Do Americans really have bullies who are are football/socker , stuffing people in lockers, stealing lunch etc? Are that’s just stereotypes? If they are real why doesn’t the school suspend them??
Do Americans really have bullies who are are football/socker , stuffing people in lockers, stealing lunch etc? Are that’s just stereotypes? If they are real why doesn’t the school suspend them??
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As far as I’m aware, modern bullies can’t get away with physically harming other students or stealing from them.
The bullying I witnessed in high school was almost always spoken or over the internet.
That sort of bullying was more of a real thing in the 80s…but that’s like 40 years ago. A lot has changed since then
Gonna go against the other person who’s commented and say I Have met people like this. Though more often people who are the mean girl stereotype to a T rather than mean jocks. But they exist too. It does indeed happen, just not as often as you see in movies, and the ones I knew were seen as kind of weird.
That’s an outdated stereotype from the 1980s.
Not sure if it’s like that these days, but 20 years ago, sure. That happened. Kids might get suspended, but that only staves it off for a few days. And that’s if a teacher intervenes at all. A lot of teachers don’t really look out for that stuff. They just want to get through their day. Some teachers may even join in on bullying, though not physically. I know that sounds ludicrous, but it does happen.
Some victims of bullying may be hesitant to report it, because they don’t trust the school to effectively handle it and may fear that the bullying will get worse if they “snitch.” So a lot of kids suffer in silence.
Up until like 2010, that was going on. (I graduated 04 and my brother in 10 so it definitely happened at least SOME)
Now things are much more insidious and much more constant. Less physical, more mental, unless they can get you alone and isolated and beat the shit out of you.
Yeah, those are kinda dated. But you found the answer: If they’re football or basketball stars, many schools won’t suspend them because that would mean losing games. And boosters and parents hate losing games, and they cause a lot of headaches for administrators. Now soccer…nobody cares about soccer. They’d be out the door.
Yeah dude, I’m 30 and I still have to give up my lunch money to my school bully.
But no, seriously, I never had any kind of problem with bullies in high school. Frankly, a lot of the people I see on Reddit that act like it was a big deal for them seem like the types that would get bullied no matter where they lived.
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I was a kid in the 80s (6-16) and there were bullies I guess, but I don’t remember it being that big a deal. Don’t believe everything you see on tv man. Bullies are a useful vehicle for storytelling.
Omg I always wondered this
We did back in the 80s and lingered a little into the 90s.
In Elementary school and because they’re the popular kids that all the other kids like the faculty blamed me and asked me what I could do different to stop being bullied.
In my experience, no.
Kind of. At least, in the ’80s / ’90s. Though, I think the trope of schools letting star athletes do whatever they want “because we can’t lose the big game” wasn’t really a thing.
At least, in my school, the athletes tended not to be very physical when it came to bullying. Getting suspended for fighting would mean missing a game (even if the suspension didn’t fall on game day) and the more important they were to the team, the more the team would have been screwed over by their suspension. And since many of them were trying to get college scholarships, the amusement of stuffing someone into a locker wasn’t worth it.
Kids who had nothing to lose were the worst bullies. The ones who had nothing going for them in school, and whose parents didn’t care if they got suspended (or who didn’t care if their parents cared).
We didn’t have bullies at our school. We had Pam. Pam was a beautiful, buff, badass native with a heart of gold. Pam does not tolerate bullies. She put an end to it before it started, and NOBODY crossed Pam. That was in the 80’s and we still love Pam. She is just the most beautiful spirit.
I didn’t think things like that happened in real life high school, thanks to her. I wish everyone had a Pam.
In the 70s/80s, Seems like there were always one or two kids who were hateful. With girls, it seemed like mental abuse, nasty gossip, mean pranks meant to embarrass a person. It was seldom bad enough to warrant an adult’s intervention.
It was just enough to make me hate school during that period. Even with the good friends I had there, I dreaded going. There were no confrontations in the halls or physical fights. That’s kind of Hollywood. The ones bullying were doing it for their friends, or for attention. But they usually left an “out,” a way to say it was a misunderstanding or they were just teasing or it was a joke. The group who harassed me for a bit had a leader and a pair of followers. Nice girls, got on well with teachers, good families, involved in a number of activities, but nasty bitches when they thought no one was watching. And very smug about how hilarious they were. Not. Oddly, my life was very similar to theirs. No real differences. Except that I wouldn’t have dreamed of mistreating people that way.
Back in the late 1990’s we had one at the high school I went to. He did get suspended multiple times.
Cameras weren’t all over like they are now. He would have to get caught in order to get in trouble. He didn’t always get caught.
Hollywood almost never depicts high school realistically. Everything is over the top.
100% yes. And it’s often even worse than you see in movies, which are kind of toned down. It can get really nasty. Far more than just stealing lunch. What I saw in the mid 90s was full on sexual assault. But by father had even worse stories from the 50s.
I saw some things like kids getting put in a trash can and pushed down a hill
It wasn’t really a stereotype, just some asshole
Bullying used to be that way, in part because would-be bullies saw the example in pop culture and followed suit. 20 years ago it was more like the bullying in Mean Girls. Now much the bullying doesn’t even happen on school grounds, but rather online. That’s a bad thing if we’re keeping score, since at least with shoving people into lockers or writing burn books, schools can actually do something to discipline students. There’s much less that can be done now.
Early 90s here. The drumline in our HS band stuffed a kid in one of the bass drums and rolled it down a very short/small hill. Kid was fine and took it like a hazing. What other choice did he have? I was horrified. Band director knew. Administration knew. Nothing happened to the guys who did it.
Like I can forgive that haha, but it really was a different time lol.
That might have happened in the past, but there’s been extreme, zero tolerance, anti-bullying campaigns for a long time.