My brother died in 2023 after getting caught in a riptide where he saved a drunk guy. My brother had just finished his second year at his dream job as a elementary school teacher, was in a serious relationship and moved into his first apartment.
He was on summer vacation in Costa Rica when he and his friends saw a drunk guy crying for help. My brother ran into the ocean even though his friends said to stop because it was too dangerous.
My brother reached this drunk and swam him close enough to where he could get back to the shore. My brother got pulled out and pulled under. He drowned which is one of the worst ways to die.
The guy who my brother rescued wasn’t grateful and is still a drunk. The funniest part is that he’s in his 70s. I absolutely hate my brother for sacrificing himself for someone who was far less valuable than my brother.
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You’re angry at him for being a good person. Release that anger safely in any way you can. Find peace in knowing he was the hero and honor him.
Wow……. just… WOW. In one hand, I can understand how you feel. But, in the other, I don’t agree with you hating your brother. HE WAS A GOOD MAN. I can, however, understand if you have hatred for the drunk guy.
Well if heaven is real, he definitely went there. But fuck that drunk guy
Doesn’t sound like you hate your brother. Sounds like you hate that drunk guy, which is understandable
Your brother likely didn’t know it was a drunk dude. He probably heard screaming for help and didn’t realize who he was saving.
You must find this ungrateful recipient of your brother’s heroic generosity, and return to him the very fate he bestowed upon your brother.
It is the only way.
Get some therapy, friend.
You don’t have to carry this forever.
Well you certainly are not your brother!
He ran to help someone when he heard their cries.
You’d be able to ignore that?
Your anger is understandable. I’d be angry if my brother did something like that but I’d also be proud, your brother died wanting to save a person which is something most people wouldn’t do in this world, your brother was one in a million so I’d celebrate his achievements.
If given the option, would you go back in time and save your brother if it meant you had to die in his place?
Your rage is understandable and validated. However, there’s a chance your anger is likely displaced. Nobody is judging you for feeling the way you do nor does anybody have the position to do so. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to grieve, feel, think, say and do. And you certainly should not feel guilty for feeling what you feel even if time passes and your feelings change. If and whenever you do decide to better your quality of life and get help with the weight your carrying, i wish you the best and that you are able to find some relief from whatever it is you find that makes you feel better as long as it’s not at the expense of others. You don’t have to carry this weight alone, you don’t have to feel this way forever. There are so many support groups of all kinds as well as therapys, or maybe you find that therapy isn’t your thing, that’s okay! you just have to find what’s right for YOU
wishing you the success you deserve x
Go seek help. You clearly need it
Hey man! Sorry to hear about your brother, may he rest in peace. I am Costa Rican and currently living here, where did this happen?