I just had sex with someone I met online and I feel so DIGUSTING. That’s on me tho I shouldn’t have done it with a stranger. I told him my boundaries and he crossed them . I also told him I’m not on birth control and he said he wasn’t sure if he came in me. I told him to use protection but I was too drunk to say anything. I also didn’t want to drink but he lowk forced me to get drunk. I feel disgusting and filthy. I feel so sick thinking about what happened today I want to throw up. I think this experience has ruined sex for me
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. None of what happened is your fault someone violated your boundaries, pressured you into drinking, ignored your consent, and put your safety at risk. That’s not just a mistake on your part, it’s a serious violation, and you did not deserve it. You’re not disgusting the situation was, and the person who did that to you is the one who should feel ashamed. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, sick, or confused after something like this. You’re allowed to feel whatever you’re feeling.
I’m so sorry this happened to you☹️ this should never be anyone’s first experience
with all due respect but exactly were you expectations meeting strangers online? yes, it shouldn’t have happened but this is ENTIRELY preventable.
I’m so sorry. Are you sure everything was consensual…? You mentioned being too drunk to say anything and it just makes me worry. If you need someone to talk to I’m always here. Again im sorry that happened to you
I am so sorry for you. Please don’t blame yourself. This can be considered rape. Find someone to talk to if only to get past this experience. Don’t let it dominate your feeling about sex and yourself. As said before you were violated and that is in no way, shape or form on you. It doesn’t matter it was a stranger, it can also happen when people know each other. YOU ARE NOT DISGUSTING! HE IS!
…….ummm I believe you got raped….. did you consent to any of this… if you tell a man to use a condom and he doesn’t then that is considered rape!
GO TO THE POLICE!!!!!!!
On behalf of men, I apologise for that mans disgusting behaviour. That is 100% r***.
I’m so sorry for you. Don’t blame yourself, it’s not your fault and doesn’t look it was consensual… I never experienced it in that way, but one day I went in a date with a guy I met on app and I also felt terrible after, we didn’t had sex, just messing around, but It was for sure uncomfortable. I know it’s not the same, but I imagine that is something like a thousand times worse. Did you take precautions after? Please take some medication and maybe go to a doctor to check if everything is alright.
Sorry this happened to you. 10 shots is so much. I would pass out from that.
That does not sound consensual and can be considered rape. At least you know not to do it with strangers next time. Talk to someone if you must
I can unfortunately relate to this.
I met him online and it was our first date. I think everything was going well, even after our second location. We were waiting for public transit and he kept pressuring me to take him home. I told him no multiple times, but he told me that’s what I was supposed to say. I eventually caved and said yes and brought him home.
We had sex, but I specifically remember him putting a heavy emphasis on reciprocity only after I received attention.
Afterward, I told him he could go if he wanted to and that I wasn’t offended. I really wanted him to leave and that was my one and only one night stand and I’ll never do it again.
I am sorry this happened to you. It’s so hard to be strong when you feel vulnerable. If you need to talk it out, I’m an inbox away. (36/F for clarity)
He doesn’t take the time and attention required to really satisfy you?!?!
I think this has been said several times already but what you just described is NOT the usual sexual encounter. I don’t know how you got from point A to point B with all of this but it sounds a lot like this was not consensual, especially if he kept pushing you to drink.
I can’t tell you what to do BUT you really need to talk to law enforcement about this especially if you have a way of contacting this guy. Please take the time to report him. No one will think less of you or belittle you for any this. If there is a way to defend or protect you, others will take that course.
Please believe us when we say you didn’t consent to most of what happened and you deserve better than how you were treated.
I’m sorry this happened to you. I wish I had better words of wisdom for you but it sounds like the comment section is largely in agreement.
I’ll end this on this. I didn’t noticed an age in any of this. If he provided and coerced you and you’re not old enough to legally drink, he’s in legal trouble and if you are under 18 he’s in DEEP shit if you were to report him. Take a moment to collect yourself and take the steps you need.
I’m so sorry. This was assault. Please report it if you can.
Was this guy keeping you captive? You consented to sex after being forced to smoke and drink a little less than a dozen shoots?
You were so drunk you couldn’t say anything but sober enough to remember all the details, including shoot count?
Is anal sex still not considered sex?
I’m so sorry. You are not responsible for this. It is not your fault and you are not to feel disgusted about yourself. This is not normal, and from reading your other comments it clearly appears this is rape. Take care of yourself. Talk about it to someone you trust or a good health professional. If you feel strong enough for this, you could also report him to the police, shame him, make it known. He must stop behaving like this. He is hurting people.
I haven’t seen anyone else say this, but PLEASE go and get the morning after pill. And definitely go to your local sexual health clinic for a full STI test. This isn’t to panic you, everyone should be getting tested regularly, but particularly in this instance, it’s really important!
This descriptions gives Rapey vibes. Were you under the influence of Alcohol when you gave consent?
He crossed multiple boundaries, he didn’t respect you nor what you have said, he raped you! He forced you to do things you didn’t want to like drinking alcohol, smoking, he forced himself on you, he didn’t use condom even though you requested it. Definitely report him, don’t wash yourself and go to the emergency and say you got raped, they will take samples as evidence! I am so sorry for what happened to you
Dear, you have been sexually assaulted. Get to an obgyn as soon as possible, get samples taken and get check up and report it to the police. This is no joke and you may not be his only victim. Talk to someone you trust if so and tell them what happened. Do not feel disgusted by yourself, channel your anger towards that pos, he deserves hell