Anyone, would you feel the same way?

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I (F28) has an LDR partner (M31), never met irl yet. We’ve been talking for almost 5yrs and will finally meet in a few months. During this 5yrs I’m the only who sends noodz, and he has never sent me any. Even one. His reason is he promised himself not to send anyone and he doesnt trust internet.

What I’m feeling rn is that it’s unfair bcos from the beginning, I’m the only one providing his needs and and I never received the same level. Do you guys have any suggestions on how we work on this?

Comments

  1. Menschlichkat Avatar

    You could stop sending him anything until y’all meet in person. Have you spoken on the phone or via video call in these 5 years? Are you sure he is who he says he is?

  2. theyjustdontfindme Avatar

    Like another commenter said – are you sure this person is who he says he is? Please read up on/watch the story of Sweet Bobby.

    If this guy is legit, then you’re exactly right. Why continue investing in someone who isn’t doing the same for you?

  3. HauteBoheme3897 Avatar

    I would never send nudes to a person I’ve never met.

  4. toni_inot Avatar

    He is hiding something from you. Prepare for a surprise of some sort. Come back and tell me when you find out what it is. I’ll be interested to know.

  5. LolEase86 Avatar

    How have you verified that he is who he says he is?

  6. DotCottonCandy Avatar

    Why is it an issue now? Why have you been sending them for the last five years when he won’t? He doesn’t need to work on it, because you just do what he wants and he doesn’t have to do anything.

  7. honey-apple Avatar

    He trusts the internet enough to happily receive them from you 😵‍💫 have you video called with him?

  8. Hartleyb1983 Avatar

    My question is he’s been in a relationship with you for 5 years but doesn’t trust you? Something else sounds off to me. Have you sent any money?