On the subreddit Dating Advice, I posted about my struggles with dating and how my appearance kept holding me back. I had a girl DM and reach out to me on here. She was from the Philippines, and we ended up following each other on Instagram and started flirting. We started getting to know each other, and she called me every night. However, every time she called me, she kept insisting that she needed a man who could financially support her and buy her anything she wants. I understand that’s what a man is supposed to do, but she ghosted me when I told her I’m still working on myself and not committed to that yet. I just don’t know why, but I feel she just wanted money or was using me.
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Im not sure what you were expecting? At minimum you were going to have to fly her out
The more you put yourself out there the more of these you will get but that also increases the likelihood of something real happening. Join mixed sports teams or volunteer for charities preferably not online. Good luck
When you have the expectation that your purpose is to financially support women then I don’t know why you’d be surprised by this outcome. Your intuition about her intentions is absolutely correct but to be fair you’ve entirely labelled yourself as an easy mark.
You’re seemingly very traditional and you’re also posting on dating advice so likely insecure and vulnerable.
Even in traditional marriages the women is likely already coming from a place of financial independence and then makes the transition to stay at home as your life develops. So don’t ever maintain a relationship with someone who keeps hinting at money and “providing” because they’re just using you. It’s so transparent even you can tell when looking back after-the-fact.