothers who were mean to their own children when they were little but are now kind and caring to them as fully grown adults, what made you shift/change?

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Mothers who were mean to their own children when they were little but are now kind and caring to them as fully grown adults, what made you shift/change?

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    I don’t know that I was ever mean to my kids when they were little but parenting infants and toddlers was difficult for me. I got married and we moved cross country so my husband could finish his medical training. I was at home with an infant and a toddler with absolutely zero support. On top of that, I had major health problems that I couldn’t even seek treatment for because my husband wouldn’t stay with the kids. My depression was crippling. I look back now and feel tremendous guilt that I was always so exhausted and impatient, and absolutely no fun at all. But then I realize I was doing a job I was ill equipped to do with no support. I feel sorry for me too because it robbed me of the ability to enjoy those years with my babies.

    Later the kids got older, I got the necessary treatment, got on the right antidepressants, and the kids got older and more independent. I also left my shitty husband. Now I am a hell of a lot more fun and enjoy parenting more, and I apologized that my best efforts just fell so short. My kids and I are best buddies. They come hang with me just to chat or watch movies. I am so grateful that I am able to enjoy this time.

    I am assuming your question is actually about some disappointment you feel with your own Mom, but I was just sharing my own perspective.

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