Reddit, I need you to settle a debate.
My wife and sister in-law each think its normal to see their parents naked. We are all in our 20’s, and her parents are 50’s.
For reference, I probably haven’t seen my parents in the nude for… well, probably since i was less than 3 years old.
They claim that at any point in their life, its probably only been – at most – about 3 months since the last time they saw their dad’s taint.
If you are curious, they claim this happens when they walk into their parents’ restroom while visiting home, or when they travel together.
Their family thinks it’s weird that I don’t see my parents naked like… ever!
Well Reddit, what do you think?
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Not once you grow up, no.
The last time I accidentally saw a naked parent, I wasn’t even 7 or 8 years old, and again, it was accidental.
Have they never heard of locking a door? Or… knocking before you enter a space someone might be naked?
Nope, definitely not.
No. Why are they walking in on their parents in the restroom? That’s weird.
I would say generally no, but the situations you mentioned don’t seem all that unusual. My parents’ bathroom doesn’t lock, so sometimes people walk in.
I haven’t been in vacation with my parents in years, but if I was, I don’t think it’d be all that strange for my dad and I to change in the same room when my mom changes in the bathroom or something, and I’d imagine the same is true of a mother and her daughter.
I did. We lived together. I’m a kid and I don’t know boundaries. Eventually…
Na dawg. Haven’t seen either one of my parents naked since I was like 4 or 5 tops
No. That’s weird. The only time I saw my mom naked was when I was in pre-school and we took showers together, but it wasn’t weird or anything. Just seemed like a son and mom bathing. Nothing more, nothing less
My wife and I have two girls 8 and 6. My wife happily walks around bottomless on occasion, and its not the end of the world or uncomfortable for anyone if they see her topless. But being a guy, they absolutely never see me without something covering my lower half.
Nope, never have I ever. once I accidentally opened the door while my dad was in the bathroom and saw nothing and I think we both were ready to remove ourselves from the world after that. Avoided each other for a solid week.
I’ve never seen either of my parents naked, and I never want to
It depends on the family. Some people grow up like that, some don’t.
When I was a teenager, my dad and I would play racquetball together. We’d hit the locker room after, so I’d inevitably see him undress there and it was gross enough.
At home? Hell no.
Maybe it’s cultural. I don’t think there’s anything weird about getting changed or bathing around family members, but my culture traditionally didn’t wear a lot of clothing until they met European settlers and we had public baths prior to settlement, so I think that’s a part of why I never cared.
My adult daughter and I sometimes live together and we have a code phrase, “DON’T LOOK-I’M NAKED” or otherwise pull our t-shirt down to cover the stuff down there.
If your having sex with them it’s normal
Big NOPE
Depends on your family and how you were raised imo
Yes, it can be normal. My Dad would go skinny dipping in the pool at his parties with PhD students, friends, and coworkers.
Depends what culture you’re from. In Denmark being naked is really not a big deal, especially around the same gender. For example at public swimming pools everyone has to shower naked in a communal shower area or they are not allowed to go in the pool. If you’re a woman and you’re going swimming with your mother, then you’ll see her naked 🤷♀️ no one cares – a body is a body.
This can happen in Japan with the parents of the same sex when going to a hot spring.
i don’t see my mom naked anymore but before I moved out it was normal to me lol. Like idk my mom sleeps naked, she doesn’t care about me seeing her naked because it’s how i grew up with my mom caring for two kids alone. she used to not care that much about anyone seeing her tanning herself without a bikini top, she didn’t like tan lines lol.
so i am on your wife’s and sister in-law side.
i think it depends how people grew up, its nothing to judge
It’s very far from common, for sure. But it’s also not that weird. Some families are just more comfortable with nudity.
Honestly, I respect it. I wish I could be more comfortable with casual nudity like that, even if I also fully know that it’s not a hurdle I’m likely to get over.
I’m Spaniard, it doesn’t sound that weird to me. Bathroom was never really locked in our house (we were all free to lock it if you wanted) so it wasn’t that strange that someone might accidentally open the bathroom door without knowing someone else was already in it.
I have indeed change in the same room as my mom, I’m a woman, if there that was the only/quicker option like why are we going to take twice as long?
It is definitely cultural/personal. Nudity is not inherently sexual in any way.
Some people are much more comfortable around family/friends doing things like changing clothes/bathing/sauna/walking into a bathroom where a door is open, etc…
Depending on where/how you were raised, some people are very comfortable with this, others avoid it at all costs. Neither is “wrong” if nothing beyond seeing a human body is happening.
Bodies are bodies. We all have them.
In my house it’s completely normal for us to see our mom naked but not our dad he always has pants or something
My mum is a bit older (early sixties) and lives with me for care and support. I sometimes walk into her room without knowing what she’s doing and see some Lovecraftian horrors… Is it super common? No. Is it surprising? Yes. Is it awkward? Also yes but so has the last 30ish years of my life so honestly, some saggy tiddies or wrinkly skin is the least of my worries. I’m more concerned with the nakeds outside (I live in a not so great neighborhood lol).
Short answer, humans are human afterall. We all do weird and seemingly stupid shit that’s completely normal to others and otherworldly to you or vice versa. As long as you can still sleep at night I think you’re about as sane as the rest of us are.
Its not weird but its not unusual. Some families are open about non sexual nudity. Its mostly Americans that are puritanical about it
Depends on where you’re from
Depends on your culture.
I hope not.
I’d feel very awkward fully naked around my 8y/o. I don’t think my daughter has ever seen me fully naked.
Yes, close this tread, that’s all there is to it, perfectly normal.
Nudity is perfectly normal. I grew up going to the sauna with my parents, changing on the beach without being all prude with a towel. I’ve seen my parents nude, my kids see me nude. Nothing strange about it
A lot of people struggle with the fact that nudity isn’t inherently sexual, it would be more healthy for a developing child to be able to see their parents nudes in non sexual circumstances than to never see people nude unless it’s sexual.
Taint? I mean, there’s rushing across the hallway because you forgot a towel, but I’d say even that is a little strange….but….taint???
So many cultures, so many norms.
No
It was never that big a deal. My dad, I saw a bunch of times. He didn’t care. It’s just a naked body, I gotta shower, don’t look if you don’t want to see it. Gyms and pools and so on, I mean, why are you gonna worry about it.
My mom was more discreet and polite about it but if there was a need to change clothes out in the woods it wasn’t worried about, she’d just try and be discreet.
When you’re that close to anyone for that long, chances are you’ll see em naked a time or two. Totally normal, it’d be kinda weird if you didn’t.
I’m in my 20s, my parents are in their 60s.
My mom walks around the house naked, but she runs to hide if she realizes I’m around.
My dad walks around the house naked sometimes because he’s old and doesn’t give a shit lmao
Yes.
Some families are just more naked than others. Some walk around nude at home; some are never without pajamas and a robe; most are somewhere in the middle.
Growing up in the 80s, yes, everywhere. Beach, river, hot springs, your mothers friends. I mean, we used to be people that were normal, had normal lives and would see other people naked. Now, no way, no how, it’s weird, how offensive, wtf is this, call CPS and so on…
Parent’s who are super hiding of personal human things have kids that don’t know shit when they become adults… Hence modern times.
Depends on the culture. Seeing my parents naked is not a problem at all for me.
Idk. When I was little, my parents’ bedroom door didn’t lock, so I’d just walk in on them a lot asking for food or a toy or something else. So I saw em naked a lot but idk of that’s normal
with a mother with no shame and me who is very quiet yes we do run into each other sometimes
normal… eh not really. but as long as they’re aren’t doing anything sexual I don’t see an issue.
I don’t think it’s a big deal to occasionally run into a family member naked when they’re going from the shower to their room. Or get changed in the same room like at a pool or hotel. I might turn my back or look away, but that’s a personal preference. For context I live in a Canadian household with a German mother.
In my culture, whatever that is, absolutely not lol.
Depends on your culture. I’m perfectly fine walking around in a bra around my 13 year old daughter, but she hasn’t seen me naked since she was very young. And I haven’t seen her completely naked since I stopped having to bathe her. I wouldn’t even walk around in a bra around my teenage son. He’d be so uncomfortable with it.
Never/rarely seeing them naked isn’t inherently weird to me. Seeing them naked isn‘t weird to me either, might be cultural (🇩🇪in my case) , as others have said. Same situations as you said, too.
Being so opposed and grossed out is kinda weird to me tho, there’s nothing gross about nudity to me, especially not to the people that changed my diapers.
I had to help take care of my 80 year old dad after he had a stroke. It wasn’t everyday mind you, but yes, I had to help him in the bathroom and shower. Maybe an extreme case, but don’t be surprised as your parents age that you may have to get over some hangups.
Depends where you live
Saunas will cure you from that prissiness. Nudity is not gross, we all have bodies, families are close, bathing does not need to be private.
What ?
Occasionally, sure.
Um no, that’s weird but i guess each person has it differently
Definitely depends on the family/culture. I can only remember once or twice accidentally seeing my parents naked when I was very young. As a parent now, it’s extremely common for people to be in any state of dress/undress.
There’s nothing wrong with either, as long as all involved are comfortable.
I was just jumping in the shower last night when the 24 yo (same sex) child came by to visit and stuck her head around the closed door to say hi- the girls don’t do this with their dad though.
Normal is probably the wrong word to use. Growing up in the 70s and 80s you never saw your parents naked. Later on my daughter has never seen me naked (I’m the dad)
That said in some households it is perfectly acceptable. As long as nothing nefarious is going on it is fine. Different strokes for different folks
I saw a post a long time ago about “naked moms, Pooh Bear moms, and clothed moms.” I had a naked mom, I’m a Pooh Bear woman. Different families are different. Nakedness doesn’t have to be sexual.
Seeing your father’s taint though is … fuhken weird….
Hell no. I’d probably go blind if I saw my parents naked 😵🤢😱
They are not the norm in the USA , no.
100% normal, of course there’s occasions and contexts you SHOULDNT see them naked in.
I’m Finnish and my family love sauna. I can’t comment on this as it’s a literal part of my culture.
No, that’s just weird.
Context is important. On holiday getting changed yes. Walking round the house in the buff, no.
It was normal for my generation (GenX). If I had kids I definitely would not be naked in front of them. It seems in app to me.
It depends on the culture though. The US has sexualized nudity. In other cultures it’s not necessarily like this.
Depends how you were brought up. Some people are prudes and can’t imagine seeing family naked. My wife and I have discussed this at length as we are trying for kids. We love to be naked in the house, not being sexual just enjoying being free from clothes and just relaxing. Definitely will leave it up to the kids and if they find it offside then we pivot or discuss this with them. I have a background in team sports and after when we finished playing hockey or football the whole team showered. So nudity is not really a big deal
No.
Nah those people are fucking weirdos. Its not even up for debate that shit should never even happen by accident
It all depends on the family, I’m a very naked person, will air dry when I get out the shower, look round the house for clothes naked, my partner is the total opposite though and she thinks it’s weird that I’m so comfortable with my body.
The kids see me naked quite often, my kiddo will often chat to me sat on the toilet while I’m in the shower. It’s not weird at all, she just knows that while I’m showering I’m a captive audience and she can bother me with whatever.
Maybe when they get older they’ll be like dad please put some clothes on but until then I’ll keep wandering round as nature intended.
Maybe. But that don’t make it right. 😵
For me it is, but my family are basically hippies. They make fun of me for locking the door when I have a shower, so idk maybe we are just strange 🙂
I’d say it is and it isn’t. Depends entirely on the family values and the culture in which they live. Would you yell at a tribe where everyone is naked most of the time for being “abnormal”? What about nudists whose communities are fine with it? I’m sure some adults also grew up with their parents teaching them that their bodies are completely natural and nothing to be ashamed of.
I’m female. My mom will leave the bathroom after a shower butt-ass-naked and it’s basically normal. I think for about 75% of my childhood, when it was just us immediate family in the house, my mom was shirtless.
If she has to pee when I’m drying off after a shower or if I need help trying on clothes or whatever, it’s no big deal for her to come into the room. When I have surgery to remove my rectum, she’s said she’ll be there to deal with that aftermath when a nurse isn’t there.
As for my dad, no nudity amongst us. If he’s gotta help with some medical shit (ostomy bag changes, for example, in my case) I’ll elect him to help if nobody else is available, but even if I’m shirtless I’ll at least have a bra on in those situations.
I’d say it’s pretty normal. When you live under one roof with someone it just happens occasionally that you see your roommate naked to some extent. It just so happens that this roommate may be your parent. Gross? Yeah, probably. But no big deal in my opinion.
WHAT
Not normal. I probably saw my parents naked twice in my life that I can remember, and those times were because I was a wild child and just busted into their room or bathroom without knocking.
Its perfectly normal to see your parents and children naked. I’m M52, and if I’m visiting my parents, and they happen to take a shower, they will briefly walk nude between drying off and dressing. Likewise with my kids of both genders, they see me and my wife, and we see them.
I think it’s inappropriate.
its rare to see my father naked, i never saw my mom naked since i was a baby. my younger sister sees our mom naked quite often after a shower or something, so its common for her
Depends on how old you are. If you’re 30 and still living at home you deserve to see your parents naked.
I used to see my mother naked a lot as a kid, up until my teens, such as if she was in the bath and I needed to ask her for money or something I’d just walk in (for context I’m female, very different if sex was mixed imo). It’s not that weird to see it if adults, I’d definitely see it as odd if it’s opposite sex/gender parent and kid though.
Yeah my mom and my sister walk around the house naked a lot, but i’ve only seen my dad naked a couple times
No
I had this conversation with friends YEARS ago like 25-30 years ago. From what I gathered back then that in the US it’s almost based on income. My friends that had multiple bathrooms and their own bedrooms in their houses never saw their parents naked. Us on the poorer side of things it was more common just due to lack of square footage in our apartments/house. It was never flaunted or anything it just would happen. Heck I remember showering with my parents until I was like 5-6 or until I started asking questions. Or I’d see my dad because he would work overnights then come home and shower then go down to the basement before he woke us up but on plenty of occasions I’d accidentally wake up early
Yes, I got them “doing it” a few times which was kinda “upsetting” lol…. But my parents were always very affectionate with eachother… They’ve just celebrated their 45th wedding anniversary.
But yeah I did see them in the middle a few times… My dad only once or twice, my mom all the time cos, we were poor and I had to share her bath water, we couldn’t afford the gas to heat another tub of water
Modesty is key
Nope. It is not.
Nah man, I see Joe naked least once a week
My mom walks out of the shower as if she’s the only one in the house every day. I’ve never seen my dad’s knees.
Depends on the occasion.
Occasionally? No. Avoiding seeing them naked is normal. Knocking works.
Last thing I want to do is see where I was shot from, what I was shot into, and later came out of..
Nope
I’m almost 40 and I have zero memories of seeing them naked
I think it’s pretty common in Europe but not so much in the US.
My parents always argue, yelling at each other, never understood why they were married. Then I saw my dad naked once when I was 16 and I understood.
I saw my mom naked a lot when I was a kid but not as an adult thankfully. My German international student goes to nude beaches with her parents though so that was interesting to learn
I was raised in the 70s and my parents were hippies. I saw them both naked numerous times. Wasn’t a big deal.
I haven’t seen my parents naked for probably 30 years. So no, it’s not normal
Maybe in Alabama
I know it’s now weird, but I’m half French and for the French people it’s very normal seeing your parents naked. Growing up they were both very open with it as they saw us all as family. As an adult now I know it’s not normal
It’s definitely weird in the US, but not everyone views nudity the same way.
I occasionally go to nudist resorts/events and I’ve seen people bring their children.
Nudity isn’t inherently sexual, just like if you see nude people in a locker room, you’re not automatically doing something gay.
It can be hard to imagine when you haven’t really tried it, but just like the nudity of a locker room can be non sexual, nudity with your parents can also be non sexual.
depends of the family dynamic, if it’s not something they’ve been doing often, and they start doing it now, it’s weird yea
No.
Depends on the family… as long as nothing sexual is happening its fine
I walked in on my parents fucking on holiday. That was fun.
Im from the Netherlands, we have a sauna and jacuzzi and we often sit in it and talk (nude)
No its not sexual, its just usually in the evening after they come back for work a nice play to talk about our day
They even have invited like my brother in law and their parents, i personally didnt join cause yes i think its a bit too far for me. But yea for them its normal sitting with friends in it. For me its normal to be in it with my family
Depends on where you’re from
If you’re German
It definitely isn’t
If used to it
Who cares?
I seen my mom naked before
As long as you’re not both naked
And touching each other it’s not really a weird thing
Taint is wild but I see my mom naked every time we are in a home together or staying together.
But also we are a naked family. My dad saw me naked today
Some people are just more comfortable with nudity within their family. 🤷🏻♂️
…it’s likely culture dependent, or rather family dependent. My mom has always been very open about us sharing things & being naked around each other (we are both women after all). My dad’s always been very open about it and If it came to I wouldn’t be bothered if I saw him or he saw me. My mom has always been more bothered about my dad seeing me than I or my dad has been (divorced if you can’t tell lol). We all sleep naked, so at some point you’re going to see something when you’re doing the nightly runs for a pee 😂.
As a completely random but sort of in line comment: I’m not bothered if my dog sees me naked either, there are some people who don’t like it. I don’t mind it.
Absolutely weird to see parents naked.
Neither of my kids have EVER seen me naked. Ever.
I very much remember cringing and covering my eyes and wanting to cry whenever I accidentally saw my mom naked. This happened on multiple occasions. She never felt the need to close or lock her doors.
In my family it was fairly normal to see each other naked. Our bathroom also was never locked. My dad could go brush his teeth while my mom was on the toilet and I was in the shower. I went to the public naked sauna with my parents too. And even at 30 I still kiss them on the mouth lol. Theres seriously nothing sensual/sexual or anything about it. I’m from The Netherlands and over here people are 50/50 weird about seeing your parents naked. So it really depends how you have been raised. My bf never has seen his mom naked (something I can’t wrap my head around haha).
My parents are in their 60s. I’m in my late 20s. Their house has only one bathroom. The last time I visited I really needed to pee and my father was in the shower. So I saw him naked then. Not a big deal at all. Can’t remember the last time I saw my mother naked though, that would probably be weirder?
It depends on the family. I don’t think seeing skin is a big deal, we all have it. Except burn victims but that’s different. If the kids are going into their parents bathroom while it’s occupied then obviously they’re going to see some things. I’ve been going to the gym and changing in the locker room for almost my whole life. I’m also a massage therapist. I’ve seen a LOT of skin. The only people that think it’s weird to see skin are the same people trying to sell you clothes.
It was very normal in my family, to the point that at home, my dad was naked far more often than he was clothed. My mom was usually wearing something, but she was occasionally naked around the house too. Nudity just wasn’t a big deal in our household.
In most families in America, no. Nudist families are an exception.
These are the people who literally gave birth to you and saw YOU naked every day. Maybe you don’t remember it but I am certain that there are plenty more times when you saw them naked. Seeing your parents naked is just a part of being a family. Family is the one outlet where you should be able to be seen naked and not feel embarrassed or judged. To have thst ongoing physical and emotional bond that basically makes all the nudity non sexual and natural. To know that even if you DO feel embarrassment for whatever reason that the other persons involved do not share those feelings.
Past a certain age (puberty) it is not okay for parents to be nude around their children on a regular basis. There are some exceptions, like changing in a locker room together.
It can be normal to see anybody, family or not, naked depending on context. Culture decides what level of nudity is normal and families are just mini cultures.
Whether it’s normal or not is irrelevant as far as I’m concerned. All that matters is if they’re comfortable with it.
My mom up until I was probably 17 mooned me. She bent so far I could see her coochie. I tried telling her many times how it made me uncomfortable and to please stop. Every time she’d call me a kill joy and continued doing it. It’s not normal
Hell no
Me personally, I only ever saw my dad naked when we were poor and shared baths and I was only like 7, never saw my mom naked. Only family members I’ve seen naked was my sister, my brother, and my grandpa. My siblings because we were young and shared baths as well and my grandpa because I was his caretaker for the last few years of his life. It was never normal to just walk around naked for no reason in my house nor was it normal to get into a situation where you COULD see someone naked unless for the aforementioned reason of needing to bathe while using the least amount of water. Privacy was respected, doors were locked, and boundaries existed
I’ve gone to my parents’ house looking for my dad and he’s coming out of the shower. That never happened while my sister and I were growing up there, but I guess since we left he felt it was free rein. I can’t fault him, it’s his house.