I’m a 26-year-old woman in a committed, healthy relationship—I’ve been with my partner for a year, and he’s truly my dream guy. We live together and have even talked about marriage, so I always thought everything was perfect. Recently, I met a girl in one of my classes, and we instantly connected. We talk every day, share a love for games, and discuss topics ranging from life and school to our career goals and friendship. Although she has been in a relationship for two years, our conversations rarely touch on that aspect; instead, we focus on the things we both enjoy and value as friends.
Over time, our bond has deepened rapidly. She even made a playful remark, joking that if I’m too kind, she might fall for me—which made me start questioning my emotions. I’m now confused about why I’m feeling such a strong, almost romantic pull towards her, and I sense that she might be feeling it too. Can anyone help me understand why I’m experiencing these romantic feelings for her?
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I never had a romantic feeling towards same sex as me. I would never ever do anything to hurt my partner but i am confused on what i’m feeling, what do i need to do? should i stop talking to her?
Are you sure it’s not just platonic? You can have a connection with someone and it just be a friend.
If you care about your partner, and you’re starting to have a crush on this girl, then yes- cut it off.
Human nature, OP. It’s only natural that closeness makes the heart grow fonder. Attraction towards the same gender aside, she’s just a person you met that you happen to share a natural closeness to…
Or…you could just now be discovering you’re bisexual.
I mean do you like her or not? Only you know how you feel and why. Are you sexually attracted to her?
I thought I had a crush on a same sex friend who was flirting with me once. We had become close and I confessed that I had feelings for her, and even though she was flirting with me a lot she said she didn’t feel the same. I look back and don’t even think it was a real crush, but at the time it felt very real. We are good friends still and have no romantic interest in each other whatsoever. It’s kind of a funny thing that happened to us now. At the time she was pansexual, but now she believes she is just straight and was going through a faze. Friendships are confusing, relationships are confusing. But just because you think you feel this way now doesn’t mean it’s worth ruining your relationship with her and your partner. The friend that I speak of and I had stopped being friends for a while because of that, and it’s not to the level of complication that your situation is. Chances are she doesn’t feel the same and is just being flirtatious. Be real careful, and good luck.
i think it’s you discovering a new side but i must say, if it becomes something deeper, someone could get hurt at the end. just make sure to be on the same page, sometimes you’ll think it’s something more & then your mind might change.