My boyfriend and I are not sexually compatible and it is starting to annoy me. I am afraid I will become resentful and start to feel like he is my roommate. I have thought of buying a toy but it is not the same, I want the intimacy, the touch, the kisses, the sounds, all of that.
He has said that I talk to much about sex so I feel a bit hesitant to bring it up and I dont know how to bring it up either without saying that he doesn’t satisfy me. I have tried giving hints, like the day after say what things I liked that he did so he hopefully would do more of that instead of saying ”stop doing this”.
I really love him but have started to question if I can be with him in the long run because sex to me is extremely important in a relationship but I also feel kind of dumb thinking of breaking up with him because of sex when everything else is amazing? Help me out!
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It’s not dumb to break up with him over this. It’s not just that you’re sexually incompatible, it’s that he doesn’t care to do anything about it or to meet your needs. He is selfish. It’ll show up in other ways as well, but even if it didn’t, this is important to you.
You shouldn’t have to feel like you are giving hints when communication is a huge factor when it comes to sexual compatibility. Your intuition is telling you what you feel is the best thing for you. I know for me affection is a huge part of compatibility.
“I would love to feel more affection and intimacy between us and I don’t think I’m being heard or feeling seen” – idk being direct always worked for me and change is the biggest indicator on how they in turn feel about me.
What does he do that you want him to stop?