Okay so I (F19) know this is kinda dumb but it’s become a full habit now. Every time I hook up with someone, especially if it’s casual, I literally fake like I’m falling asleep right after. Even if I’m wide awake. Even if it’s early. I just shut my eyes and hope they won’t try to talk or cuddle.
It’s not that I hate cuddling, but something about the awkward post-sex small talk makes me so uncomfortable. Like I already gave you my whole body, can I not also have to do the weird “soooo that was fun” conversation right after? I just want to breathe and be alone in my head for a sec. And cuddling always feels like pretending something’s more than it is, especially if I don’t actually like the guy that much.
Most of the time, they roll over and go on their phone or leave, and that’s perfect for me. But I know it probably feels cold. One guy even asked, “Do you always just pass out after?” and I pretended to be too tired to answer.
I kinda feel bad about it, but not enough to stop doing it.
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So what happens if they nut in you, you just leave it in?
You’re allowed to be honest with people and tell them you don’t want to small talk after sex before you do the horizontal mambo with them.
Why not just leave or tell them to leave at that point lmao, like it takes way more effort to pretend to fall asleep all the time and makes it awkward anyways, so if it’s awkward why not just leave or make an excuse to do so.
You really think the other person will be like “oh she fell asleep this is perfectly fine and not awkward at all”
Ngl this is kinda funny to me. You must not like them very much🤣
Same or I pretend I have to leave cause of stomach problems. Bust a nut then a huge air biscuit and nobody ever argues. Walk away free and clean….. mostly clean. Maybe a little swamp ass
So shagging someone is a breeze but having a conversation or small talk after is the kicker? 😂😂
Then don’t do small talk. Watch a show, play a game. Do normal shit
It always baffles me that people literally exchange fluids but cannot make smalltalk afterwards, weird priorities imo but you do you
Bruh having sex with random guys who you berly like and can’t even have a small talk with is crazy. Just buy a masturbator at this point. If the guy did something like this people would say he only sees women as sex objects and has no respect for them.
Hookup culture moment
Falling asleep randomly is a lot more awkward. You’ve literally been naked with that person. Y’all just banged and small talk is what scares you? Just tell them you have to wake up early or you just don’t want to have after-sex talk or cuddle sessions.
Why are you fucking guys you don’t like that much? I think you’d feel a lot better if you save yoself for a worthy man. I’ve spent so much time out of my life and spent so much energy on girls that I didn’t really like and just wanted to have sex with and that is not it. It’s draining and before you know it you’re 45 and alone. Idk I’m just tryna help. I think the world would be a better place if they held out for people they love. I’ve gotten two girls pregnant and two of my babies were aborted. My rule after that is those experiences is that I don’t want to have sex with a girl unless I am willing to have a child with them. Sometimes birth control doesn’t work including condoms. It’s not worth it to go around having sex where you can get it. Pregnancies, abortions, std’s. Idk that’s just my take. You can obviously do whatever you want. I just wanted to share that perspective and maybe be helpful.
How has this not backfired? One wrong person brought over to your place and while you’re “sleeping” they’re ransacking your place
Just pee and leave 🤷♀️🤷♀️
Or hand them their clothes and tell them you need to go to sleep and they need to gtfo ..
Have you tried communicating with them? There’s a bigger problem here, people want to help you but you won’t let them
Why are you sleeping with people that you “don’t actually like as much”? Maybe there’s a larger issue to focus on
“especially if I don’t even like the guy that much” and “I just gave you my whole body” in the same context is so odd to me.. you value cuddling more than giving someone your body?
You’re 19…
As a 21yo male I’d recommend asking them to leave or leaving yourself! You aren’t always the only one who feels this way, and if your hookup wants to leave or wants you to leave it’s much easier to communicate that up front with honesty than to fake falling asleep, plus then you get to be alone if that’s what you prefer
This is valid af don’t listen to the haters, that type of confrontation/communication with people is hard, especially if it’s just random hook ups. Yea maybe it’s a lil weird but it’s really not that bad at all compared to what other people are doing
I wouldn’t have this problem cause I revert back to normal immediately. No aftercare needed for me. Just hand me my phone and let me watch Italian brainrot or rant about stuff I like to you and I’m good to go.
Before you have sex, throw into the conversation (at an apropo time) that you like to be quiet and bask in the brain chemicals after sex and are not up for being chatty if it is good
Sets them up to feel awesome about not talking
But only if it is honest