Ok so I have a crush on a classmate of mine, I’ve liked him for some time now and idk if I should confess, this is the last week before Easter vacation so I thought that I could confess to him this week so that I will have time to recover if I get rejected but idk, I will give some more insight now:
So this guy is a absolute loner, he never talks to anyone and when he does it’s just random jokes basically, the only person he talks to is me, we also speak through messages quite often, anyway when I said that he was a loner I meant it he never gets up from his seat, he just stays there and listens to music, the only person that he goes to interact to is me, other than me he or ignores everybody or teases other people (like he for some reason likes to untie people’s shoelaces…like he doesn’t even say anything he just unties them laughs then moves on lol) to me so yeah since I’m the only person that he really talks to everyone is saying that he has a crush on me and stuff, this year my group of friends is literally being harassed with how often other classmates go to them to ask them if me and him are together in secret or smth…but like idk I don’t really think he likes me, like yeah I’m the only one he speaks to but maybe it’s just friendly? I don’t wanna be delulu but everyone keeps on telling me he likes me even some teachers thought that we were together so idk
So yeah should I try to confess? I’m scared that it might ruin our friendship and I really care about him as a friend, i would love to remain just friends if he rejected me but I’m scared that he might feel weirded out if he knows that I saw him that way…
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Just invite him to hang out with you and see what happens. You don’t have to confess and make it awkward.
If you think you might be interested and don’t follow up, you might always regret it, so probably worth doing something.
OTOH it does not have to be a dramatic direct confrontation. Just invite him to spend more time with you – if you find you both like spending more and more time together things will take their natural course.
Please listen. I am 40 years old. I’ve never regretted taking a chance to tell someone how I feel. Even if it’s not reciprocated, then you know for sure where you stand to that person. My regrets are for the things I could have done or said, but never did. Tell him how you feel. The worst possible outcome is he doesn’t feel the same way, and if that’s the case then you feel bad for a while and before you know it you’ve moved on with your life. Take the chance. You never know when it may come again.