My bf and I have been seeing each other for around 6 months. Of these 6 months, he’s had to be away for professional reasons for around 3 months. In the time we’ve been apart, we’ve actually grown closer, emotionally (taking away the physical really makes you progress differently because there’s no physical intimacy that could be misunderstood as real love.
However, we both are very independent and have things going on in our lives. I am head over heels in love with him. I sense he feels the same way so upon his return next month, I think our relationship will continue to grow. BUT, I don’t think it’s a good idea to start living together, even in the medium term. As we grow older, we become set in our ways. Our individualism is rather prominent despite loving to spend time together (he makes me laugh all the time and can’t imagine life without him anymore.)
My question is: does it make sense to be a serious couple but not live together in the long term? Would it be weird that we might not want to live together? (And if anyone is thinking it, marriage isn’t an issue for us both).
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Maybe a better relationship by not living together
one of my old bosses lived separately from her husband and swore it was the best relationship she ever had.
It just depends on what your definition of a relationship is.
Lots of couples don’t live together. I don’t live with my boyfriend and neither of us wants to live together. It’s probably healthier not to feel like you have to live together in order to be a “real” couple. You get to make your own decisions regardless of what society says.
My boyfriend of a year lays in my bed and tells me he loves me and cums in me and then I found out he has another female living with him and has been lying to me for the last 6 months and driving her car over to see me when I thought it was his friend Chase’s silver SUV.
So I wouldn’t trust any man that you live apart from because they’re all lying snakes and just because you love him doesn’t mean he really loves you too.
Real serious relationships don’t live apart.
And friends with benefits don’t live together unless they’re cheap whores like hot sauce and his fake friends but that has nothing yo do with your post.
I’ve been with my gf for two years we don’t live together and I don’t really see it happening anytime soon it’s not impossible
I think it really depends on your relationship… everyone is different. My dad’s job moved to about 2 hours away and it was either go with the job or quit. My mom still had her job. So they live apart five days a week and spend time on the weekends together. My mom loves it as she can do whatever she wants during the week and not have to feel guilty about not being around my dad. My dad loves it because he just likes to sit at home and watch baseball or tv which my mom does not enjoy. So it’s win win and when they get together on the weekends they have quality time.
I dunno, I think whatever works for you, but it would feel like a bit of sham relationship if I never lived with my partner. Sleeping, breakfasts, chores, daily little things…all part of a relationship, not just seeing each other for funsies.
Serious yes, meaningful no.
Nothing wrong with keeping separate places. How does he feel about it?
My husband (62) and I (50) Have a separate bedrooms and he also has a 2000 square foot shop that he hangs out in all day. It’s almost like I live alone in the house And he keeps his messes in his shop.