I don’t know about 70. Your priorities are gonna be totally different then than they are now. I can tell you at 32 that I don’t really like the women I liked when I was in my 20’s. The more emotionally mature somebody is, the more attractive they are. I also don’t care as much about appearance as I used to. It’s not that my standards are lower by any means, and in fact, I would say it’s the opposite. I think I have more standards now than I did when I was younger, and when someone checks off a lot of those boxes, damn gurl.
I think when you’re 70 it’ll be less about finding something ‘hot’, and more finding them beautiful for who they are. The body withers and fades, and I think what we find attractive is constantly evolving.
I do cast a wider net now that I’m older when it comes to thinking someone is attractive. But they have to be actually attractive for their age, not just some frumpy shlub that thinks I should want them because at my age I must be desperate.
Idk about 70, but now that Im in my 30s, men in their 30s, 40s, and 50 are hot to me. Men in their 20s just look like babies. I see their attractiveness but they are ultimately too young for me to find them attractive.
I think as I age anyways personality traits have more of an impact on what I find physically attractive. A 40 yr old man will have more confidance and likely to be more themselves than a 20 yr old, which I find insanely hot and suddenly are physically attractive.
But in all fairness when I was young, there were a few older celebrities I thought were stone cold foxes.
The things that you define attractiveness by change a lot as you age.
I’m 36 and even now I find things other than physical attributes to have much more weight in attractiveness. My partner’s personality, mannerisms, and character make him insanely attractive to me. His good looks are a bonus. I met him online (not a dating app), and I was already attracted to him before I even knew what he looked like just by how he conducted himself and interacted with me and others.
I’ve also seen much much older guys who are definitely grizzled and have old, worn out bodies, but still keep up on their health, grooming and personal style that I think are still “hot” because of how they carry themselves and how they act, and that they put effort into how they look. It’s really all about the aura and vibe. At least for me.
I’m 31, and I feel like it’s less “other 30 year olds are physically attractive to me now” and more “physical appearance is less important to me now”. Personality and emotional maturity become more important in potential partners instead. Age and physical appearance become less important factors in terms of determining “attractiveness”.
Sure, I can still be attracted to the young, hot, fit 21 year old person if I only consider physical appearance. But when it comes to actually spending time with them? It quickly becomes apparent that I’m talking to someone much younger than me. Too young. It feels like I should be giving them advice, like a parental figure or older sibling, and the idea of dating them just goes out the window at that point.
My rule for dating is a -10/+5 range. Why? Because attractiveness is much more than looks, it’s maturity, life experience, humor, intelligence, and capacity for empathy. What do I have in common with people outside of my range? Not much. Young men aren’t mature enough and want mommies more than partners. Older men have so many more issues with their bodies, mental health, and entitlement.
For context I’m 45 and my current partner is 39. I’m aging well, when guessing my age, strangers always put me at mid 30s these days. I have had a lot of interest from both way younger and way older men. Would I be attracted to a much older man if he met my standards for a good partner? Sure, but I have very high standards when it comes to mental and emotional health that the older generations never gave a damn about so that disqualifies a vast majority.
When you’re 70, you see things on another 70 year old to be attracted to, generally. Hot isn’t as important as a good belly laugh, for example, or shared experiences. That said, there are super hot 70+ year olds out there. Look at Helen Miren, Harrison Ford, Morgan Freeman, Linda Carter… The list goes on and on
nope still not attracked to ole ladies, mostly. Only had a physical attraction to about 5-10% of women in general when was in 30’s. Lost interest in them.
Probably? I’m only 35 but I’ve noticed my maximum age of attractivness raising all the time. 15 years ago a 35 year old was an old lady, but now I’ve started seeing 45 year olds that are hot as hell.
when i was much younger, i dated based on looks. 28 now and i’m more interested in who you are as a person, and if it’d add to my life or take from it.
My personal theory is that when you have people aging with you, you can still see the qualities and features in them that endure. We are all getting older but we see beyond that since we become accustomed to the changes in our own bodies. I’m 55 and sometimes when I see people I knew at school it’s just how I remembered them. Attraction can transcend age, as has been proven over and over, but certainly emotional maturity is a factor also.
I’m late 20s & I find celebrities 40s &50s hot. Its weird I only find them hot. But if a 40 or 50 year old man tried to chat me up I’d probably feel sick
I feel like as you get older your idea of what’s attractive shifts big time. it’s not all about a perfect body, it’s more about personality, humor, and that lived-in charm that comes with wrinkles and stories. like a guy who’s had a full life might not have abs, but he’ll have a spark and confidence that’s real appealing. i mean, when im 70 id probably be drawn to someone with style and wisdom, not just physical looks. so yeah, i think it’s possible old men can be hot, u just look at them differently.
Only the hot ones will look hot to you. I’m a 60 year old woman. I work out, do yoga, swim. Some of the older men at my gym look great. They really take care of themselves.
Dunno, but as I’ve aged(mid 40’s) I’ve definitely found myself attracted to older and older women(30’s-40’s generally). When I see girls under like 25 I wonder how I ever was attracted to them when I was in school.
I can only speak for myself but when I was fresh out of high school I used to drive past the high school and think the girls I saw were hot. Meanwhile it was a rare mom that I noticed and thought of as a MILF. Now in middle age I drive past the high school and think when did 12 years olds start going to high school and can’t think of the last time I thought any of those girls were hot. Meanwhile I go to the grocery store and see MILFs all around me. It is the rare GILF I see.
In my experience I am anticipating when I am 70 I’ll be surrounded by GILFs and wonder why so many children are shopping at the grocery store.
All i know so far at 50,as you age,your preferences changes with you.You might see a girl in their 20’s and she would be beautifull and yet you’re not attracted to her.(i think it’s about being in different stages in life)
I used to wonder about this too. I’m 37 now and I still care about physical attraction but it’s different. I can see a 22 yr old guy and recognize he’s attractive but not be attracted to him bc I just can’t imagine interacting with him in a meaningful way plus I think they just look so young it doesn’t do it for me like that.
When I was little I liked so much childish features like the main actor of Peter Pan. Now, growing up I’m into Jeremy Irons ahahaha maybe I’m radical but I bet guts change mostly with age since you search different things and get used to see yourself differently
Basically yes, at least as a woman I can say that my taste has evolved to match my age and I’m generally attracted to people around my age. Of course with age you also get more mature and are attracted to traits like kindness rather than just physical traits. A less attractive guy who always speaks in a kind and friendly way become much more attractive because that is the kind of person I would want to be in relationship with.
I’m 60 and it’s not that way with me, LOL. I still find the same women attractive, in a physical sense, that I did when I was 20. That said, I do find some 50 and 60 year old women attractive, but I did so then as well.
I am 58 and I am not attracted to most men my age. They all seem to look alike, shaved head, gray beard or goatee and wear t shirts with the arms cut off.
Young people come with a lot of baggage that you’re probably not gonna want to deal with when you’re older. The posturing, the entitlement, and the shallow self interest get old eventually. Young people don’t know shit but they get full of themselves and get arrogant.
It’s not everyone. But it’s most people IMO. It’s a phase we eventually grow out of with enough life experience. And when you do, physical beauty stops becoming a priority even if you are you still care about it.
No, old people do not look hot. They are cute, like a spider monkey or a French bulldog. I’m old and other old people, are not attractive to me (myself included). Chances are, when you are 70, you will have other criteria for judging friends or partners, other than hotness. The older you are, the less hotness matters. Of course, there are exceptions.
For some of us our desire ages with us. I can still appreciate the beauty of youth but my appreciation of it is more aesthetic. I like bellies and old guy attitudes, they’re sexy IRL and out. Might be the relativism of age but I wish I had developed an appreciation for mature men much sooner I think I would have had a lot more fun.
i’ve never thought about this before, but this is very interesting. i’m in my thirties. when I see young men approximately 30 or younger, I feel quite literally nothing. even if they are “good looking” and I would have been attracted to them at that age. its not a conscious thing, but im realizing it now. like some evolutional signal, they just look like puppies to me.
at this stage I need a man to be a just a bit aged to be attractive, which has shifted since I was younger
Yeah I’m 50, and the people I find attractive are usually anywhere between 40-60 at this point. That was definitely not the case when I was 20, when I found people around 20-late 20s attractive. I’m sure when I’m 70, the range will have evolved.
I can only speak as a largely pansexual female here, research has shown that males continue finding women around age 20 the most attractive, but for me…the older I get the more I find older women and men attractive. And even in some cases finding them more attractive as they age than I did when they were younger. Like…Kate Winslet and Gillian Anderson are fine examples. Those women are aging like Brunello, I find them more gorgeous now than I did back in the 90’s. Jason Momoa baby faced as a twenty year old was meh to me but now he’s older, a bit more weathered and has kind of a belly going on at times (when he’s not cutting for a movie)…purr!
There seems to be kind of an upper limit, especially if people don’t take care of themselves, but like…Ian Mclellan and Patrick Stewart are both getting up there in years and I’d give either one of them a lay. I’d still climb on Harrison Ford. I’d happily sleep with Kathy Bates, Meryl Streep, Jane Fonda, Lilly Tomlin, etc. There’s plenty of very attractive people in the 65+ category! And I’m not at all old really, I’m just pushing 40.
Idk but my grandpa and his gf started dating in their 80’s. He’s 90 now and he looks at her like she’s the prettiest woman in the room (she is). It’s very sweet tbh
I tend to be attracted to attractive people my own age (mid 40s). Of course the very attractive people in their mid to late 20s and 30s still look good, but anyone mid 20s and younger looks like a little kid to me.
I’m in my mid60s (F) and I feel that young hot men, while lovely to look at, are NOT candidates for dating. I find men in their late 50s plenty hot. Dad bods, scruffy gray stubble, yes please!
I’m 50 and honestly I find a lot of the younger plus size instagram models to be sexy and great to look at but most of the time I’m wondering what their mothers look like. These days I do see alot of attractive older women that I maybe wouldn’t have noticed 20 years ago
Not at 70. Beauty is driven into us by mass media images in ads, movies, actors. Our taste in beauty does not change. Old men want younger beautiful arm candy and likewise for women. Old people usually only fulfill these fantasies if they can attract and retain with lots of money.
Hot is hot no matter how old you are, it’s just less important than the personality as you age and start to value companionship over physical attraction
I was always worried about this too. My husband and I started rewatching Sons Of Anarchy and I had initially (13 years ago) thought Charlie Hunnam was super hot but in the first episode he looks like a high schooler to me now at my big age of 37. 😂 Your preferences will grow with you, you just don’t realize it as it happens gradually.
I’m going to posit a slightly different theory than most people: I think people tend to be attracted to how old they feel. And I also think people tend to feel slightly younger than they are. That gap tends to widen as you get older but it never becomes HUGE.
For example, I’m 42 now. if you shook me awake in the middle of the night and asked me how old I was I’d probably say 35. (Actually, wait, I’m 43! See what just happened!?) Anyway 35 is probably the age of women I find most attractive. I still find 42 year old women very attractive (and older) too – but that’s probably the age I find most attractive.
This trend – feeling attracted to how old I feel – has been pretty consistent in my life but it could just be me. I’ll also say I remember my dad saying before he died that he still felt like he was in his 40s – so different people age internally at much different rates. Maybe that’s a hole in the theory or maybe that’s why some people are attracted to much younger people (see most men’s second marriage age gap)
43 here. When I was in my 20s, I was never attracted to anyone over 30ish. Met my husband, who was 34 at the time. I was 28. He was hot. He’s 49 now and I’m 43. He’s the hottest dude I know and he gets hotter every day.
I find myself looking at 40-50 year olds in a different light now. I can appreciate a 25 year old, don’t get me wrong, but it seems a bit creepy to be attracted to a dude who was born after I graduated high school.
My husband keeps getting hotter. I can see that he’s not in shape and balding but that’s a good look for him. My ex is less attractive though, and he’s older than us, so maybe it’s just that connection is hot and being a jackass is not.
You discover, as you get older, that sexy is not what society tells you it is. You become less programmed. What I find sexy now is someone in my age range because insides really matter
I, 46(f) married 22 years to a 62(m). I find him very attractive and he thinks I’m the most beautiful woman in the world. He didn’t love my young age when we got married (wasn’t seeking it), but I was always that 10 year old, going on 30 maturity level. We built something special.
Maybe yes . Because newbies in Hollywood with great looks ,the likes of whom would have got me drooling a few years earlier now make me feel “oh that kid is beautiful I hope she becomes a big star , oh that boy, he is such a smart young boy ,I bet he will be a great star a few years from now “. Whereas the actors who I would have seen as “too grown up for me ” a few years earlier are now like “dammmmnnn 🔥 that tie and dad bod is killing me Mr actor with two grown daughters “.
My aunt loved Rod Stewart when I was little, so when he played nearby last year, I went to see him. If anyone would have told me an 80 something year old man could be sexy, I would have thought them delusional. But guess what? He still projected copious amounts of sly sex appeal, charisma and charm!
I’m 46F and definitely find myself checking out men 50+. I still find men in their 30s attractive though, and if I was dating I wouldn’t say no one if they looked past my grey hair lol.
It shifts as you age, but I have always been more attracted to people older than me. It’s only recently that they’re significantly older though. I’m 31 and crushing on someone in their fifties. I don’t think I would have had that happen in my twenties. I would be more concerned if it was the opposite motion. In general I seem to gravitate less to younger and people my own age.
The question you ask is different. At 20 I’d ask “how will I feel with this person tomorrow.” At 50 it’s “how will I feel with this person in 5-10 years? At 50 you’ve learned a lot of why previous choices weren’t that good and you’re applying that wisdom.
I’m in my 50s now but early in our marriage, I’d tease my wife that when she turned 40, I would trade her in for two 20 year olds. When she turned 40, she asked if I still wanted to. The idea seemed absolutely horrifying by the time she was 40.
probably? i’m 23 and after entering my 20’s as time passes i started seeing teenagers as more and more distant to where now 18 year olds are kids to me. i can tell if they’re objectively attractive or not, but i’m not attracted to them myself. i guess thats how it feels when u get old too
Look, Harrison Ford was hot when I was a teen and he is still hot when I’m 55. Similarly, so is Patrick Stewart and, even though he plays for the other team, I’d bang Ian McKellen like a damn bongo. So, most likely. lol
I’m in my 50s [M] and absolutely find women my age very attractive in “all the ways”. I would also add, that the idea of “dating” a 19 year old is a little repulsive to me. Maybe because I have a grown daughter but 19 or even mid-20s feels pedo-adjacent to me.
Imagine going on a date with a toddler. Not super stimulating conversation going on. Nothing in common. Now imagine being 70 and going on a date with someone who is 25.
Yes, but also you probably aren’t gonna find a fellow 70 year old to be the most attractive person you have ever met. However the things we find off putting you will see in the mirror daily, so you become more used to it, and accepting of it. Now 40-50 you may find someone your age that is the most attractive person you have ever met. That doesn’t mean you won’t see a 30 year old and think they have an amazing body and are in great shape, but their faces generally will start to look like a teenagers, almost not fully developed or something. They can still be pretty, but they look too young, there isn’t like that spark of attraction, or nervous feeling.
The importance of static outward appearance generally fades with age too. Faces in motion, what expressions they use, how they handle different situations, personalities, humour, perspective. These all become more important than how someone looks in a photo of posing, or dressed up after hours of preparation for a first impression. Like seeing someone at their worst, or being vulnerable, making a mistake, and laughing it off can be more attractive than someone who holds themselves like a piece of art.
The ages of women I find attractive has expanded since I’ve gotten older. I’m not 60 yet, but it’s normal for me to see women around 60 and think they’re good-looking. I don’t think most are, but I’m that way about all ages. And the older I get the more the age range expands even as it stays centered around my age.
That said, I can see fashion photos of a younger woman and find her attractive without knowing how old she is, but if I see the same woman interacting with people as the 20-something that she may be, she just looks like some kid to me. Perhaps I can still recognize the natural beauty, but she no longer looks attractive or even all that interesting.
In fact, it’s hard to imagine a flirtatious conversation with a woman in her 20s or early 30s as being anything more than tiring or (frankly) boring, and that tends to make all women that young look unattractive to me in person.
I’m fifty two, and much more attracted to women in my age range. Not that I don’t still find young women attractive, I’m just more attracted to women that I would have shared life experiences with
The short answer is yes. As you get older, your tastes in what is attractive ages with you, not necessarily year for year, but it definitely matures. I’m 47 and although I can appreciate a handsome younger man, I don’t find them “attractive” in that sense unless they’re at minimum 40.
I’m 47m and it blows my mind when I see men my age with women in their 20-30’s. Don’t get me wrong, they’re beautiful, but they just can’t compare to the depth and grace that women my age bring to the table.
I can say, as a guy who dated younger women up until his 40s, that at a certain point in time everyone below a certain ages starts to look like a child. I remember when I realized I was getting older; a girl walked out of the restaurant and I thought ‘she’s cute’ and then another woman walked out behind her and I thought GD…she is fine af…then the second woman asked the first one where her father was and I realized it was her mother and not her sister.
I also remember the moment where I realized it was going to be increasingly difficult to find women to date when I kept getting hit on by younger women and I’d considered it but then realized I’d be too embarrassed to walk around with them in public because it’d be like dating my daughter.
But the short answer to your question is ‘yes, as you get older, women (or presumably men) your age will be attractive. The issue is women of a certain age start thinking my of a certain age only want a nurse and a purse so it’s almost as frustrating as being in your 20s and dealing with single-hungry women and trying to figure out if they’re sometimes single-single and whether or not to waste time money and resources making that determination.
My partner is nice looking not model gorgeous I am 66 he is 69. We met 13 years ago and I think our priorities were companionship, friendship, someone to go places with and do stuff with. I wasn’t looking I just happened to get introduced to him at some function or other and it proceeded from there. As you get older the hotness factor is less and the more kind and caring a person is becomes more important as other people have said here.
Well, I can’t speak for 70, but when I was 20’ish I thought 20-year olds were attractive and women around 30 looked old and unattractive. Now I’m 31 and 20-year olds look like kids and women my age are attractive, so I’m pretty sure it goes for 70 as well
I’m 40 and am attracted to people in their 40’s, so yeah probably.
Don’t get me wrong i’m still attracted to people in their 30’s – and (rarely) even late 20’s.
But the younger they are, the less likely i’ll be interested past the initial physical attraction.
Definitely. I’m 38 female, and while I’ve always had an appreciation for guys in their 30s-40s, I’m noticing more and more older guys too. Meanwhile, guys in their 20s are looking more and more like unfinished children to me. It’s interesting realizing that celebrities I found meh 10-20 years ago are suddenly hot.
I imagine there’s probably some limit , like I don’t think I’ll ever find 80 year olds attractive but I am in my mid 40s and do find women of around the same age attractive.
In my mid thirties and I couldn’t tell you when but 21 year old girls at some point became unattractive to me. Hard to not see them as senior children. I’m sure I’ll say the same about my age in another few decades.
I saw an interesting chart the other day that suggested that women are most attracted to men of a similar age to themselves. Although at about 45 they seem to go for men a couple of years younger.
Men, on the other hand, seem to prefer 21-23 year old women, no matter what age they are.
I’m 45 and my new guy is 61. Most men my age are ready to start a second family. Zero interest in that. I’m closed for business. My kids are in their 20’s I’m ready to start my next chapter. He is seasoned on life and stable. He is amazing.
I am about to turn 60. Male nurse. Single for several years and happy about it, to a point that this what I choose and prefer. I sometimes get offers, but politely decline. I find some women pretty. Some my age, some younger than me, none older than me. However, I am no longer attracted to anyone. I sometimes get a good feeling to see a beautiful women smile at me, but it ends there. It’s a good feeling, no less, and bring a bit of sunshine in my day. I know that 30 years ago, I would’ve smiled back and tried to find a way to get in contact with her. But I let it go now. At my job, there are female colleagues that wonder why I am still single, that « this one » might be interested. But I shrug off. I prefer my calm, very happy life. The thing is that nobody is « attractive » to me, now. This feeling has somewhat gone away and just being happy, content and especially happy for others being in love is the state I am in. My analysis is that my point of view on life has changed. When you are 30, you want a life partner, start a family, buy a house, get a nice job. I had that. Now my view on life is about making sure I have enough funds for retirement, enjoy seeing my children becoming adults (and being a bit anxious about it since it’s no longer under my control). But also, I realize that this is the point where you begin to think more about life, its meaning, but also health issues, death of loved ones and family members. And my death also as it is in a foreseeing future. When you are 30, you know death is part of life, but, if you are healthy, it’s this thing that will eventually happen, but you don’t really think about it. Now, it is becoming part of my life. My mother died two years ago. My dad will probably die this year since he has terminal renal disease. I’m starting to get some minor health issues like shoulder pain, common problems with my prostate. This all pushes the issue of being attracted as not being very much important. Not as it was 30 years ago. Be content 🙂.
When I was 15/16 I was really attracted to 15/16 year old Jennifer Connelly in Labyrinth, now I’m in my 50’s I’m attracted to 54? Year old Jennifer Connelly and 79 year old Helen Mirren 🤷♂️
Not so much. It’s wishful thinking when people say it’s exactly the same as being young. Unfortunately it’s not. But it’s not like there’s no attraction. It’s just not the same.
Kinda. Depends on the person. Some older people still look hot but definitely not attracted into the blue hair short perm and cheap pant suit grannies but they are some I am very surprised they are grandparents
I mean, it’s been happening as I’ve grown older so far. When I was 15, I liked 15-18 year olds, when I was 20, I liked 20-25 year olds, 30- I liked 25-35 yo. Now I’m mid 30s and would be attracted to early 30s to 50 year olds. lol
No idea if it’s true, but I think I saw stats a while ago that generally men stay attracted to younger women with some increase in attraction to older women as they get older, while women generally stay attracted to their own age.
I’m a single 67 yo woman. Even if I find men my age attractive I know as they age they get sicker quicker than women and I don’t want to take care of them when I can barely take care of my 90 yo mother and my 4 adult kids.
I’m a few months from 70. I’m pretty busy. Work 1 or 2 nights a week. walk a few miles a day, do quite a bit of reading. I know I’ll get some hate for this but it seems that all women are basically the same.They’re more materialistic than I am. They feel that they paid their dues if they had kids. Now as they say is “my time “. That means all they want to do is travel, try different restaurants, the beach etc. nothing against that but it’s not the epicenter of my life. I like the outdoors. An animal lover. I’m vegan and a pretty good cook. Don’t care about Florida Don’t operate on the same relationship rules that I had when I was 21. I just keep to myself. Life is better that way.
It’s normal to wonder about that! As you get older, attraction can shift. It’s not just about physical looks, but also about personality, wisdom, and the connection you share. So, yeah, age doesn’t always determine attraction… it’s more about the bond and respect you have for someone.
With luck, when you lose your hormones you won’t be interested in whether or not someone’s hot, but you will take pleasure from a 70-year old man — or a man of any age, tbh — looking at you with interest. That doesn’t go away as soon.
What’s really funny is that women find men of similar age to them more attractive than those that are significantly younger or significantly older than them. However, men seem to always find 25-year-old women to be the most attractive regardless of their age.
I can’t tell you about being 70, but I can tell you how it feels from my 45 year old perspective. People under 35 do not attract me at all, they seem like children. Not in a bad way, I just do not find them physically or emotionally attractive. I don’t have the same outlook they do and would not have much in common. The shine of sex has worn off and for me, that isn’t the only thing I am after.
Dudes older than around 60 do not appeal to me yet, I think they still have the grandpa vibe. Men in that 35 to 60 range can for sure be attractive to me now, I think I find the vibes to be more in line with mine.
I’m about to turn 50 and my attraction age range has definitely increased over time. In terms of beauty and handsomeness, the people most appealing to me are mostly in the 35-60 range (and some older, very rarely younger than that). In terms of attraction, I’m a lot pickier about things like personality, style and general demeanor than I used to be. I can enjoy looking at an attractive younger physique at the beach or the gym, but in terms of actually being attracted to the individual, it’s really rare that a hot
Twenty something really catches my attention.
But the 70yo has to look healthy, trim, neat, clean, carries himself with confidence and has good sense of humor. Unfortunately that’s not the case with the majority of 70 year olds, especially in Seattle. I find younger men attractive but are not interested in them.
I think so, I think you tastes grow with you. For example I find Zac Efron very attractive. Always have at every age of his life. But we are very close in age so when I was 14 he was 16. Now we’re both older and I still find him attractive as the adult he’s grown into. But when I look at pictures of him when he was 16 I’m just like, okay he’s a cute boy but I’m not in any sense attracted to him.
No, they dont become attractive, it’s just that to try to attract a healthy young person seems weird so we give in to the flabby, obese or wrinkly bodies of our own age. I’m only 52, but to have fun with 30 yo’s is like my limit. 19 and 24 yo’s have tried to set something up with me but I turn them down because damn, they are younger than my own children.
There’s a few things that matter more the older you get.
Pleasant company and good conversation make life better. You have more time to spend with your person at 70 than you do age 20-50 when you’re doing more outside of the home.
Social benefits of a relationship are more about how much people LIKE your partner vs. the benefits of HOT arm candy. There’s a bit more ease when people see it as an appropriate relationship, which can have an age gap, but probably not a 50 year one.
Finally, people’s eyes, especially if they’re kind and intelligent people, stay beautiful 70 and beyond.
It’s not that they start to look more or less attractive. I’m 50 and hot 20 year olds are still hot. I just don’t have any interest in dating them because I’m 50 and 20 year olds don’t have the life experience I do and I don’t want to have to explain everything I am interested in to them.
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It is person dependent of course but generally as you get older you are more attracted to older people
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I don’t know about 70. Your priorities are gonna be totally different then than they are now. I can tell you at 32 that I don’t really like the women I liked when I was in my 20’s. The more emotionally mature somebody is, the more attractive they are. I also don’t care as much about appearance as I used to. It’s not that my standards are lower by any means, and in fact, I would say it’s the opposite. I think I have more standards now than I did when I was younger, and when someone checks off a lot of those boxes, damn gurl.
I think when you’re 70 it’ll be less about finding something ‘hot’, and more finding them beautiful for who they are. The body withers and fades, and I think what we find attractive is constantly evolving.
I do cast a wider net now that I’m older when it comes to thinking someone is attractive. But they have to be actually attractive for their age, not just some frumpy shlub that thinks I should want them because at my age I must be desperate.
Idk about 70, but now that Im in my 30s, men in their 30s, 40s, and 50 are hot to me. Men in their 20s just look like babies. I see their attractiveness but they are ultimately too young for me to find them attractive.
I think as I age anyways personality traits have more of an impact on what I find physically attractive. A 40 yr old man will have more confidance and likely to be more themselves than a 20 yr old, which I find insanely hot and suddenly are physically attractive.
But in all fairness when I was young, there were a few older celebrities I thought were stone cold foxes.
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The things that you define attractiveness by change a lot as you age.
I’m 36 and even now I find things other than physical attributes to have much more weight in attractiveness. My partner’s personality, mannerisms, and character make him insanely attractive to me. His good looks are a bonus. I met him online (not a dating app), and I was already attracted to him before I even knew what he looked like just by how he conducted himself and interacted with me and others.
I’ve also seen much much older guys who are definitely grizzled and have old, worn out bodies, but still keep up on their health, grooming and personal style that I think are still “hot” because of how they carry themselves and how they act, and that they put effort into how they look. It’s really all about the aura and vibe. At least for me.
I’m 31, and I feel like it’s less “other 30 year olds are physically attractive to me now” and more “physical appearance is less important to me now”. Personality and emotional maturity become more important in potential partners instead. Age and physical appearance become less important factors in terms of determining “attractiveness”.
Sure, I can still be attracted to the young, hot, fit 21 year old person if I only consider physical appearance. But when it comes to actually spending time with them? It quickly becomes apparent that I’m talking to someone much younger than me. Too young. It feels like I should be giving them advice, like a parental figure or older sibling, and the idea of dating them just goes out the window at that point.
My rule for dating is a -10/+5 range. Why? Because attractiveness is much more than looks, it’s maturity, life experience, humor, intelligence, and capacity for empathy. What do I have in common with people outside of my range? Not much. Young men aren’t mature enough and want mommies more than partners. Older men have so many more issues with their bodies, mental health, and entitlement.
For context I’m 45 and my current partner is 39. I’m aging well, when guessing my age, strangers always put me at mid 30s these days. I have had a lot of interest from both way younger and way older men. Would I be attracted to a much older man if he met my standards for a good partner? Sure, but I have very high standards when it comes to mental and emotional health that the older generations never gave a damn about so that disqualifies a vast majority.
At 70, 70 yr olds are relatable. It’s not always about hot.
When you’re 70, you see things on another 70 year old to be attracted to, generally. Hot isn’t as important as a good belly laugh, for example, or shared experiences. That said, there are super hot 70+ year olds out there. Look at Helen Miren, Harrison Ford, Morgan Freeman, Linda Carter… The list goes on and on
im in my 60,s . my experience is that ladies close to my own age group appeal to me more. when i was in my 30`s same thing.
nope still not attracked to ole ladies, mostly. Only had a physical attraction to about 5-10% of women in general when was in 30’s. Lost interest in them.
Probably? I’m only 35 but I’ve noticed my maximum age of attractivness raising all the time. 15 years ago a 35 year old was an old lady, but now I’ve started seeing 45 year olds that are hot as hell.
You’ve never seen a hot 70 year old ? I know they’re rare but there are GILfs out there
As an older millennial i like old tired people, just like myself, attractive. Not older, not younger but people who sort of look my age ..
like idk but think about it— do you view little children as “attractive”? (i sure hope not!) but you sure did when you were their age.
There’s an interesting study done on attraction (was it ok cupid or one of those based on their data).
For women it’s mainly people relatively close to their own age
For straight men it’s women between 18-25.
Don’t fret
Wait until you reach that age
Enjoy life now that you’re young
Don’t accelerate time.
Yes its how it normally works
when i was much younger, i dated based on looks. 28 now and i’m more interested in who you are as a person, and if it’d add to my life or take from it.
Are you 70?
Then you can’t answer.
Well yea when I was a teenager I was attracted to teenagers lm 40 teenagers are children so I don’t see them the same lol
My personal theory is that when you have people aging with you, you can still see the qualities and features in them that endure. We are all getting older but we see beyond that since we become accustomed to the changes in our own bodies. I’m 55 and sometimes when I see people I knew at school it’s just how I remembered them. Attraction can transcend age, as has been proven over and over, but certainly emotional maturity is a factor also.
I’m late 20s & I find celebrities 40s &50s hot. Its weird I only find them hot. But if a 40 or 50 year old man tried to chat me up I’d probably feel sick
Emotional connections are very sexy, af any age
I feel like as you get older your idea of what’s attractive shifts big time. it’s not all about a perfect body, it’s more about personality, humor, and that lived-in charm that comes with wrinkles and stories. like a guy who’s had a full life might not have abs, but he’ll have a spark and confidence that’s real appealing. i mean, when im 70 id probably be drawn to someone with style and wisdom, not just physical looks. so yeah, i think it’s possible old men can be hot, u just look at them differently.
For me, attractiveness and attitude go together, no matter the age. At some point you have to do something besides just look at them.
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Only the hot ones will look hot to you. I’m a 60 year old woman. I work out, do yoga, swim. Some of the older men at my gym look great. They really take care of themselves.
I’m 50 and my 46 years old wife is the most attractive person in the universe to me.
But if I ever dare look at another woman and find her attractive, she is usually younger. Maybe 30s
Dunno, but as I’ve aged(mid 40’s) I’ve definitely found myself attracted to older and older women(30’s-40’s generally). When I see girls under like 25 I wonder how I ever was attracted to them when I was in school.
I can only speak for myself but when I was fresh out of high school I used to drive past the high school and think the girls I saw were hot. Meanwhile it was a rare mom that I noticed and thought of as a MILF. Now in middle age I drive past the high school and think when did 12 years olds start going to high school and can’t think of the last time I thought any of those girls were hot. Meanwhile I go to the grocery store and see MILFs all around me. It is the rare GILF I see.
In my experience I am anticipating when I am 70 I’ll be surrounded by GILFs and wonder why so many children are shopping at the grocery store.
All i know so far at 50,as you age,your preferences changes with you.You might see a girl in their 20’s and she would be beautifull and yet you’re not attracted to her.(i think it’s about being in different stages in life)
I’m almost 50 and have totally found that as I age my attraction also shifts to people of my age range
I used to wonder about this too. I’m 37 now and I still care about physical attraction but it’s different. I can see a 22 yr old guy and recognize he’s attractive but not be attracted to him bc I just can’t imagine interacting with him in a meaningful way plus I think they just look so young it doesn’t do it for me like that.
When I was little I liked so much childish features like the main actor of Peter Pan. Now, growing up I’m into Jeremy Irons ahahaha maybe I’m radical but I bet guts change mostly with age since you search different things and get used to see yourself differently
Basically yes, at least as a woman I can say that my taste has evolved to match my age and I’m generally attracted to people around my age. Of course with age you also get more mature and are attracted to traits like kindness rather than just physical traits. A less attractive guy who always speaks in a kind and friendly way become much more attractive because that is the kind of person I would want to be in relationship with.
Sean Connery looked more handsome when older than when he was young.
Yes.
I’m 60 and it’s not that way with me, LOL. I still find the same women attractive, in a physical sense, that I did when I was 20. That said, I do find some 50 and 60 year old women attractive, but I did so then as well.
I am 58 and I am not attracted to most men my age. They all seem to look alike, shaved head, gray beard or goatee and wear t shirts with the arms cut off.
Young people come with a lot of baggage that you’re probably not gonna want to deal with when you’re older. The posturing, the entitlement, and the shallow self interest get old eventually. Young people don’t know shit but they get full of themselves and get arrogant.
It’s not everyone. But it’s most people IMO. It’s a phase we eventually grow out of with enough life experience. And when you do, physical beauty stops becoming a priority even if you are you still care about it.
No, old people do not look hot. They are cute, like a spider monkey or a French bulldog. I’m old and other old people, are not attractive to me (myself included). Chances are, when you are 70, you will have other criteria for judging friends or partners, other than hotness. The older you are, the less hotness matters. Of course, there are exceptions.
For some of us our desire ages with us. I can still appreciate the beauty of youth but my appreciation of it is more aesthetic. I like bellies and old guy attitudes, they’re sexy IRL and out. Might be the relativism of age but I wish I had developed an appreciation for mature men much sooner I think I would have had a lot more fun.
i’ve never thought about this before, but this is very interesting. i’m in my thirties. when I see young men approximately 30 or younger, I feel quite literally nothing. even if they are “good looking” and I would have been attracted to them at that age. its not a conscious thing, but im realizing it now. like some evolutional signal, they just look like puppies to me.
at this stage I need a man to be a just a bit aged to be attractive, which has shifted since I was younger
Yeah I’m 50, and the people I find attractive are usually anywhere between 40-60 at this point. That was definitely not the case when I was 20, when I found people around 20-late 20s attractive. I’m sure when I’m 70, the range will have evolved.
I can only speak as a largely pansexual female here, research has shown that males continue finding women around age 20 the most attractive, but for me…the older I get the more I find older women and men attractive. And even in some cases finding them more attractive as they age than I did when they were younger. Like…Kate Winslet and Gillian Anderson are fine examples. Those women are aging like Brunello, I find them more gorgeous now than I did back in the 90’s. Jason Momoa baby faced as a twenty year old was meh to me but now he’s older, a bit more weathered and has kind of a belly going on at times (when he’s not cutting for a movie)…purr!
There seems to be kind of an upper limit, especially if people don’t take care of themselves, but like…Ian Mclellan and Patrick Stewart are both getting up there in years and I’d give either one of them a lay. I’d still climb on Harrison Ford. I’d happily sleep with Kathy Bates, Meryl Streep, Jane Fonda, Lilly Tomlin, etc. There’s plenty of very attractive people in the 65+ category! And I’m not at all old really, I’m just pushing 40.
Yes!
Idk but my grandpa and his gf started dating in their 80’s. He’s 90 now and he looks at her like she’s the prettiest woman in the room (she is). It’s very sweet tbh
I tend to be attracted to attractive people my own age (mid 40s). Of course the very attractive people in their mid to late 20s and 30s still look good, but anyone mid 20s and younger looks like a little kid to me.
Looks at rich/powerful people who are in their 60s/70s/80s. Who are they dating? They have way more options for partners than the average person.
I’m in my 40’s and 40 something women are hot as all fuck. I’d much rather have the company of a milf than a 20 something.
For me, a 54f my answer is no… I usually date people younger than me. But, depending on the person, I could see myself dating someone around my age.
I’m in my mid60s (F) and I feel that young hot men, while lovely to look at, are NOT candidates for dating. I find men in their late 50s plenty hot. Dad bods, scruffy gray stubble, yes please!
I’m 42, and if a woman’s face looks like a doll face(I.e. 20’s) she ain’t hot to me. I need a little seasoning on that face.
Yes. Women your own age stay attractive to you regardless if you are 30, 40, 60, etc
Although I just saw my 6th grade crush last week. First time I’ve seen her in 23 years. She has not aged well. I barely recognized her.
I’m 50 and honestly I find a lot of the younger plus size instagram models to be sexy and great to look at but most of the time I’m wondering what their mothers look like. These days I do see alot of attractive older women that I maybe wouldn’t have noticed 20 years ago
Yeah
Not at 70. Beauty is driven into us by mass media images in ads, movies, actors. Our taste in beauty does not change. Old men want younger beautiful arm candy and likewise for women. Old people usually only fulfill these fantasies if they can attract and retain with lots of money.
Hot is hot no matter how old you are, it’s just less important than the personality as you age and start to value companionship over physical attraction
I was always worried about this too. My husband and I started rewatching Sons Of Anarchy and I had initially (13 years ago) thought Charlie Hunnam was super hot but in the first episode he looks like a high schooler to me now at my big age of 37. 😂 Your preferences will grow with you, you just don’t realize it as it happens gradually.
I mean, I’m not going to kick Sydney Sweeney out of bed for eating crackers, but I generally do look at women more in my age range.
I’m going to posit a slightly different theory than most people: I think people tend to be attracted to how old they feel. And I also think people tend to feel slightly younger than they are. That gap tends to widen as you get older but it never becomes HUGE.
For example, I’m 42 now. if you shook me awake in the middle of the night and asked me how old I was I’d probably say 35. (Actually, wait, I’m 43! See what just happened!?) Anyway 35 is probably the age of women I find most attractive. I still find 42 year old women very attractive (and older) too – but that’s probably the age I find most attractive.
This trend – feeling attracted to how old I feel – has been pretty consistent in my life but it could just be me. I’ll also say I remember my dad saying before he died that he still felt like he was in his 40s – so different people age internally at much different rates. Maybe that’s a hole in the theory or maybe that’s why some people are attracted to much younger people (see most men’s second marriage age gap)
that’s obviously just based on my own experience:
43 here. When I was in my 20s, I was never attracted to anyone over 30ish. Met my husband, who was 34 at the time. I was 28. He was hot. He’s 49 now and I’m 43. He’s the hottest dude I know and he gets hotter every day.
I find myself looking at 40-50 year olds in a different light now. I can appreciate a 25 year old, don’t get me wrong, but it seems a bit creepy to be attracted to a dude who was born after I graduated high school.
My husband keeps getting hotter. I can see that he’s not in shape and balding but that’s a good look for him. My ex is less attractive though, and he’s older than us, so maybe it’s just that connection is hot and being a jackass is not.
You discover, as you get older, that sexy is not what society tells you it is. You become less programmed. What I find sexy now is someone in my age range because insides really matter
I, 46(f) married 22 years to a 62(m). I find him very attractive and he thinks I’m the most beautiful woman in the world. He didn’t love my young age when we got married (wasn’t seeking it), but I was always that 10 year old, going on 30 maturity level. We built something special.
Maybe yes . Because newbies in Hollywood with great looks ,the likes of whom would have got me drooling a few years earlier now make me feel “oh that kid is beautiful I hope she becomes a big star , oh that boy, he is such a smart young boy ,I bet he will be a great star a few years from now “. Whereas the actors who I would have seen as “too grown up for me ” a few years earlier are now like “dammmmnnn 🔥 that tie and dad bod is killing me Mr actor with two grown daughters “.
My aunt loved Rod Stewart when I was little, so when he played nearby last year, I went to see him. If anyone would have told me an 80 something year old man could be sexy, I would have thought them delusional. But guess what? He still projected copious amounts of sly sex appeal, charisma and charm!
I look at 20-25 y.o women now and most of them just look like children to me. So my tastes have shifted over time.
The older I get, the less important to me physical attraction is.
Sure at 51, I think a 21 year old lady might be pretty, but what in the world could we possibly have in common?
I know I’d have much more fun with a lady around my age. And that’s far more attractive.
100%, I am 45 and my wandering eyeballs always land on someone a lot closer to me in age than not
Yes. I’m also attracted to a wider age range now.
When I was around 23-25, I was usually attracted to women who looked around 20-28 years old.
Now, at 41 years old, I’m generally attracted to women around 30-50.
I’m 46F and definitely find myself checking out men 50+. I still find men in their 30s attractive though, and if I was dating I wouldn’t say no one if they looked past my grey hair lol.
Girl I used to wonder the same thing! Now at 46 I find myself checking out men my age way more than younger guys.
It shifts as you age, but I have always been more attracted to people older than me. It’s only recently that they’re significantly older though. I’m 31 and crushing on someone in their fifties. I don’t think I would have had that happen in my twenties. I would be more concerned if it was the opposite motion. In general I seem to gravitate less to younger and people my own age.
The question you ask is different. At 20 I’d ask “how will I feel with this person tomorrow.” At 50 it’s “how will I feel with this person in 5-10 years? At 50 you’ve learned a lot of why previous choices weren’t that good and you’re applying that wisdom.
As I get older, younger seem less attractive.
I’m in my 50s now but early in our marriage, I’d tease my wife that when she turned 40, I would trade her in for two 20 year olds. When she turned 40, she asked if I still wanted to. The idea seemed absolutely horrifying by the time she was 40.
probably? i’m 23 and after entering my 20’s as time passes i started seeing teenagers as more and more distant to where now 18 year olds are kids to me. i can tell if they’re objectively attractive or not, but i’m not attracted to them myself. i guess thats how it feels when u get old too
Look, Harrison Ford was hot when I was a teen and he is still hot when I’m 55. Similarly, so is Patrick Stewart and, even though he plays for the other team, I’d bang Ian McKellen like a damn bongo. So, most likely. lol
I’m in my 50s [M] and absolutely find women my age very attractive in “all the ways”. I would also add, that the idea of “dating” a 19 year old is a little repulsive to me. Maybe because I have a grown daughter but 19 or even mid-20s feels pedo-adjacent to me.
Imagine going on a date with a toddler. Not super stimulating conversation going on. Nothing in common. Now imagine being 70 and going on a date with someone who is 25.
Yes, but also you probably aren’t gonna find a fellow 70 year old to be the most attractive person you have ever met. However the things we find off putting you will see in the mirror daily, so you become more used to it, and accepting of it. Now 40-50 you may find someone your age that is the most attractive person you have ever met. That doesn’t mean you won’t see a 30 year old and think they have an amazing body and are in great shape, but their faces generally will start to look like a teenagers, almost not fully developed or something. They can still be pretty, but they look too young, there isn’t like that spark of attraction, or nervous feeling.
The importance of static outward appearance generally fades with age too. Faces in motion, what expressions they use, how they handle different situations, personalities, humour, perspective. These all become more important than how someone looks in a photo of posing, or dressed up after hours of preparation for a first impression. Like seeing someone at their worst, or being vulnerable, making a mistake, and laughing it off can be more attractive than someone who holds themselves like a piece of art.
The ages of women I find attractive has expanded since I’ve gotten older. I’m not 60 yet, but it’s normal for me to see women around 60 and think they’re good-looking. I don’t think most are, but I’m that way about all ages. And the older I get the more the age range expands even as it stays centered around my age.
That said, I can see fashion photos of a younger woman and find her attractive without knowing how old she is, but if I see the same woman interacting with people as the 20-something that she may be, she just looks like some kid to me. Perhaps I can still recognize the natural beauty, but she no longer looks attractive or even all that interesting.
In fact, it’s hard to imagine a flirtatious conversation with a woman in her 20s or early 30s as being anything more than tiring or (frankly) boring, and that tends to make all women that young look unattractive to me in person.
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I’m fifty two, and much more attracted to women in my age range. Not that I don’t still find young women attractive, I’m just more attracted to women that I would have shared life experiences with
The short answer is yes. As you get older, your tastes in what is attractive ages with you, not necessarily year for year, but it definitely matures. I’m 47 and although I can appreciate a handsome younger man, I don’t find them “attractive” in that sense unless they’re at minimum 40.
I’m 52 and find women of my age attractive which I would likely have not when I was younger
I’m 47m and it blows my mind when I see men my age with women in their 20-30’s. Don’t get me wrong, they’re beautiful, but they just can’t compare to the depth and grace that women my age bring to the table.
I can say, as a guy who dated younger women up until his 40s, that at a certain point in time everyone below a certain ages starts to look like a child. I remember when I realized I was getting older; a girl walked out of the restaurant and I thought ‘she’s cute’ and then another woman walked out behind her and I thought GD…she is fine af…then the second woman asked the first one where her father was and I realized it was her mother and not her sister.
I also remember the moment where I realized it was going to be increasingly difficult to find women to date when I kept getting hit on by younger women and I’d considered it but then realized I’d be too embarrassed to walk around with them in public because it’d be like dating my daughter.
But the short answer to your question is ‘yes, as you get older, women (or presumably men) your age will be attractive. The issue is women of a certain age start thinking my of a certain age only want a nurse and a purse so it’s almost as frustrating as being in your 20s and dealing with single-hungry women and trying to figure out if they’re sometimes single-single and whether or not to waste time money and resources making that determination.
As you get older, you generally see the halo effect wain. You realize what’s inside is way more important that what’s outside.
My partner is nice looking not model gorgeous I am 66 he is 69. We met 13 years ago and I think our priorities were companionship, friendship, someone to go places with and do stuff with. I wasn’t looking I just happened to get introduced to him at some function or other and it proceeded from there. As you get older the hotness factor is less and the more kind and caring a person is becomes more important as other people have said here.
In my 60s now, and thus is only slightly true.
I’m 45 now and it’s weird how my taste has definitely aged with me.
Well, I can’t speak for 70, but when I was 20’ish I thought 20-year olds were attractive and women around 30 looked old and unattractive. Now I’m 31 and 20-year olds look like kids and women my age are attractive, so I’m pretty sure it goes for 70 as well
I’m in my 50s. I still find Harrison Ford attractive
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I’m 40 and am attracted to people in their 40’s, so yeah probably.
Don’t get me wrong i’m still attracted to people in their 30’s – and (rarely) even late 20’s.
But the younger they are, the less likely i’ll be interested past the initial physical attraction.
No!! They all look like my dad.
Definitely. I’m 38 female, and while I’ve always had an appreciation for guys in their 30s-40s, I’m noticing more and more older guys too. Meanwhile, guys in their 20s are looking more and more like unfinished children to me. It’s interesting realizing that celebrities I found meh 10-20 years ago are suddenly hot.
I imagine there’s probably some limit , like I don’t think I’ll ever find 80 year olds attractive but I am in my mid 40s and do find women of around the same age attractive.
As I get older beautiful and attractive aren’t as synonymous as they used to be.
In my mid thirties and I couldn’t tell you when but 21 year old girls at some point became unattractive to me. Hard to not see them as senior children. I’m sure I’ll say the same about my age in another few decades.
I saw an interesting chart the other day that suggested that women are most attracted to men of a similar age to themselves. Although at about 45 they seem to go for men a couple of years younger.
Men, on the other hand, seem to prefer 21-23 year old women, no matter what age they are.
I’m 45 and my new guy is 61. Most men my age are ready to start a second family. Zero interest in that. I’m closed for business. My kids are in their 20’s I’m ready to start my next chapter. He is seasoned on life and stable. He is amazing.
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A healthy 70yo that can take care of me in my 70s. Yeah I could look in the mirror at myself at 70 & find security in a man very attractive.
i am 50 and 50 yr old women who take care of themselves are hot!!
I am about to turn 60. Male nurse. Single for several years and happy about it, to a point that this what I choose and prefer. I sometimes get offers, but politely decline. I find some women pretty. Some my age, some younger than me, none older than me. However, I am no longer attracted to anyone. I sometimes get a good feeling to see a beautiful women smile at me, but it ends there. It’s a good feeling, no less, and bring a bit of sunshine in my day. I know that 30 years ago, I would’ve smiled back and tried to find a way to get in contact with her. But I let it go now. At my job, there are female colleagues that wonder why I am still single, that « this one » might be interested. But I shrug off. I prefer my calm, very happy life. The thing is that nobody is « attractive » to me, now. This feeling has somewhat gone away and just being happy, content and especially happy for others being in love is the state I am in. My analysis is that my point of view on life has changed. When you are 30, you want a life partner, start a family, buy a house, get a nice job. I had that. Now my view on life is about making sure I have enough funds for retirement, enjoy seeing my children becoming adults (and being a bit anxious about it since it’s no longer under my control). But also, I realize that this is the point where you begin to think more about life, its meaning, but also health issues, death of loved ones and family members. And my death also as it is in a foreseeing future. When you are 30, you know death is part of life, but, if you are healthy, it’s this thing that will eventually happen, but you don’t really think about it. Now, it is becoming part of my life. My mother died two years ago. My dad will probably die this year since he has terminal renal disease. I’m starting to get some minor health issues like shoulder pain, common problems with my prostate. This all pushes the issue of being attracted as not being very much important. Not as it was 30 years ago. Be content 🙂.
If you’re a woman yes, if you’re a man, no. There’s good data on this out there, sadly.
I’m 36, I recognize that men in their 20’s are physically attractive but we have only superficial psychological connection
People forget that the brain is the biggest erogenous zone.
-Jackie Treehorn
I’m mid 40s. Timothee Chalamet holds zero attraction for me. Timothy Olyphant can get it. So yeah, people your age will generally appeal to you.
Robert Irwin, while cute, looks like an absolute baby to me.
Unfortunately it seems like only women have this response
When I was 15/16 I was really attracted to 15/16 year old Jennifer Connelly in Labyrinth, now I’m in my 50’s I’m attracted to 54? Year old Jennifer Connelly and 79 year old Helen Mirren 🤷♂️
Not so much. It’s wishful thinking when people say it’s exactly the same as being young. Unfortunately it’s not. But it’s not like there’s no attraction. It’s just not the same.
So looks ARE everything? Got it, lol. Vain.
Kinda. Depends on the person. Some older people still look hot but definitely not attracted into the blue hair short perm and cheap pant suit grannies but they are some I am very surprised they are grandparents
I mean, it’s been happening as I’ve grown older so far. When I was 15, I liked 15-18 year olds, when I was 20, I liked 20-25 year olds, 30- I liked 25-35 yo. Now I’m mid 30s and would be attracted to early 30s to 50 year olds. lol
No idea if it’s true, but I think I saw stats a while ago that generally men stay attracted to younger women with some increase in attraction to older women as they get older, while women generally stay attracted to their own age.
I’m a single 67 yo woman. Even if I find men my age attractive I know as they age they get sicker quicker than women and I don’t want to take care of them when I can barely take care of my 90 yo mother and my 4 adult kids.
Generally people are attracted to people around their own age.
I recognize when young people are attractive, but I’m not attracted to them.
It’s called settling.
Hot? No, intriguing or interesting or funny? Yup, Yup, Yup
I’m a few months from 70. I’m pretty busy. Work 1 or 2 nights a week. walk a few miles a day, do quite a bit of reading. I know I’ll get some hate for this but it seems that all women are basically the same.They’re more materialistic than I am. They feel that they paid their dues if they had kids. Now as they say is “my time “. That means all they want to do is travel, try different restaurants, the beach etc. nothing against that but it’s not the epicenter of my life. I like the outdoors. An animal lover. I’m vegan and a pretty good cook. Don’t care about Florida Don’t operate on the same relationship rules that I had when I was 21. I just keep to myself. Life is better that way.
When I was young, I liked older men 32 to 36. Now that I am older, I still like that age group. I never changed.
“Hot” is a stretch but definitely start to appreciate women my age more. But young women don’t stop being hot. I still have eyes.
I’m 55 and find my 54 year old wife really hot. Can’t ever see that changing.
It’s normal to wonder about that! As you get older, attraction can shift. It’s not just about physical looks, but also about personality, wisdom, and the connection you share. So, yeah, age doesn’t always determine attraction… it’s more about the bond and respect you have for someone.
With luck, when you lose your hormones you won’t be interested in whether or not someone’s hot, but you will take pleasure from a 70-year old man — or a man of any age, tbh — looking at you with interest. That doesn’t go away as soon.
I dunno about 70 but as a 47 year old man I definitely find women around 50 way hotter than I did at 20
As I get older the people near my age are more attractive then younger people, so yes.
I’m 46, and I’m definitely attracted to guys my age. Give me a salt and pepper beard any day🥰.
Guys in their 20s do nothing for me
What’s really funny is that women find men of similar age to them more attractive than those that are significantly younger or significantly older than them. However, men seem to always find 25-year-old women to be the most attractive regardless of their age.
I can’t tell you about being 70, but I can tell you how it feels from my 45 year old perspective. People under 35 do not attract me at all, they seem like children. Not in a bad way, I just do not find them physically or emotionally attractive. I don’t have the same outlook they do and would not have much in common. The shine of sex has worn off and for me, that isn’t the only thing I am after.
Dudes older than around 60 do not appeal to me yet, I think they still have the grandpa vibe. Men in that 35 to 60 range can for sure be attractive to me now, I think I find the vibes to be more in line with mine.
I’m about to turn 50 and my attraction age range has definitely increased over time. In terms of beauty and handsomeness, the people most appealing to me are mostly in the 35-60 range (and some older, very rarely younger than that). In terms of attraction, I’m a lot pickier about things like personality, style and general demeanor than I used to be. I can enjoy looking at an attractive younger physique at the beach or the gym, but in terms of actually being attracted to the individual, it’s really rare that a hot
Twenty something really catches my attention.
It’s more that young people look like a pain in the ass.
But the 70yo has to look healthy, trim, neat, clean, carries himself with confidence and has good sense of humor. Unfortunately that’s not the case with the majority of 70 year olds, especially in Seattle. I find younger men attractive but are not interested in them.
Attractiveness expands as you age. The connection attraction is more important than the physical attraction.
I think so, I think you tastes grow with you. For example I find Zac Efron very attractive. Always have at every age of his life. But we are very close in age so when I was 14 he was 16. Now we’re both older and I still find him attractive as the adult he’s grown into. But when I look at pictures of him when he was 16 I’m just like, okay he’s a cute boy but I’m not in any sense attracted to him.
Idk if that makes sense
I do know that as a 52 year old, kids in their teens and 20s look so young.
Most people I know in their 60s and 70s still find people their own age attractive. It’s like your brain adjusts so it doesn’t feel weird.
I think it’s the opposite. Younger people become less attractive to you. There’s a cutoff I think, like no one above 25 or 30 ever isn’t attractive.
As a guy, I can’t tell you if guys will appeal to you.
I’ll say this as a 74 year old guy, I’d choose the company of a contemporary woman every time.
Hot? It’s irrelevant.
At this age, it’s the company of someone with a similar cultural experience that’s compelling.
Is that “hot”?
Let’s put it this way . At 70, I find my wife very attractive for a 67 year old woman. I doubt I would have found her so when I was 24
Yes
No, they dont become attractive, it’s just that to try to attract a healthy young person seems weird so we give in to the flabby, obese or wrinkly bodies of our own age. I’m only 52, but to have fun with 30 yo’s is like my limit. 19 and 24 yo’s have tried to set something up with me but I turn them down because damn, they are younger than my own children.
There’s a few things that matter more the older you get.
Pleasant company and good conversation make life better. You have more time to spend with your person at 70 than you do age 20-50 when you’re doing more outside of the home.
Social benefits of a relationship are more about how much people LIKE your partner vs. the benefits of HOT arm candy. There’s a bit more ease when people see it as an appropriate relationship, which can have an age gap, but probably not a 50 year one.
Finally, people’s eyes, especially if they’re kind and intelligent people, stay beautiful 70 and beyond.
It’s not that they start to look more or less attractive. I’m 50 and hot 20 year olds are still hot. I just don’t have any interest in dating them because I’m 50 and 20 year olds don’t have the life experience I do and I don’t want to have to explain everything I am interested in to them.